Hello. I'm soon to be 19, I have a co-worker that's soon to be 21. She's about a 7 at looks, but she is intelligent, and good-hearted, and very assertive, and everything I'm looking for in a partner.
I can't really say I'm officially 'in the FZ', because we're just co-workers. We've known each other for 5 months, have a friendly relationship and work with each other on daily basis.
I don't have deep feelings for her, I just like her as a person and I figured we'd make a very good couple. She's single, and so am I obviously. What's awkward and sometimes embarrassing is, that there's one guy who works with us who constantly tries to make something between us happen. He says stuff like "look at her, she's so cute, you two would make an excellent couple, if I were you I'd go for it a long time ago" (while she's in the room). He's "the funny guy" kind of person.
Anyhow, about two weeks ago I thought I might give it a shot. I called her, nervous sounding (this was the first time I call her on a personal matter), and asked if she wanted to go out for a movie. I tried to make it sound as easy-going and friendly as possible, but she'd have to be deaf not to hear that I'm stressed. In response, she said "Oh you wanna go to a movie?!", in a surprised-yet-happy or positively-surprised kind of tone. I responded "Yup." "When do you wanna go then?" "Sometime soon" (I know it was a mistake and I should've just said something like "tomorrow" or "now", but I was really nervous at that point). "Okay no problem , we'll talk later!" "OK, bye!"
Important detail: about two days before I called her, she found out that in a month she'd have to take a polygraph test. It's very complicated, just don't ask, it's irrelevant. What's relevant is, it made her stressed, depressed and even more moody than she already is.
The day after that phone call, nothing was mentioned. She was in a bad mood, but I had one chance before she went home. I asked if she wants to see the movie today, and she was like "Today..IDK", while exiting the room.
When she suddenly became depressed, she walked slouch. When she suddenly became angry, she started walking very stiffly and closing doors with more force than needed. And when she just forgot about the poly, she returned to normal. In the scene mentioned above, she was angry.
Anyways, once she had a chance to calm down a bit (it was just a day after what happened in the previous paragraph, she was back in the 'normal' mood), I had a normal conversation with her, and than I brought up the movie.
"So what about we watch RED 2?"
"Actually I didn't really like the first movie, and I don't wanna watch the second."
"Is there anything else you've planned on watching?"
"Nah, there aren't any really good movies I'd like to watch now"
"I just want you to relax a bit, so you'd be thinking of other things rather than that test you need to take".
"It's fine, my friends are making sure that I relax a lot."
And she changed the subject smoothly.
This had me confused. She wanted to go to the movies on the phone, but on real life she's kind of dodging it? Or maybe am I just over-thinking this, and she honestly just doesn't want to go to the movies?
Lastly:
As mentioned, that was two weeks ago. I still wanna go out on a date with her, just to see if we'd work on a level deeper than work. Worse case scenario - we just stay friends. Please give me some advice. What should I do next?
P.S. she's flying out of the county for a week long vacation on Sunday, and on Tuesday I'm having a little surgery so I won't come to work for about two weeks. Meaning is I have a last chance to make a move tomorrow or overmorrow, or I won't see her for two weeks and our relationship will become a little more distant. On the other hand, maybe that's a good thing? I'll wait for a reply from the experts here
.Thanks!