Hey Guys,
It's me, Kevin! Just wanna thank you guys so far! I'm learning a lot, but I have a huge problem when trying to attract women and make new friends. Can you help me? Sorry if it's a little long, but if you could reply, then that would be great!
Here's my question:
When I look back a kid, I was a really shy kid growing up. My parents were strict, and didn't give me much freedom. My parents used to beat me as a child (and they still do now) with a belt and a hard, wooden stick, and one time my mom gave me a swirly (not lying
)! As a kid, I liked to draw, and although I was short, I was decently good looking and athletic, and I mostly talked to my two closest friends at the time. Since middle school, I had tons of problems with girls! In 7th grade, I suffered a brutal rejection that the entire class knew about. This was the first time I told a girl I liked her, and it lead to me getting made fun of a lot for everything i do, and caused me to question if i would become alone for the rest of my life. I got picked on a lot, and this was the year I really began hiding in my shell. In 8th grade, I got made fun of for being the shortest boy in the 8th grade (5'0 at the time), so I hid my feelings. In high school, I got taller overtime, but I still was shy around girls/ new people. I played football in high school, but wasn't a superstar, so i didn't get noticed. I asked girls to proms and school dances during my years, but i always got beaten by a "better man". i had trouble getting a prom date, and in the end, although she was cute, my date used me just to hang out w/ her friends. By the end of high school, I felt like all the bonds I made w/ my friends at the time were broken... I'm gonna be a sophomore in college right now, and freshman year, I used to play football, but I was a benchwarmer, so I'm practically invisible around girls, unlike my other teammates. I commute at home (because of mom and dad), so I don't have much chances to talk to girls around campus. I also don't have a car, so I have to get picked up by my parents. I try to say hi to girls, but I usually don't know what to say around them, plus my friends from the football team gave me the usual "girls won't talk to me until I become more popular". My confidence around women went down the tanks. I'm good looking, 5'9, pretty in shape/muscular built, smart, and have very good grades, but I don't know how to communicate to new people, especially girls, cuz girls have higher social expectations than guys. I also got cut from the football team during spring camp because the coach wanted a smaller roster, and I was terrible compared to the other runningbacks, especially the 3 time all american Nate Bradford (not his real name for privacy reasons), and becoming a football star was my only chance to attract women on campus. Also, now that I am no longer on the football team, the connections I made with my former teammates (weak connections) will be completly severed. If I was a loner with the football team as my only acquaintances, how will I make friends now? I spent my entire freshman year alone in a corner in the cafe' or in the library praying that a nice, friendly girl would approach me and like me for who I am, but of course it didn't happen.... I was a complete loner, and I worry sometimes that I won't fix my social skills. Sometimes, I think about killing myself by jumping off the bridge that's near my campus!!! I'm a total AFC so far!!!
So here's my question. How to I talk to girls so that they find me interesting/ want to go out with me? How do I improve my social skills? I really need you guys' help right now!! Your my only support system in my life right now because I have no one else to turn to. Thank you for everything you have done so far! I am starting to get better, I took the first step an found a reliable support system, but this problem is why I'm here today. And thank you for reading this!
BTW, I have a poll question for you guys!!!
