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| Author: | bokcan [ Thu Jul 11, 2013 3:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to make up for it after pushing her too much |
I am just some guy who got some game and got some moves. I am generally successful on getting the dates, playing natural. But when it comes to relationships, I have one big problem: pushing her too much. As a matter of fact, I do not like "so-close" relationships. I maybe do not want mean an open relationship, but it is better being free people away from each other, especially when we are in a group or in other life situations. What I like is spending time together, in a part of my life. My relationship started 2 months ago. First she was very impressed on my thoughts on relationships. I was making her happy and she felt free. Then it started. I started pushing her too much. They were basically stupid reasons, but some include; *When she called me we are not "lovers" I opposed her saying that this is not right, and I shown signs of discomfort. Later on, 3 weeks later, she called me her boyfriend first time, with her will, but she was always unhappy with that. *When she said she is going out with 2 of her girlfriends, it was OK. But then I wanted to see her for a few minutes, and she shown me signs of "not come". We fought over this. *After a discussion, I asked her to hold my hand. She did not want to. I insisted and she then held. But later on she told me she was very annoyed by that move. *Once I invited her outside the bar when she was with her friends, but she did not want to come. I insisted on that one as well. Another fight. These fights were getting harder and harder. I feel that each time I am changing the way I behave, because I do not want to behave like this. But she did not believe that we are getting better. I feel like I want to be a person who does not push like this. I felt uncomfortable with my actions. She loves me and I feel that. But she also says that she was giving more to this relationship than she is taking. We talked on the phone and finally broke up with message 2 days ago. We have spoken on phone today. She said she just wanted to "close that book". She said she is happy for everything we lived, she respects me and will remember everything good. I said I believe two things. 1- We still love each other and it will take some time to forget. I said it was more than a 2 months relationship. 2- If we ever try it again, it will be easier. She said that no one can know. She also said she does not believe me anymore. Right now, I am confused. Confused of two things. 1- I do not know if we can be together at all. I will not call her, and expect her to come back to me sometime maybe, but I am not sure about waiting. What do I need to do? 2- Was I wrong and can I correct myself somehow. I felt really bad for what I did. I felt we were getting better, but was I right? So, thats it. All kinds of advises and comments are welcomed. Be cool. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jul 11, 2013 3:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to make up for it after pushing her too much |
Quote: Right now, I am confused. Confused of two things.
Lets see if we can un-confuse you a little.You were Clingy & Needy as fuck Bro. To girls clingy guys are like Wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking! Quote: 1- I do not know if we can be together at all. I will not call her, and expect her to come back to me sometime maybe, but I am not sure about waiting. What do I need to do?
What you need, and should do is move on. Quote: She said she just wanted to "close that book".
This paints a clear picture, translated it means- Fuck off!Quote: Was I wrong and can I correct myself somehow.
To be needy is a guy who needs attention no matter what the cost. A person that doesn't have much confidence and will force the living shit out of some poor girl just for a little attention. They are always suspicious, aggravating and generally become an AFC.Quote: *When she called me we are not "lovers" I opposed her saying that this is not right, and I shown signs of discomfort. Later on, 3 weeks later, she called me her boyfriend first time, with her will, but she was always unhappy with that.
This is all you, trying to FORCE ATTENTION out of her. Don't do that.*When she said she is going out with 2 of her girlfriends, it was OK. But then I wanted to see her for a few minutes, and she shown me signs of "not come". We fought over this. *After a discussion, I asked her to hold my hand. She did not want to. I insisted and she then held. But later on she told me she was very annoyed by that move. *Once I invited her outside the bar when she was with her friends, but she did not want to come. I insisted on that one as well. Another fight. You can't force people to like you through coercion. I'm guessing you didn't act like this to attract her in the beginning, why the fuck would you think that's a good way to keep her attracted? Learn from this practical experience, and re-evaluate your confidence, and self esteem. |
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