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Author:  Dilla [ Wed Jul 03, 2013 6:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Approach anxiety and anxiety in general
Hey there.

19 year old, so night game is my focus...college student.

I feel my biggest obstacle is approaching women in clubs...like I'll have it set in my mind prior to the club that "you've got to approach tonight" etc. but I always freeze or something when the chance arises. The most of my pulls come on the dance floor where I basically dance around everybody and then watch for any keen looks etc. and make my move. I'm not interested in numbers because they mean nothing to me, and mean nothing to girls where I live. Handing out numbers is nothing here...k-close and above are where it's at.

But yeah to my point, I always struggle to approach stranger girls...like girls I know it's easy understandably but there's something holding me back. I'd consider myself pretty confident as does everyone who knows me...I'm intelligent, got a good sense of humour (making girls laugh is pretty easy) but I feel I appear very uptight and nervous in game....How can I get it into my head that I'm ready and good enough to approach? I know the obvious answer is practice and experience but some nights I could talk and approach anyone and other nights it's the complete opposite...is it all just a mental state issue?

Also I struggle with conversation topics...I genuinely hate small talk crap that you hear 85% ot the time but I still struggle to discuss anything with strangers. What are some topics that really have an effect on women?

I'm also in favour of natural game...I don't detest routines etc., I think some are great and are always in my mind but I'm in favour of natural game...

Thanks for any advice!
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Jul 03, 2013 6:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach anxiety and anxiety in general
Natural is always the way to go man!

But just as you're game is natural; conquering your anxiety will have to be natural as well. There is no magic pill thats is just going to make this better instantly; you already know the answer. You have to get out there and just keep giving it all you got.

What you will notice with enough practice is your highs and lows will both begin to increase. I'm at the point now where on a good night I'll grab 20 numbers, kiss half of them and take one or two home. On a bad night, I'll grab 10 numbers, kiss one or two, and maybe just maybe pull a girl home.

Just begin to rethink what you think having a good night and having a badnight is. Raise your standard and your life will begin to raise to the height of it.
Author:  Dilla [ Wed Jul 03, 2013 6:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach anxiety and anxiety in general
Thanks for the reply man!

Good advice. I like the last part especially...I'll definitely remember that. I'm willing to do this thing in baby steps as I feel I'm still very young and raw and I'm at a time where I can reinvent and rebuild myself efficiently...I definitely want to build a strong and attractive image and life for myself so that I'll be confident and respected...I think I'm incredibly self-conscious and it's very easy for me to go from one extreme to the other...

Thanks again, nice to see you've incredible success with natural game :P
Author:  GKS [ Thu Jul 04, 2013 1:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach anxiety and anxiety in general
If you think approaching a chick in the club is hard, try day game. One trick for club game is that it is packed and people always bump into each other, when a girl bump into you just smirk and say "You know... you don't have to pretend to bump into me to talk to me.... just say hi" or tease her or give her shit about it, either way it works. If no one bumps into you, pick the hottest girl in the club and bump into her, then say the same thing. Be fun about it!
Author:  Dilla [ Thu Jul 04, 2013 3:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach anxiety and anxiety in general
I'd like to focus on night game for the next while and then progress to day game but thanks for the thought!

Ah that's a nice natural line :P Cheers, I'll try that out!

Thanks
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