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Author:  Dariron [ Mon Jul 01, 2013 8:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Sociofobic girl and past
Hey, I have some sort of problem. When I was in elementary school I met girl, and back then I was quite.. Nervous. After few years I met her again, she grown into 8,5 but she still remember me as a child. That's the first problem, how to erase past from her. Second problem is that she became sociofobic, she barely moves from her house, don't speak to many people, and because of that I have problem with approach. I tried to met her "accidentally" in bus, but that's impossible, and making effort into going to her house puts me in disadvantage (I think). What can I do, take a number and what then? Use wing to arrange meeting or call personally. I'm asking because you have more experience, and maybe someone had girl of that type.
Author:  Psydaddy [ Tue Jul 02, 2013 12:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Sociofobic girl and past
This girl has a problem and you admitted it. Also you kinda feel sad about her, so i believe that you are more about to trying to help her than actually like her, i don't know, i might be wrong but make sure that you are not mixing your feelings.
Well if she doesn't leave home, and if she "hates people", then i guess you'll not be able to get what you want... by this, i totally recommend you to move on!

About the "erasing the past" thing, i know what you can do but i don't know if this girl is safe for you, well it's up to you, if you want to know just ask ... but make sure that you want to be part of this girl's life, a girl with some psychological problems...

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[EDIT]
Well, before i forget this thread and you might need this: "Just say to her something like: Oh you remember when we were kids, i was so shy and quiet ... i would like to be young again, like when i was 15, but knowing what i know today.. well at least i wouldn't be so shy ^^"
Tip: Take what you were and express it, make a transaction from the past to the future, give value to yourself in the actual future (value that you didn't have in the past). - This is what i call of replacing old thoughts for new ones.
Once you did this, change topics and avoid to talk about childhood ever again, but if she brings the theme, just make sure that you decrease your past value like: "Oh but we were so cute and ingenue", and then change topics.

But see if she's what you are searching for :) best of luck
Author:  Dariron [ Tue Jul 02, 2013 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Sociofobic girl and past
Yes, she has problems, and those problems are serious. I don't want to hurt her later on, and I don't want to be friendzoned either. That's why I asked here. About mixing my feeling, I won't mix them. I don't want just to bang her, because I don't want to destroy rest of her life. I want to give her a new begin, with me as a part of it. About if she's safe for me, don't worry. I'll manage :)
About Edit: thank you for this tip, it's very useful :)
But I have another question. How to do approach. Do I have arrange meeting and accidentally appear on it, or just personally go into her house, and take her out?
Author:  Psydaddy [ Tue Jul 02, 2013 7:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Sociofobic girl and past
Do you text her, or you talk via facebook or any other way? Tell me what it is.
But i have to tell you that ain't be easy.
Author:  Dariron [ Tue Jul 02, 2013 8:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Sociofobic girl and past
She completly isolated herself from society, so she doesn't have facebook, I'm trying to use common friends to have her number. And I know it's gonna be hard, but the hell with that, I'm not giving up so easly
Author:  Psydaddy [ Tue Jul 02, 2013 9:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Sociofobic girl and past
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She completly isolated herself from society, so she doesn't have facebook, I'm trying to use common friends to have her number. And I know it's gonna be hard, but the hell with that, I'm not giving up so easly
Well logistics are not in your favour...
And now that you've clarified that, what you are about to do seams stalking to me, so i'm not sure if you should do that.
Don't try to go to her house, never do that until she knows you and let you do that!!
About the friends thing, well you can effort to reach them all, but they will not give you her number for no reason, i don't give my mates numbers to people just because they are asking me to give them.

Tell me one thing, that bus thing, you saw her there? Or she didn't appear?
You can do it again, but this time go and talk to her, like if you already know her.

And please, don't do this over and over again, if you do this and she saws you, you have to go there, talk to her and get her number \ facebook.

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Oh btw, are you able to find her on facebook? Did you search already for her name? See if you can find her, if you do, then don't do the bus thing. Add her and talk with her by facebook.
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