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| Author: | 90Brownie [ Fri Jun 28, 2013 4:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Same Routine Everday |
Good day everyone, so last night I came to the realization that I pretty much do the same thing everyday and it's really starting to bore the hell out of me! I live in an area where the main place to be is at the beach strip where the girls are usually at. However the strip is about 30 mins from my house and the place is swarming with cops looking to give out DUI's so it's kind of sketch for me to be down there drinking (you also CANT leave your car overnight in any lots or else they tow/ticket you). Anyways, I tend to stick closer to home and go to the bars around the way...only problem is there are rarely any girls, just mostly older folks. My friends aren't the best either, they usually try and get hammered before the sun goes down and then they call it a night. Also, I work at a restaurant so I never really have weekends to go out and enjoy myself...plus i usually smell and feel gross when I get off so I just go home and shower and stay to myself. How should I break out of this rut that I'm in!!?!? |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri Jun 28, 2013 4:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Same Routine Everday |
Dude, you just made a bunch of excuses for why you can't just be a man an better yourself. What do you want? Some magic pill thats going to make you snap out of it? You'll be better off bumping your own head. Fuck feeling gross; go to the beach and talk to girls while your smelly and gross. The chances are the male pheromones will turn them on anyway. Stop crying bro and do something about it. |
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| Author: | 90Brownie [ Fri Jun 28, 2013 4:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Same Routine Everday |
Quote: Dude,
Yea I feel you bro...I don't mean to sound like I'm crying. It's more about how they don't make it easy for you to enjoy yourself when you go out. I would love to go down there and not have to worry about getting a DUI or towed etc...and yea I realize there is no magic pill but getting advice from some others would be nice is all.
you just made a bunch of excuses for why you can't just be a man an better yourself. What do you want? Some magic pill thats going to make you snap out of it? You'll be better off bumping your own head. Fuck feeling gross; go to the beach and talk to girls while your smelly and gross. The chances are the male pheromones will turn them on anyway. Stop crying bro and do something about it. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Fri Jun 28, 2013 5:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Same Routine Everday |
Quote: Good day everyone, so last night I came to the realization that I pretty much do the same thing everyday and it's really starting to bore the hell out of me! I live in an area where the main place to be is at the beach strip where the girls are usually at. However the strip is about 30 mins from my house and the place is swarming with cops looking to give out DUI's so it's kind of sketch for me to be down there drinking (you also CANT leave your car overnight in any lots or else they tow/ticket you). Anyways, I tend to stick closer to home and go to the bars around the way...only problem is there are rarely any girls, just mostly older folks. My friends aren't the best either, they usually try and get hammered before the sun goes down and then they call it a night. Also, I work at a restaurant so I never really have weekends to go out and enjoy myself...plus i usually smell and feel gross when I get off so I just go home and shower and stay to myself. How should I break out of this rut that I'm in!!?!?
Here's what you need to do... Admit you suck. Tell yourself "My life sucks. It's mediocre. And I want more! BECAUSE I AM NOT CONTENT WITH MEDIOCRITY." Personally, I look at someone who has an average or mediocre as failure. Alot of my old friends are like this... They still live in their hometown, went to college cause they were told to, got some menial 40-50k a year job, (maybe more in some cases but whatever... Money isn't real.) wifed down the first girl they found, had a kid, and now they are pretty much just waiting until they die. Stuck in auto pilot, doing the same thing over and over again because they have now achieved what their ideal (or what they are telling themselves is ideal) level of comfort. They will start to say things like "well I don't need this" or "i don't want that car..." WHY? WHY THE FUCK NOT? Why not want more for yourself? If you say you don't want more for yourself, you are telling yourself a lie that you are content with what you have because you are afraid of failing. You were only able to blend into a world that you were made to stand out of. You failed to make anything special of yourself. Before I continue, I want you to know I'm not trying to bash you at all... I just want you to give you that "moment of clarity." I assume that I am talking to someone who wants more than mediocrity. You hit your first step. You are realizing your situation is not your ideal one. However, you are in a comfort zone. You live in a decent place, you have a job to keep the gas and electricity on and support yourself. Your next step is to now take action... Okay, we will take for example... Where you live... You don't like your current location? Move. That's a pretty simple step. Maybe not one you take instantaneously (obviously there is legal stuff to do whether you rent or own.) but start figuring out where you want to move, how you are going to do it, have a basic plan of action and then execute. Figure the next step out when you get there.. Adjust your plan of action accordingly. Bad area? Move again. Don't like the people? Move again. By learning pick-up, you have decided to create a whole new life for yourself. A redefined version of you. Once you do that once, it's easy to do it again. I've had guys tell me "Well I don't want to pack up and move and start a new life!" Why? Are you scared of what MIGHT HAPPEN? You have realized you don't like your current life. Snap the fuck out of your comfort zone, traumatize yourself, push yourself into new experiences and fucking do it. Just like pick-up, you can not determine the outcome of what is going to happen. You can make predictions.. But until you DO IT, you will never actually KNOW what could happen. You will just make excuses as to why you "can't do it." Okay, next... Your friends. If you don't like your friends... Make new ones. Don't let them determine the lifestyle that you are living. You determine the lifestyle you are living. Make BETTER friends. People who will bring VALUE to your life and help get you to that next step... This may sound very cruel but you will realize it's quite a true statement... Any relationship you have with any one of your given friends, you keep that person around and that relationship alive because they somehow supply value to your life. Simple example... Bored? Call Steve. Want to drink? Call Alex. Play video games? Call Brian... You see what I'm saying? Each of your friends provides some type of value to you... If the friends you have are no longer providing value to your life because you want more than a boring life, sitting around drinking and playing video games... You have 2 options, either stick with them. Lower your amount of value that you are able to provide to theirs. Or... find new friends in hopes that your old friends will see how much more value you are able to provide now having new friends in your life and want to build a better life for themselves along with you. I've been doing this whole PUA thing for almost 5 years now. Once I grasped that concept of value in relationships, I started to realize that I was wasting my time on quite a few people. These people are no longer friends. They have been phased out of my life. My friends now are some great fucking people that motivate me to become more. Lastly.. Your job. You have a job that you are "comfortable with." It provides everything you need and you become "comfortable" and begin to lie to yourself as to why you "don't need more" and are content with whatever you have.(trust me bro, been there before) Again, relating this to pick up... You can get one girl who is a 6 and who is kinda nice... Or you can pull a 10 who's gonna cook, clean, and do your laundry. YOU WANT THE BEST! Now, we are comfortable talking to the 6 because that is what we feel the most "at ease" around. How do we get that 10? Again by BREAKING THE FUCK OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE and seeing what happens when you talk to her. If you win, cool. If not, I'll bet you learned something. This is how you get to a point where you will love what you are doing and be so damn proud of yourself that you atleast TRIED IT. So here bro, I challenge you to do something... Break out of your comfort zone. Move away from your current location, get new friends, find a new job... Create the life for yourself that YOU want. The road to success is a long, narrow road that you will fall off some times and will require course adjustments. (same thing applies to pick up) but there is always the light at the end of the tunnel and if you stay focused, you will get there. Hope this makes sense bro, -Majik |
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| Author: | 90Brownie [ Fri Jun 28, 2013 6:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Same Routine Everday |
Wow thank you for that "Moment of Clarity" Majik! You pretty much hit the nail on the head...I am not happy living a mediocre life and I want more out of it. I agree with making the changes you said but I know it will take some time...I'm trying to save up so I can eventually move out on my own but I know it won't happen overnight. As for my friends...anytime I go out I try and be as social as possible because you never know who you're gonna meet but this too will take some time. Thanks again! |
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