So here's a hypothetical situation for you guys.
Let's say I'm a 23 year old guy who is struggling to meet the type of women I find truly attractive. So instead I settle for banging overweight girls and girls who aren't anything more than a 5 or 6 on the looks scale. And, by a stroke of bad luck and even worse judgment, I get one of them pregnant. The little girl is born, and a DNA test confirms the child is mine. I decide to be the best father I can be although I want nothing to do with the mother. Is this a death sentence for my already struggling game? Or could it be a boon?
My initial thought is that this will really hurt my chances of meeting good looking women, whether I want to bang them or enter a relationship. I do a lot of online dating and many women put in their profile specifically "NO KIDS!" It's a huge red flag that there's drama involved, and it's a load of responsibility. Unless these women were truly desperate, why would they choose me when there's a slew of childless guys wanting their attention.
As for meeting women out in public, I could always just not tell them about my child. But if it is something I want to pursue seriously I can't hide it forever. And I don't want to look back and say I was ashamed to say I'm a father.
But I'm also looking at it with a positive spin. Maybe it could help me, and give me a bit of an edge. I mean, women say that they don't want guys who are abusive / alcoholic / have drug problems / whatever but that's usually because they always end up dating that type. Maybe that little bit of adversity drives them? I think the biggest problem will be getting that initial interest. Once they meet me and decide they like me, they won't back out because I have a kid. They'll back out because of the same reasons beautiful women turned me down before (they may just use the kid as a convenient excuse).
I often ask women about this sort of thing just to judge how they react. They usually say "No, I don't think I could date someone with kids," or "maybe if I really liked him" but I've had a few really shallow (and beautiful) women tell me "well if he has a cute daughter or something it might honestly help his chances. I love babies!"
Could pushing an adorable baby girl around the mall in a stroller be a good conversation starter? A natural icebreaker?
I would love to hear your thoughts. Especially if there are any young single dads out there who have done it themselves.
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