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| Author: | Pikeman85 [ Thu Jun 13, 2013 9:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Pretty sure I messed up here |
I've been hanging out with this girl about once a week for the past few weeks. Met her less than a week after breaking up with my ex. I've sorta been monogamous for about 3-4 months so I'm a little rusty. We went out for drinks and dinner, got along. Eventually I started making out with her. She seemed really nervous about this at first. Went on about everyone trying to get in her pants. I slowed down, stopped. We went back to her car, she started kissing me (said she was appreciative I had stopped earlier). She seemed very conflicted. We went back to my apt. I got her into my bedroom. I was making out with her on my bed, kept trying to escalate further, she kept pushing my hands away. Eventually said she had to go. Seemed eager to hang out again. Kept opening me on text. We went out again, had fun, got dinner and drinks. She got drunk. At this point, she's tripping and stuff, so I suggest we go back to my place for a little bit, and hang out and she can come back when she's sober. It's about 11 PM at that point, so still early. As we're walking, she starts saying that she'll be, "very angry if I have sex with her", and that she only wants to be friends. Looking back, I think these were tests that I failed - but she's a cousin of a close friend of mine, so I'm being overly cautious. She tells me that she thinks I'm really hot, but that she's only kissing me to make me happy. I'm very confused at this point. We get back to my place, she puts on a movie, I watch, we cuddle. It was REALLY hot and I fell asleep. I'm pretty sure at one point she wanted me to start escalating, as she was playing with my happy trail. Stupid me. I have been exhausted for the past two weeks though. Anyway, I fall asleep for like 2 hours, she leaves. She makes sure to kiss me at the end of the night. We have plans for the next weekend, we go on a road trip. She's doing some physical escalation, I don't do much because I'm a little weirded out and not really sure what she's intending at this point. I can't tell if she's attracted or not. She specifically says at one point she's not trying to be attractive to me. But still escalating, and acting like it's a date at points, and acting like it isn't at others. Anyway, I drop her off, and that's that for our meetings so far. We've got one planned for tonight, too. She responds to just about every text I send, and we also do snapchat. She typically sends me a lot of "selfies". Sometimes unprompted. Now I'm not really showing leadership here - which I should be. I'm thinking there's some attraction there, but poor strategy has not worked out in my favor. Also it seems like she has some odd hang-ups. What's the situation here? Have I screwed up strongly? She's still hanging out, and seems to want to continue that arrangement. When I snapchatted her a picture of the zoo (I live right next to it), she responded with, "You better not be going without me!" So is she just waiting for me to man up more? Is she less attracted now ("sees me as a friend?") - it's not really a big deal either way - I'd actually be somewhat excited if that was the case. I've never had a girl only see me as a friend! That being said, she seems relatively cool, and she's cute, so I wouldn't mind screwing around with her either. |
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| Author: | LEPRECHAUN [ Sun Jun 16, 2013 6:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Pretty sure I messed up here |
Friend zone her. Tell her that you just wanna be friends. Nothing more, nothing less. See what her reaction is. Or you can tell her that you're not ready for a relationship, it's too soon after your breakup. |
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| Author: | detox75 [ Sun Jun 16, 2013 7:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Pretty sure I messed up here |
Yes you acted too timidly and failed her shit tests, and now your pussyfooting about. Next time dont buy in to her frame, push your own agenda and have her conform to you. |
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| Author: | Pikeman85 [ Fri Jun 21, 2013 4:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Pretty sure I messed up here |
Totally right guys (through testing, I've confirmed that this was it). I was off because of the recent break-up and the my having dated her cousin and the fact that she fucking cried on the first date. So it goes. When we did hang out, the night of the OP I made, she said "I don't see this as working out" - and I was like "Cool!" and did my thing, which is immediately start hitting on and hanging out with other girls. She seems to be bothered by it - she's opening me on snapchat, and seemed upset with the fact that I was out with other people at the spot of our first date (even though I go there all the time). I'm honestly actually excited about this. I haven't been friendzoned IN YEARS. She also doesn't seem to entirely realize what type of guy I am. The potential for mindfuckery (not to hurt her, but for a fun sort of, "WAIT, HE'S GETTING HOTTER GIRLS IN FRONT OF ME AND DOESN'T CARE WHAT I THINK?!!?!") seems HUGE here. Also, it gives me a perfect reason to be able to get her to invite her (hotter) best friend out and hit on her. This should be fun. |
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