Hi guys,

Here's my story. Wondering if anyone can spot any idea as to what's up/what went wrong.

Went out Thursday night to a club, approached a few 7's with success, but wasn't in a hurry to close as it was fairly early.

An 8 came to the bar, so I started talking to her. My friend winged her friend so I managed to isolate her early. Played around with a few negs and got on really well with her. Her friend and my friend both moved to see some other people so I went with my 8 to a corner to properly isolate.

Again, we were getting on really well, I kept the negs going. I got enough IOIs. She asked my name, she started holding my hand, she told me to 'add her on facebook', which I laughed at and said 'is that how you really contact everyone?' at which point she asked for my phone so she could put in her number. Then she rang her phone from mine, so she had my number.

After about 45 mins of talking/banter, I tried to kiss her. She went in but then backed away last minute saying 'I can't, I've just got out of a long term relationship'. In order to not be whiney, I said 'it's fine' and shrugged it off. We went and danced, and I went in for a kiss again. Same result. She even told me her friends were making fun of her because when she got in the bar, she had pointed me out and said I was good looking. They had teased her that she should approach me! We danced a bit more, found her friends, then she had to go. As they were leaving, she said make sure you text me on Saturday and we'll go out. I kissed her on the cheek and she left. Her friend even came over and said 'text her on Saturday, see you then'.

Saturday afternoon. I text, with good game, saying her nickname, mentioned how painful work was with a hangover, and asking how the rest of Thursday was. No response. At all. Checked SPAM and she was on and offline every hour or so.

Sunday (today). Still no response. I messaged on SPAM, got an instant reply, joked about Thursday night, then asked how Saturday was. No response for a few hours.

What gives?

Hi guys,

Here's my story. Wondering if anyone can spot any idea as to what's up/what went wrong.

Went out Thursday night to a club, approached a few 7's with success, but wasn't in a hurry to close as it was fairly early.

An 8 came to the bar, so I started talking to her. My friend winged her friend so I managed to isolate her early. Played around with a few negs and got on really well with her. Her friend and my friend both moved to see some other people so I went with my 8 to a corner to properly isolate.

Again, we were getting on really well, I kept the negs going. I got enough IOIs. She asked my name, she started holding my hand, she told me to 'add her on facebook', which I laughed at and said 'is that how you really contact everyone?' at which point she asked for my phone so she could put in her number. Then she rang her phone from mine, so she had my number.

After about 45 mins of talking/banter, I tried to kiss her. She went in but then backed away last minute saying 'I can't, I've just got out of a long term relationship'. In order to not be whiney, I said 'it's fine' and shrugged it off. We went and danced, and I went in for a kiss again. Same result. She even told me her friends were making fun of her because when she got in the bar, she had pointed me out and said I was good looking. They had teased her that she should approach me! We danced a bit more, found her friends, then she had to go. As they were leaving, she said make sure you text me on Saturday and we'll go out. I kissed her on the cheek and she left. Her friend even came over and said 'text her on Saturday, see you then'.

Saturday afternoon. I text, with good game, saying her nickname, mentioned how painful work was with a hangover, and asking how the rest of Thursday was. No response. At all. Checked SPAM and she was on and offline every hour or so.

Sunday (today). Still no response. I messaged on SPAM, got an instant reply, joked about Thursday night, then asked how Saturday was. No response for a few hours.

What gives?

Here's my opinion...

1. You didn't qualify her.

2. You didn't escalate kino properly before you tried to kiss her. Avoid those "big moments."

3. You didn't establish enough comfort and find some common ground to seed a date with her besides going out to a bar again. Granted, it is usually loud in clubs so you can't build comfort easily through talking. Had you escalated kino properly and actually made it seem like "it just happened" when you kissed her, there may have been enough comfort established and she would have been emotionally invested in you enough to actually respond.