PUA Forum :: Trying to attract this girl

Here's a few things you did wrong:

1. Pre-selection should be subtle and unspoken. Otherwise, it just feels like bragging. You kept mentioning about other girls. First it was your ex, then it was the actress you dated. And if you haven't noticed, she lost interest and bailed after that.

2. Bantering is fun and good but there's a time and place for it. It should be used to open and create some comfort. However, in your case, you dragged out the bantering too long. Hence, it becomes pointless because you guys didn't make any personal and emotional connection. Should have stopped at the "deleting Zelda save files" part and create some attraction with deeper conversation or qualifying.

3. Pick a theme and stick to it. Your bantering was all over the place and you moved from one to another without any flow. Noticed, her responses might be fun but they were nothing but lol and autopilot. She didn't connect with you on personal level.

4. You remind me of my last gf, girls who play games are awesome. I have no idea what you were baiting here. It was a pure compliment. What would you expect she to say? "haha thanks!" or "I know!"? This could have been better with a qualifier and a push and pull.

For EX: I gotta admit, girls that play games are awesome. But I'd hate to be stuck on the couch playing video games all day though. What do you do for fun beside video games?

5. Remember to message to date or number close, text to sext. Every message or text you send should work towards the goal to land a date or a f-close. If they don't contribute to the end result, do not send it. Sometimes less is better.

How do you fix this?
- Engage her emotionally. Show a genuine interest in getting to know her rather than bantering nonsense.
- Try to anticipate their responses so you can make better judgement on what your next move should be. For EX, "you're an awesome chick!" If you end your response like that, you know what she's gonna say next. It leads nowhere so why would you leave it like that?
-Be more decisive and aggressive, it's online dating. Girls are busy, girls are swarmed with dozens message a day, girls are bothered by hundred other guys. Grab your chance while you can. The fact she was busy was a perfect excuse for you to number close. But you didn't.

Author:	Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri May 31, 2013 1:12 am ]
Post subject:	Trying to attract this girl - help!
So I been talking with this girl online and she at first wouldn't talk to me but I broke through that - now she even liked my Instagram pic (not saying that matters - I'm just giving you an idea of her psychology, I don't want u guys to give me hear for saying that lol) but I like this girl so when I talk to her I don't act the way I usually act with girls. I think maybe she's attracted than I messed up - or maybe I did good I can't tell so I'd like you're guys opinion on everything. Me: Hi, I'm msg'ing you abt ur Craigslist add - how much are you selling your N64 for (she plays video games a lot. I'm just being random.) Her: ?? Me: She don't know I'm picking on her, poor thing xD Her: Ohhhh I get it now Me: Steals n64 and runs Her: Nooooooo!!! Me: you just got scammed Her: At least let me save lol Me Never! I'm deleting ur Zelda file too Her "Fall on the floor" why have you Forsaken me Me You remind me of my last gf, girls who play games are awesome (NOTE: Trying to do the bait, hook, reel, release thing. How'd it go? I think I should hv gotten her more attracted first) Me: it's my weakness, I soo can't talk to you now! xD Her lol! Okay, random fact lol Me Your nothing but trouble missy lol Her lol why you say that Me: First you were robbing banks now ur stealing video games haha Her: Lol!! You took my video game lol Me: I hv no idea what your talking about abt After this I asked her opinion on something she gave one word answers probably because she was busy, going somewhere which she mentioned to me. She gave me her opinion b I said no way I was gonna say the same thing. I than brung up that the last girl I dated was an actress than that's when she said she's at her place and she had to go (she wasn't trying to get rid of me, just keeping where she went private.) With this girl I forgot to show preselection enough though - should I show her the actress photo of her acting as a photo routine? IMPORTANT: 1) how did I do and 2) how can I make this girl attracted to me

Author:	Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri May 31, 2013 2:16 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Trying to attract this girl - help!
Really need help on this guys

Author:	GKS [ Fri May 31, 2013 5:41 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Trying to attract this girl - help!
Here's a few things you did wrong: 1. Pre-selection should be subtle and unspoken. Otherwise, it just feels like bragging. You kept mentioning about other girls. First it was your ex, then it was the actress you dated. And if you haven't noticed, she lost interest and bailed after that. 2. Bantering is fun and good but there's a time and place for it. It should be used to open and create some comfort. However, in your case, you dragged out the bantering too long. Hence, it becomes pointless because you guys didn't make any personal and emotional connection. Should have stopped at the "deleting Zelda save files" part and create some attraction with deeper conversation or qualifying. 3. Pick a theme and stick to it. Your bantering was all over the place and you moved from one to another without any flow. Noticed, her responses might be fun but they were nothing but lol and autopilot. She didn't connect with you on personal level. 4. You remind me of my last gf, girls who play games are awesome. I have no idea what you were baiting here. It was a pure compliment. What would you expect she to say? "haha thanks!" or "I know!"? This could have been better with a qualifier and a push and pull. For EX: I gotta admit, girls that play games are awesome. But I'd hate to be stuck on the couch playing video games all day though. What do you do for fun beside video games? 5. Remember to message to date or number close, text to sext. Every message or text you send should work towards the goal to land a date or a f-close. If they don't contribute to the end result, do not send it. Sometimes less is better. How do you fix this? - Engage her emotionally. Show a genuine interest in getting to know her rather than bantering nonsense. - Try to anticipate their responses so you can make better judgement on what your next move should be. For EX, "you're an awesome chick!" If you end your response like that, you know what she's gonna say next. It leads nowhere so why would you leave it like that? -Be more decisive and aggressive, it's online dating. Girls are busy, girls are swarmed with dozens message a day, girls are bothered by hundred other guys. Grab your chance while you can. The fact she was busy was a perfect excuse for you to number close. But you didn't.

Author:	hunchbak1982 [ Fri May 31, 2013 6:08 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Trying to attract this girl - help!
Quote: Here's a few things you did wrong: 1. Pre-selection should be subtle and unspoken. Otherwise, it just feels like bragging. You kept mentioning about other girls. First it was your ex, then it was the actress you dated. And if you haven't noticed, she lost interest and bailed after that. 2. Bantering is fun and good but there's a time and place for it. It should be used to open and create some comfort. However, in your case, you dragged out the bantering too long. Hence, it becomes pointless because you guys didn't make any personal and emotional connection. Should have stopped at the "deleting Zelda save files" part and create some attraction with deeper conversation or qualifying. 3. Pick a theme and stick to it. Your bantering was all over the place and you moved from one to another without any flow. Noticed, her responses might be fun but they were nothing but lol and autopilot. She didn't connect with you on personal level. 4. You remind me of my last gf, girls who play games are awesome. I have no idea what you were baiting here. It was a pure compliment. What would you expect she to say? "haha thanks!" or "I know!"? This could have been better with a qualifier and a push and pull. For EX: I gotta admit, girls that play games are awesome. But I'd hate to be stuck on the couch playing video games all day though. What do you do for fun beside video games? 5. Remember to message to date or number close, text to sext. Every message or text you send should work towards the goal to land a date or a f-close. If they don't contribute to the end result, do not send it. Sometimes less is better. How do you fix this? - Engage her emotionally. Show a genuine interest in getting to know her rather than bantering nonsense. - Try to anticipate their responses so you can make better judgement on what your next move should be. For EX, "you're an awesome chick!" If you end your response like that, you know what she's gonna say next. It leads nowhere so why would you leave it like that? -Be more decisive and aggressive, it's online dating. Girls are busy, girls are swarmed with dozens message a day, girls are bothered by hundred other guys. Grab your chance while you can. The fact she was busy was a perfect excuse for you to number close. But you didn't. dam! very nice response

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