Quote: So basically my biggest problem texting is opening. And knowing when I should text and how often.
So 1) What do I say in the first text to put yur convo in a good mood
2) How do I use time when it comes to texting - text her every 3 days? What's the rule in that.
3) How does time effect my situation with her - is texting her more better or waiting more better?
1) What do I say in the first text to put your convo in a good mood
As the PinkFloyd said above, the rapport you create in face-to-face is going to determine how easy the texting is going to be.
You could probably text a girl “Yo” and still get her panties wet if you were great with the 1st meeting. So how did the first interaction go? What kind of IOIs did you get?
Part of doing anything well is being in-tune to reality.
You are going to have to make some judgement calls when it comes to the first interaction and that’s why its so important to get a great handle on how to read IOIs, body language etc.
If you can tally up enough IOIs during an interaction, you’ll realize that you’ve basically read a persons mind. And when you know, for the most part, what a person is thinking, its much easier to craft your strategy.
So in this case, figure out how the interaction went and apply your test accordingly.
If it wasn’t much of a convo you can add “Hey it wasn’t for very long but it was nice talking to you.”
If it was, you can add, “Hey it wasn’t for very long but it was nice talking to you. Little did I know you spiked the punch with horny goat weed (or whatever funny episode happened).”
As Pink said, always find ways to reference inside jokes, funny stories/moments etc. This creates depth to even a short relationship. The idea of the pet name is a weaker version of this. You calling a girl “killer” and her being cool with it turns into solid social proof, a very friendly relationship and maybe even a romantic one. But being able to lock eyes with her at any moment while you both re-imagine a moment you had together is POWERFUL.
It can be anything. A movie-scene you talked about. Maybe a funny phrase that popped up in conversation like “Leaky Nipples” (a funny word that has come up in my past for whatever reason) is a jump-off to get deeper? When she asks “What are you up to?”, you can always bust out the “Draining the leaky nips, you?”
2) How do I use time when it comes to texting - text her every 3 days? What's the rule in that.
There are no rules. But there are patterns.
Following the initial text you will send (full of inside jokes etc.), you’ll have to start monitoring whats going on. Good thing is, its all right there on your iphone for you to obsess over before you go to bed.
Its your job to find the patterns and run with what you feel. If you guys are texting at a solid clip (10-20 a day), that’s good. If she’s asking you questions (have you dated anybody at school/uni/work?), updating you on shit you probably don’t care about (my hair got caught in my bag and it hurts) or saying things like “goodnight” or “good morning” then assume you got this situation under control. Now the best thing you is to not fuck it up on your own.
So you found a pattern that is in your favor (conversely, if you are being needy in the interaction, STOP texting her). Now you can ease up on the texting and still know she’s thinking about you and waiting for your text. Now you can ramp up the texting when you want to rave about the new Episode of MadMen (or whatever it is that people watch now) and not feel like you are reaching for attention. This is the control that you are looking for and its exactly what makes this “game” stuff so much fun…and rewarding.
3) How does time effect my situation with her - is texting her more better or waiting more better?
Apply what was said above. If you got her where you want, but wait too long to deliver, then that’s bad. If she’s texting once a day but you are texting her 30 seconds after she texts, that’s bad.
The entire process is a moving target. Women and men both have ups and downs, changes in moods, periods, hunger, bad test scores, shitty friends etc. etc. etc. So you’ll need to get a feel for whats happening. As soon as you lose sight of whats going on, as soon as you start to think “I can wait as long as I want, she on my nuts,” is when you fucked up. Stay on it, stay calm, be funny and keep her wanting more.
Contrary to what some people say, just because you text a lot doesn’t always mean you kill conversation opportunities for when you meet face-to-face. You can even plant some things to ensure the date is full of chatter: “It’s a crazy story so I’ll tell you when we go (enter date), just don’t let me forget.”
Sorry, this post could go on forever. Good luck and eventually, you will realize how easy things are put into place when you start understanding how to read people. Good news is, when you get a handle on it, it is FUN AS FUCK.
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Haha well we are ok and thx I will (Her reply)