PUA Forum :: Do men ever really overcome their insecurities?

A lot of us have something we are insecure about. Height and appearance seem to be common things.

I recently broke my dry spell a week or so ago (giving you link to the story at the end). The thing is I ended up getting with a woman that was a blonde, the kind of women I saw as out of my own league. Yet I find myself asking the question to myself about why I have never in my life seen an Indian man (Americanized or FOB) with a White girlfriend. A lot of it has to do with me living in the deep south (which may have to do with why I don't see it) but it has bothered me so much since I know by appearance (despite having olive skin) people are going to guess I am Indian.

It is like I have gone full philosopher mode some days just thinking about this, wondering why it doesn't happen in the US. I keep thinking about it so much that it never really gets out of my head. The question is just stuck there.

On one hand I have had a degree of success with women that are supposed to hate me because of my ethnic appearance but I keep asking myself why I have this success.

I want to know, do people who get into PUA with insecurities ever really overcome them?

Also my story of getting laid

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Author:	Paramount21 [ Fri May 24, 2013 3:46 am ]
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A lot of us have something we are insecure about. Height and appearance seem to be common things. I recently broke my dry spell a week or so ago (giving you link to the story at the end). The thing is I ended up getting with a woman that was a blonde, the kind of women I saw as out of my own league. Yet I find myself asking the question to myself about why I have never in my life seen an Indian man (Americanized or FOB) with a White girlfriend. A lot of it has to do with me living in the deep south (which may have to do with why I don't see it) but it has bothered me so much since I know by appearance (despite having olive skin) people are going to guess I am Indian. It is like I have gone full philosopher mode some days just thinking about this, wondering why it doesn't happen in the US. I keep thinking about it so much that it never really gets out of my head. The question is just stuck there. On one hand I have had a degree of success with women that are supposed to hate me because of my ethnic appearance but I keep asking myself why I have this success. I want to know, do people who get into PUA with insecurities ever really overcome them? Also my story of getting laid http://reesarch.wordpress.com/diaryacti ... ight-time/

Author:	zmbcm1 [ Fri May 24, 2013 4:43 am ]
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Here we go again...

Author:	GKS [ Fri May 24, 2013 4:50 am ]
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This is getting old...

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Fri May 24, 2013 4:57 am ]
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Dude...just keep working on your confidence...they will work themselves out (however long)...but seriously, this AGAIN...

Author:	Paramount21 [ Fri May 24, 2013 5:11 am ]
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no one is asking you to be on this thread if you don't want to

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Author:	GKS [ Fri May 24, 2013 5:48 am ]
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With that attitude, no wonder you've never gotten over your insecurity. We gave advice, you don't listen, you don't take it. You don't have any incentive to change or accept constructive criticism. Then you went around posting another topic with the same question/issue. What is the purpose of these repeating topics? Trolling? Want us to pat your head and say everything will be okay? Waiting to hear what you WANT to hear instead of what you NEED to hear? We're helping. We're telling you that posting the same issue over and over on this forum won't change anything. The issue is deep within yourself. You're too obsessed with race and ethnicity. Get over it!

Author:	Pickwick [ Fri May 24, 2013 7:10 am ]
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Although these threads are getting repetitive... Anyone can overcome their insecurities. An insecurity is your nervous feeling that your ego might be damaged. -Change your behavior/appearance to feel more secure. -Change your perception of the situation + change your expectations. PUA's intent is to do both of these. Therefore I'll say that it's possible for anyone to overcome their insecurities, and it's easier for those studying PUA. (Although not always, but with a sufficient sample size, the mean change in security should be greater.)

Author:	Warped Mindless [ Fri May 24, 2013 8:13 am ]
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On behalf of the entire MPUAForum I, Warped Mindless, hereby present Paramount21 with The Golden Troll Award. Now for something more constructive: yes many guys get over their insecurities. Seeking therapy will really help you man. Im being serious.

Author:	Paramount21 [ Fri May 24, 2013 8:48 am ]
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I have enough credibility to say I am not a troll. Give that award to Zcmb or whatever, he has ruined enough threads. If not him then there are many others who deserve it, go lost you have added nothing to any of my threads and for the rest who are adding useful posts, I am reading.

Author:	Paramount21 [ Fri May 24, 2013 8:50 am ]
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Quote: With that attitude, no wonder you've never gotten over your insecurity. We gave advice, you don't listen, you don't take it. You don't have any incentive to change or accept constructive criticism. Then you went around posting another topic with the same question/issue. What is the purpose of these repeating topics? Trolling? Want us to pat your head and say everything will be okay? Waiting to hear what you WANT to hear instead of what you NEED to hear? We're helping. We're telling you that posting the same issue over and over on this forum won't change anything. The issue is deep within yourself. You're too obsessed with race and ethnicity. Get over it! Who says I am not trying? Dude, you guys grow up in these liberal areas where everyone is friends and holds hands with each other. I grew up in the deep south where 50 years ago you could have died if you looked at a White woman. It isn't going to change overnight, have a bit of a broad worldview.

Author:	SE23 [ Fri May 24, 2013 11:34 am ]
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Your not going to find the root of your confidence issues in getting pussy, maybe if you are a moron and have no life aspirations or in the short term, but ultimately you need to get out and start doing things with your life. Why do you think the original pick up artists had all these breakdowns ? They let it be their identity, women's opinions are so flimsy and transient, and they could have six different opinions on the same guy. Don't build houses on sandy beaches my friend

Author:	Paramount21 [ Fri May 24, 2013 8:53 pm ]
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That is quite a respectable answer. Yet my insecurity is not based on what women say, but more so based on what I have seen (or haven't in this case).

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Fri May 24, 2013 9:55 pm ]
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Bro, I'm a very supportive person and love helping people develop into the best version of themselves that they want to be............ But seriously....... WHAT THE FUCK!? HOW MANY TIMES ARE YOU GOING TO REPHRASE THE SAME QUESTION AND POST IT ON HERE?! If you don't like the color of your skin... Wear make up and change it. If you don't like where you live..... Move somewhere else that you want to live. If you don't like your job.... Find a new one and quit. If you don't like the color of your car.... Paint it or buy a new one. If you don't like the shirts you wear.... Buy new clothes. If you don't like your body..... start working out to build the body you want. It's YOUR life. Do what you want with it. You are looking for validation from others. You actually keep getting it. And you still feel a need to seek more of it. What the fuck are you looking for dude....? Seriously.....

Author:	slurp812 [ Fri May 24, 2013 10:57 pm ]
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Quote: A lot of us have something we are insecure about. Height and appearance seem to be common things. I recently broke my dry spell a week or so ago (giving you link to the story at the end). The thing is I ended up getting with a woman that was a blonde, the kind of women I saw as out of my own league. Yet I find myself asking the question to myself about why I have never in my life seen an Indian man (Americanized or FOB) with a White girlfriend. A lot of it has to do with me living in the deep south (which may have to do with why I don't see it) but it has bothered me so much since I know by appearance (despite having olive skin) people are going to guess I am Indian. It is like I have gone full philosopher mode some days just thinking about this, wondering why it doesn't happen in the US. I keep thinking about it so much that it never really gets out of my head. The question is just stuck there. On one hand I have had a degree of success with women that are supposed to hate me because of my ethnic appearance but I keep asking myself why I have this success. I want to know, do people who get into PUA with insecurities ever really overcome them? Also my story of getting laid http://reesarch.wordpress.com/diaryacti ... ight-time/ Tall, dark handsome is what women say they want. I am white, some tan on my face, green eyes, and short. My confidence with women isn't up to PUA level yet, but Its getting much better. I'm working with this TALL woman. I like her, and I see her height as a challenge to me. I quite like the idea of getting women I am not supposed to have. BTW, is that your real pic?

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Author:	Paramount21 [ Sat May 25, 2013 2:26 am ]
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Quote: Bro, I'm a very supportive person and love helping people develop into the best version of themselves that they want to be............ You are a supportive person and a good person. As for what I am looking for, outside suggestions. Since currently I am in the deep south, I am looking for experiences, stories, and suggestions about where I should move. Where can I move in the US where my dating pool is going to consist of good looking women who are White and non-White if I have the confidence, looks, and career. Dude I am not joking when I say this, White women here in the deep south can care less if you are an Indian doctor with 10/10 looks and a 6 figure salary along with interesting hobbies, you are a foreigner to them and they don't want anything to do with you. I guess that is their preference but I am looking for places in the US I can go to where my Indian appearance won't really matter, might even be a bonus, and if it does mean something bad then it can be overcome because there is no way in hell some White woman in the south is dating me regardless of what I do. Like I feel helpless and I want to know where these areas are where you see these Indian success stories with White women. It sure as hell isn't the south and I know that from living here for a while.