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Author:  Coachable [ Wed May 22, 2013 6:15 am ]
Post subject:  she said yes...now what?
So I asked out a girl from work by saying I was planning on going to a hockey game and asked if she wanted to come since we are both fans. She said Yes just let me know what day. Our schedules have clashed so much that its been 2 weeks since I asked and neither of us have the same day off.
When I text her I also get a one message response. Shes laughs and comments on everything I say and even adds on but then she never replies again.It is frustrating especially if I asked a question or two.
I think its too soon to give up because I have only initiated the texts twice and three days in between.
Should I try and plan something else or give up? I haven't got any signs of disinterest.
I was thinking about asking her to just go to a bar until we have a day off and watch the game instead.
What do you guys think about that?
I just don't want to come off as needy so I am hesitant to text her again.


thanks for any advice.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed May 22, 2013 7:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
keep trying. Acknowledge that you are both busy and make it work.
Author:  ChitownMaverick [ Wed May 22, 2013 7:14 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
When you invite someone to something, make sure it's something that already has a set date and time.

Instead of a vague "would you like to come to a hockey game with me sometime," try more along the lines of, "there's this awesome hockey game I'm really excited about on Saturday. It starts at 7:30, would you like to join me?"

The first way (the way that you did), you showed interest but did not have a plan.

Show interest and have a plan, this is what it means to lead.
Author:  Coachable [ Mon May 27, 2013 6:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
Quote:
When you invite someone to something, make sure it's something that already has a set date and time.

Instead of a vague "would you like to come to a hockey game with me sometime," try more along the lines of, "there's this awesome hockey game I'm really excited about on Saturday. It starts at 7:30, would you like to join me?"

The first way (the way that you did), you showed interest but did not have a plan.

Show interest and have a plan, this is what it means to lead.
I took your advice and asked twice for 2 separate times and waited a week in-between txts.
She was working the first time.The second time I got no response over txt. but then she confirmed when I saw her,so I txted her to see if we were still on a few days later she had to take someone's shift and I know its not a lie because we work together.She did say I really want to go to a game soon though.There were no more games so I said how about we grab a drink and watch the game? and I got no response again.To me it sounds bad reading this but the first time I got no response she confirmed with me in person and just said sorry shes so busy that she reads them and forgets to txt back.

should I keep on asking? I don't feel like it's annoying her because its literally a week in-between txts and she does show interest.It just frustrates the hell out of me when she doesn't answer my texts.
any advice on a different approach?
Author:  Themagicalone [ Mon May 27, 2013 6:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
Quote:
Quote:
When you invite someone to something, make sure it's something that already has a set date and time.

Instead of a vague "would you like to come to a hockey game with me sometime," try more along the lines of, "there's this awesome hockey game I'm really excited about on Saturday. It starts at 7:30, would you like to join me?"

The first way (the way that you did), you showed interest but did not have a plan.

Show interest and have a plan, this is what it means to lead.
I took your advice and asked twice for 2 separate times and waited a week in-between txts.
She was working the first time.The second time I got no response over txt. but then she confirmed when I saw her,so I txted her to see if we were still on a few days later she had to take someone's shift and I know its not a lie because we work together.She did say I really want to go to a game soon though.There were no more games so I said how about we grab a drink and watch the game? and I got no response again.To me it sounds bad reading this but the first time I got no response she confirmed with me in person and just said sorry shes so busy that she reads them and forgets to txt back.

should I keep on asking? I don't feel like it's annoying her because its literally a week in-between txts and she does show interest.It just frustrates the hell out of me when she doesn't answer my texts.
any advice on a different approach?
If a girl is really interested she does not forget to text you back, its an excuse. You know the answer but I'll type it so you can see it, Stop being clingy and move on (if she hits you back FIRST, set something up 1 on 1, if she declines NEXT HER). If she was really interested she would make time for you, instead she makes excuses.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon May 27, 2013 8:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
Plan another meet. Good god what do you have to lose?!?! Worst case is she says no you never lost anything but at least you'd tried. Worst is to just let it die like a softer guy would. Women love feeling pursued, you have to play the game a bit to get her enticed.
Author:  hunchbak1982 [ Mon May 27, 2013 9:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
Quote:
Quote:
When you invite someone to something, make sure it's something that already has a set date and time.

Instead of a vague "would you like to come to a hockey game with me sometime," try more along the lines of, "there's this awesome hockey game I'm really excited about on Saturday. It starts at 7:30, would you like to join me?"

The first way (the way that you did), you showed interest but did not have a plan.

Show interest and have a plan, this is what it means to lead.
I took your advice and asked twice for 2 separate times and waited a week in-between txts.
She was working the first time.The second time I got no response over txt. but then she confirmed when I saw her,so I txted her to see if we were still on a few days later she had to take someone's shift and I know its not a lie because we work together.She did say I really want to go to a game soon though.There were no more games so I said how about we grab a drink and watch the game? and I got no response again.To me it sounds bad reading this but the first time I got no response she confirmed with me in person and just said sorry shes so busy that she reads them and forgets to txt back.

should I keep on asking? I don't feel like it's annoying her because its literally a week in-between txts and she does show interest.It just frustrates the hell out of me when she doesn't answer my texts.
any advice on a different approach?
you just sound to over eager to date her, and i think she already picked on that. there is a lot we can learn from women, thay dont mind blowing dates, not ansering texts, etc. they seem like their just focused on doing their thing.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon May 27, 2013 11:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
I would stop for now. Just focus on getting her interest at another time. Seems like she is distracted by other things. Sorry brah


A.
Author:  Coachable [ Tue May 28, 2013 5:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
just an update...
she got back to me at like 6 am this morning the no reply was because she was sleeping for work. We ended up txting back and forth all day.She even gave me shit for not texting her back when I took a few hours to reply.
She listed a bunch of days she was off and even suggested a good bar that we should check out.
maybe there's hope after all? :D
I have kept the messages brief with a joke and one question. Went well and I made sure I was the one to end the conversation... still having trouble finding a day to meet but we will see what happens...
Author:  hunchbak1982 [ Tue May 28, 2013 11:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she said yes...now what?
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just an update...
she got back to me at like 6 am this morning the no reply was because she was sleeping for work. We ended up txting back and forth all day.She even gave me shit for not texting her back when I took a few hours to reply.
She listed a bunch of days she was off and even suggested a good bar that we should check out.
maybe there's hope after all? :D
I have kept the messages brief with a joke and one question. Went well and I made sure I was the one to end the conversation... still having trouble finding a day to meet but we will see what happens...
good luck bruthe
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