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Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 3:27 pm ]
Post subject:  We have a flaker
Just after some opinions.

I went on a first date about 2 weeks ago, she texted me the next day and she said she wanted to meet again.

For the last week she has taken longer to reply to my messages, we were suppose to meet up this weekend but she cancelled with some excuse a few hours before, I new she was going to cancel, I also most cancelled it before she did but I didn't, (wish I did now lol)

I did push for a second date, but only because of the ioi's I got after the date and during.

After she texted me with her excuse to cancel, my reply was "I had a feeling you would cancel lol"

I think I came across to available and eager which caused the flake, I plan to just leave things and see if see contacts me, if she does contact me again I plan to do things a little different, for example not making myself so available and not accepting bad behaviour.

Any suggestions on this?
Author:  StinkyApple [ Sun May 19, 2013 3:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
It sucks when girls flakes.

I dont know man, its kinda hard to think about a solution. She lost interest in you, thats why she flakes and there is a good chance, for your hard to get tactic will fail because of this. You need to play your cards well and in this case, there are lots of solutions, but only one will work, with some timing and luck.

Good luck mate.
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 4:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
I don't need luck lol, it's all about the knowledge.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun May 19, 2013 5:23 pm ]
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Advice? Yea...STOP TAKING SHIT SO SERIOUSLY!

Actually a great way to respond to a flake is by not responding (negatively) at all. If you get all bent out of shape it'll reveal to her that you can't handle your shit. However, if you respond cooly to her flaking (e.g., being nice but not pushing for another date, rather just accepting it) she'll be far more inclined to contact you again. If not, you've lost nothing anyway.

She's not your girl, she's not obligated to you in anyway, and vice-versa. Keep your expectations in-line. If she contacts you again and you are still interested in her then talk to her and at some point arrange another date. You've got nothing to lose, even if she says "no".
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 5:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Actually a great way to respond to a flake is by not responding (negatively) at all.
That's exactly what I did.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun May 19, 2013 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Advice? Yea...STOP TAKING SHIT SO SERIOUSLY!

Actually a great way to respond to a flake is by not responding (negatively) at all.
That's exactly what I did.
Past is past, can't take a time machine back and 'undo' behavior. Accept it and move on. If she contacts you cool, if not cool too. Get on w your life.
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 5:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
[quote="n2thevoid]
Past is past, can't take a time machine back and 'undo' behavior. Accept it and move on. If she contacts you cool, if not cool too. Get on w your life.[/quote]

I am so glad you responded because that is a massive help lol. Just copy and paste that message for every question ever asked on this forum, problem solved!
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun May 19, 2013 5:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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[quote="n2thevoid.]
Past is past, can't take a time machine back and 'undo' behavior. Accept it and move on. If she contacts you cool, if not cool too. Get on w your life.
I am so glad you responded because that is a massive help lol. Just copy and paste that message for every question ever asked on this forum, problem solved![/quote][/quote][/quote]
Anytime dude, glad to help.

God speed!
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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[quote="n2thevoid.]
Past is past, can't take a time machine back and 'undo' behavior. Accept it and move on. If she contacts you cool, if not cool too. Get on w your life.
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You should stop making assumptions, because your reply is full of them, inaccurate as they're.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Past is past, can't take a time machine back and 'undo' behavior. Accept it and move on. If she contacts you cool, if not cool too. Get on w your life.
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You should stop making assumptions, because your reply is full of them, inaccurate as they're.[/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote]

Improper use of a contraction, I think you'd meant to say "they are" NOT "they're".

Cool story bruh!
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Improper use of a contraction, I think you'd meant to say "they are" NOT "they're".
How does proper use of contraction link to good game or good advice in this situation, your advice was based on ignorant assumptions which offered no help, and now you're trying to protect your ego by pointing out errors in my grammar.
Author:  StinkyApple [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
Ignorant behavior, Flex.

You want answers you like to hear. The fact is, she lost interest. And no, you cannot turn it, you dont have the power to it. You need luck, because the outcome is based on her initation(and you know that). Any master PUA would say, forget her and move if not she contacts you. You seek knowledge and here you go.

If you need tactic, well, if she takes initation, she is interested and you can run your normal rutine, its fine. What your tactic should be, depends on the interaction, which you dont know yet. You need to use your knowledge, based on her approach.

Good luck.
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Ignorant behavior, Flex.

You want answers you like to hear. The fact is, she lost interest. And no, you cannot turn it, you dont have the power to it. You need luck, because the outcome is based on her initation.
I am sorry but this is pussy talk, I acted like a pussy which is why I have this situation in the first place.

Yes you can turn situations around and yes I do have the power to it, are you a girl lol.
Author:  StinkyApple [ Sun May 19, 2013 6:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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Ignorant behavior, Flex.

You want answers you like to hear. The fact is, she lost interest. And no, you cannot turn it, you dont have the power to it. You need luck, because the outcome is based on her initation.
I am sorry but this is pussy talk, I acted like a pussy which is why I have this situation in the first place.

Yes you can turn situations around and yes I do have the power to it, are you a girl lol.
Haha, i like your mentality. Yes, you fucked it up and no, you dont have power to control anyone, if the person is not interested. Your messages will be senseless, needy or just dumb, unless she takes the initation first.

But lets hear, how will you turn this situation around?:P
Author:  Flex007 [ Sun May 19, 2013 7:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We have a flaker
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But lets hear, how will you turn this situation around?:P
lol First off, she flaked last weekend as well, and then I left it I didn't text her, she texted me during the week which led to this situation.

I could be wrong lol, it depends on the attraction but I predict she will contact me at some point in the next few days, and then I will get her jumping through my hoops, then game over!
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