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| Author: | FunDanceMan [ Mon May 06, 2013 3:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other guys |
I've got to say, I've been rather lucky with not having to deal with this in the past. Growing up whenever I got laid, it would be like a 5 night fling, or end up as a relationship, or maybe I subtley knew she was seeing other guys but wasnt too sure. I probably got it on with lots of girls that were seeing other guys, but it never came up or we never mentioned it. Lately, however like EVERY girl I bump into in this city is dating/screwing multiple guys. Hey it's all fair right? If you're not in a relationship, you shouldn't be mad about it. However, I didn't think this would mess with my head as much as it did. 1. Thinking about it - Is it normal to kinda be thinking about it lots once you know? 2. STDs - What are the odds you'll get something from the guy giving something to the girl and her giving you the STD? 3. Poll: - Do you care? Do you not care? (Obvious with the chick you should never show it.) 4. Mention Ground rules? - Do you subtley lay some ground rules about not talking about this subject with the chick (and you do the same by not telling her about the other girls you're talking to?) You're not in a LTR so IDK if that would some like asking too much of each other. 5. Beware? - What are some things to watch out for with girls who are open about the other guys she's seeing? When I found out with one of the chicks, I stopped talking to her for a while because I felt I was falling into friend zone. But really I was just in the same group of guys she's dating / fucking. Was it bad to distance myself? Does that give guys more of a chance or does that make her miss you more? I wish I had more experiences with girls who were dating other guys, I'm not used to it. |
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| Author: | StinkyApple [ Mon May 06, 2013 4:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other gu |
Quote: I wish I had more experiences with girls who were dating other guys, I'm not used to it.
Then dont get use to it. Period.I know how you feel, because thats how i feel aswell. Ive learned one thing, NEVER lower your standard. If you ignore stuff, that annoys you early on, it will for sure come later and it will hurt. For me, it goes like this: 1)Cheap girl=sex, no relationship. 2)Good girl=more than that, maybe a relationship. Its something personal, its your own choice. |
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| Author: | Snarg [ Mon May 06, 2013 4:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other gu |
Quote: Quote: I wish I had more experiences with girls who were dating other guys, I'm not used to it.
Then dont get use to it. Period.I know how you feel, because thats how i feel aswell. Ive learned one thing, NEVER lower your standard. If you ignore stuff, that annoys you early on, it will for sure come later and it will hurt. For me, it goes like this: 1)Cheap girl=sex, no relationship. 2)Good girl=more than that, maybe a relationship. |
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| Author: | FunDanceMan [ Tue May 07, 2013 8:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other gu |
Thanks. I was always thinking it was normal or the standard for a girl who isn't a "good girl." I read lots about it when I first started with the game and was lucky. Always thought I wouldnt let it mentally affect me. Someone told me its perfectly normal to feel a little jealous and grossed out by it. It's allowed because we're not in a relationship, but I dont have to like it. How many of us guys here care, how many do not care at all? |
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| Author: | Betamax [ Tue May 07, 2013 9:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other gu |
It's human nature to want 10 different girls to yourself. Our alpha ancestors certainly had that going for them way back then. In other species and more interestingly in certain primate tribes, the alpha males still claim ownership to multiple females. But we're human, and times have changed... We're no longer the polygamous species we were once known for. Except in certain isolated pockets here and there. |
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| Author: | FunDanceMan [ Wed May 08, 2013 12:22 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Dealing with this later in life: Girls that see other gu |
Hmmm thats really interesting, didnt know that. Is there a way to get over this quickly? Most guys who dont care, is it just natural for them not to care or did they eventually get desensitized to it. I wanna get to the ponit where I dont care and just be able to game like normal. It does somewhat affect me when my mind travels to that aspect. |
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