A lot of PUAs talk about investment as the ultimate way to get attraction, and it absolutely is.
Even after this, there's not much written about the subject, so this article will be about the power of investment, and after the explanation i will provide a few rutines, tips and examples of good ways to trigger investment.
Why is investment important?
as the title of the article suggests, when a girl invests in you, you stop being just a random guy she met, and as the investment levels start to rise, it will take you all the way from a stranger to her lover.
the best example is always to look at yourself. as we will see soon, thinking about someonewhen they are not arround is one of the best ways of investment. think about it, we all had that one girl you think about more than the rest, and hooking up with her seems more exiting than hooking up with a random girl at the club. that girl thats harder to catch, and that makes her so much more attractive.
this is because you have invested feelings and time on that girl and for them this is exponentially more powerful, as they are much more concerned with the cuality and quantity of guys they choose.
so, how does an investment free interaction look like?
Interview mode is a great example: here you are, investing your time and efford on makeing small talk with a girl and she is just not giving back. well, that 'giving back' is what we call Investment.
an extreme example would be a girl thats creazy about justin bieber. she will spend money, time and emotions on that person to the point of makeing that guy into an idea instead of a person. Investment is so powerful that you can actually say less in an interaction, an as the other person is investing in you, attractive traits will be asumed for you, working in a fashion similar to pre-selection. this is why listening is so important (more on that later).
Types of Investment.
time is our only true currency, and this is true for investing in people too.
the three main types of investment are:
-Time investment
-Emotional investment
-Fisical investment
Time investment.
when a girl thinks about you, when she looks throw your facebook page, when she sees your picture on SPAM and stops to stare, when she sees something that reminds her of you, or when she prepares for an hour to get pretty for your date, to go to the club she knows you will be at, this is time investment. its the most common type and god its so powerful.
Emotional investment.
then a girl allows herself to feel something for you, we call that emotional investment. i personally suggest good feelings over negative ones, but emotional rollercosters are awesome and girls love them, they make life exiting for us all, so sometimes feeling like she can loose you is good. but be careful, later i will explain, to pull this off correctly, you need to be a truelly solid man of you might end up hurting girls feelings instead.
Fisical Investment
the intensity of this type of investment depends on the type of girl, but having sex is a hudge investment for her. dude i know girls that know exactly how many and the full name of every single guy they have kissed, imagine sex.
it envolves emotional and time investment, a great deal of both. emotional is obvious enough, but time bro, thats crazy. girls think about having sex with you way before it actually happends, they talk to their friends about it, they create anticipation, and even though the intensity of this will always depend, the investment is hudge.
so,
How to become an investment friendly guy?
lets make an analogy with forein investment. how does a country get foreign country become more foreign investment friendly? it has to stabilice, have a solid fundation and provide security for the investor. it has to be trust worthy. sometimes it hads to give the investor a scence of security by compromising too. so lets apply that to us.
the solid man.
i say we as men have to become more very solid individuals. let me explain, i use this metafore on my self regularly: imagine a wodden post solidly planted on the ground, and arround it a stormy ocean. the wodden post is your core, and the stormy ocean is the feelings and problems people and life throw at you. you have to be able to let big waves hit the post, without letting it be taken from its pleace, let the waves hit the post without altering it, let that post be planted as firmly on the ground as it possibly can, dont let the flow of life throw you arround. specially, dont let the post float on that ocean, dont let the problems and feelings people throw at you swing you arround.
this kind of guy is someone that girls can actually trust with their feelings. this kind of guy is not preddictable though, and is not always nice. in fact he is never nice. he is kind, but not nice. Elliot Hulse, an awesome vlogger in youtube talks about that difference
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPDPtt-eCn0
i love that guy, so much inspiration has comed from him.
Investing to get invested on.
have you ever heard mystery talk about the "you have taken up my mind" rutines? one of the key things to get a girl to invest in you, is that you invest on her. make her feel wanted, make her feel like you really like her, so she can safely let herself feel stuff for you, emotionally invest in you. i absolutely love and have used mystery's polmegranate rutine succesfully, so im going to share it with you. use it with care, dont use it to fuck a girl and then leave her. takeing advantage of emotional investment is fucking wrong mate, it hurts. if you want a one night stand just use time investment tecniques.
The Polmegranate Rutine by Mystery.
PUA:you suck
HER:what? why??
PUA: the other day i was in the supermarket and i passed in front of the fruit counter, and there was a pomegranate counter, and i used to do this thing with my sister were my mom would buy us polmegranates and we would fight over them and stuff all the time, and we used to make this dessert, like polmegranates are awesome by them selves, but we used to peal it and take each seed out and pleace them all on a bowl, dude that takes a lot of work like you just wanna eat the damn thing but you know this way its going to be much better so from time to time we did this, you take each seed and put them on a bowl, and then put honey over it, its a fucking amazing dessert, so one day my mom brought home 2 polmegranates, one for me and one for my sister, and my sister wasnt there so i decided instead of fighting over them i would do something nice and prepare the dessert for her and for me.
i eat mine and left hers on the fridge, and when she got home she thought i had eatten hers and started hitting me (she was older than me she would kick my ass) and i was like wait wait, i atually prepared that for you, i already ate mine!
that was the last time we fought actually
but the point of the story is, i saw the polmegranate on the counter and wanted to make that dessert for you, but i dont even know if you like polmegranates! see you suck!
end of rutine. adapt it dont say my sister if you dont have one, it works better but i dont have a sister so i toled it with my brother and it worked very well. see how this conveys 'i thinck about you'? and its a dhv story too mystery is a fucking genious haha. its a protector of loved ones text book dhv story. its light too, and playful, and the best part is she will be scared you are telling her she actually sucks and then you are not, so the emotional rollercoster is like heroin to girls haha. as you can see i love this rutine, it got me an awesome girl one time.
(this is actually a fragment of an email i sent my bro Pippe, awesome guy)
so, lets keep the promess i made at the begining. lets talk about
The Importance of Listening.
here we have to introduce a very important part of this: positive and negative investment.
most ways of investment are positive, but there are some cases where it takes negative tones, and the most important negative investment is being obligated to listen to you when they dont want to, just to be socially accepted or polite. she still is investing her time on you, but unwillingly. thats the key word.
if she does wanna listen to you though, thats a pasive investment. its not as powerful as active investment, and we will be talking about that in a second, but its still positive, and if for example you are doing public speacking on something interesting of doing a good standup show or just telling her an exiting thing that happened to you over some coffe at a date, being interesting and funny will be a good way to get her to pasively invest in you.
this is tricky cuz what you are saying might not be as interesting or you migh be talking too much, so even though it seems the best way to get her attracted to you, if you over do it you will kill the mistery for her, come of as bragging and loose her attention. to summerise talking is great but it puts you in a vulnerable position
the safest thing, and what most people dont understand (so you have an advantage here!) is to understand the importance of listening.
when the girl is the one talking, she is the one putting herself out there, she is investing a lot on you. she is vulnerable, and the fact that you listen and dont judge her makes her understand that she can trust you. emotional investment will be triggered as she tells emotionally charged storys, so its a very good position to be at. the BEST part is that girls actually complain we dont listen enough! its crazy.
always remember to calibrate. letting her talk for the most part will make you safe, and let her invest. attractive qualities will be asumed off of you, and also an aura of misteriousnes will make you sexier and more exiting, so dont invest too much, let her speak more. on the other hand if you dont pull any dhv story you might be taken as a shy person or as a creep, a boring man, or whatever.
also a very important way to get emotional investment:
Teasing
done in good measure and intelligently, it will make the girls fell a wierd mix of shame and pleasure that makes them tick. you will know if you are doing it right when she giggles as you do it. if she doesnt just change the subject and dont try it again for a while, but dont freak out about it, we all make bad jokes. practice this skill a lot, teasing the right way is very powerful.
ok this has gotten extremly long, im just going to close here.
below i will attach a few links to great examples,
tips and rutines that use the principle of investment.
the f close at her please rutine by Adam Lyons:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6TGBKaR76c (minute 1:46:00)
the necless close by style
couldnt find it its on The Game by Neil Strauss
the call me voicemail principle by simple pickup
http://www.simplepickup.com/how-to/the- ... rls-phone/
hope this helps bro. more of this at my blog listed down there.
Jason