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| Author: | RJRen [ Tue Apr 16, 2013 5:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex . . |
This a shit test? Not sure how to respond on this one . . . Basically came up she thinks I just want to hook up and "use her as a stepping stone" = then she tells me that her ex that she broke up with, has been trying to get back with her, and that she's actually considering it, but she doesn't give second chances. I didn't know how to respond so just totally ignored it with "hey whatever" ... |
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| Author: | Derflow [ Tue Apr 16, 2013 8:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Quote: This a shit test? Not sure how to respond on this one . . .
Sounds like a bit of a shit test, but girls are vulnerable to getting back together with ex's, so you can never be too careful. Basically came up she thinks I just want to hook up and "use her as a stepping stone" = then she tells me that her ex that she broke up with, has been trying to get back with her, and that she's actually considering it, but she doesn't give second chances. I didn't know how to respond so just totally ignored it with "hey whatever" ... I might have gone with something like "Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do, but I've always lived by the mentality that you break up with someone for a reason." or something like that. Add a bit to it, maybe something like "You're young, and there so many opportunities you can explore, why go back to what you've already had?" See what she responds. If she agrees, it was probably a shit test. If she tries to rationalize the decision, she's probably not lying. Hopefully she'll try and rationalize to you why she wants to get back together, and you can use this opportunity to get information about her ex, and more importantly, how she reacts to being treated certain ways. What did he do that she didn't like? What did she like? Etc. Learning about a girl's ex can provide valuable insight into how you can get in close with her. Be careful, you don't want to be too friendly and too comforting, or you'll get friendzoned. Get your information, and back off. Say you have to go run some errands or make an important call or something like that. You have the potential for an information goldmine, but whatever you do, don't get friendzoned. On the same note, don't be a cold-hearted bastard either lol. |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Tue Apr 16, 2013 1:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Think about it this way. If you had 10 other girls who wanted to fuck you, what would you say to this one? You'd probably say "Yeah sure get back with him" and wouldn't even think twice about it. Why? Because you've got 10 other chicks who want to fuck you! You can just call up another and say "Hey come over." Done. It's all about an abundance mentality. |
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| Author: | RJRen [ Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Quote: Think about it this way. If you had 10 other girls who wanted to fuck you, what would you say to this one? You'd probably say "Yeah sure get back with him" and wouldn't even think twice about it. Why? Because you've got 10 other chicks who want to fuck you! You can just call up another and say "Hey come over." Done. It's all about an abundance mentality.
I do have a couple others is the thing. I haven't and wont stop hooking up with other girls until I know this one is serious... I'm not serious about the others, just hooking up. Basically I did the right thing by ignoring her talking about getting with her ex or should I have said something different? Didn't beg her not to get back with him because that to me seems like it would be the AFC thing to do.. so I just told her hey do whatever but that I want to see where it goes with her and she's not a stepping stone. Even think I said too much by saying that |
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| Author: | RJRen [ Wed Apr 17, 2013 2:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Anyone else |
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Wed Apr 17, 2013 3:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Quote: This a shit test? Not sure how to respond on this one . . .
Depends on how you see this girl(just messing around or trying to get into a relationship) either way the ex still in the picture is a major red flag, I'd game other girls if I was you because most of the time if she still has feelings for the ex your going to be the one screwed
Basically came up she thinks I just want to hook up and "use her as a stepping stone" = then she tells me that her ex that she broke up with, has been trying to get back with her, and that she's actually considering it, but she doesn't give second chances. I didn't know how to respond so just totally ignored it with "hey whatever" ... |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Wed Apr 17, 2013 3:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl says she's thinking about getting back with her ex |
Remember, you can never convince a woman logically. She said she's afraid you're using her as a stepping stone, you said otherwise. Not gonna work. Why? Because its logical and not emotional. You shouldnt have mentioned the stepping stone part at all, just said "do whatever you feel like, you are a free human being and have the ability to do whatever you want. If that means going back to your ex then so be it, I will not stop you. If you do decide to go back to him he must be what you truly want and he must treat you the way you wish to be treated and I honestly wish you all the best." Something along those lines would have been pretty good. What was done here was agreeing with her then taking it to completely other proportions. |
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