Hi
I've been a lurker here for a while. I'm not especially proficient with PUA and still pretty new to it... But learning and I find this forum to be a great resource. Some very knowledgable posters here.
I'm looking for an opinion on the best way to approach this - I'll try to keep it short while not leaving out relevant details. I am also very aware of the pitfalls and opinions on inter-office dating. Have done it before and I am ok with the risks.
- I work at a large company in a mid-senior level
- The girl I'm interested in works there as well at a lower level. Different dept, same floor - there is no chance I will ever be managing this person - I'm 100 percent positive (completely different fields of work).
- We've been out in group settings, gotten along great. Flirted, kino, etc. nothing more though, really.
- This is all relatively new (a few weeks we've been talking and hanging out) - despite the fact we have worked together for a few years. It has not been really frequent but it has been consistent lately - whether it's emails or quick chats or going out with a group.
- She shows signs of interest, some IOIs but is really difficult to read. A few other coworkers have noticed too however, so I'm not nuts (hopefully). Some of her work friends say she doesn't pick up in signals or signs very well and I may have to be blunt with her (which may be an idea - and is why I'm throwing this out there).
- The same other coworkers have also said she MAY have reservations about dating at work.
- She's a HB7.5 (sometimes an
. I'm told I am a 7Hopefully this is enough information. My question is: is direct approach the best way to go here? Will something work better? If so.... How direct? Are we talking "we should go out" direct, or are we talking "I like you and think you're interesting - I'd like to try and take it up a level" type of approach?
Any thoughts on the best/most effective way to put this?
It's not a real difficult situation admittedly - the coworker aspect just makes me doubt myself somewhat so I'm going for a second opinion with the people of this forum
Thank you for reading. I appreciate it!