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Author:  Mopet [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 8:56 am ]
Post subject:  How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
Reading another similar topic I don't want to hijack I decided to start this one.

One time while on vacation last summer there was a HB9 neighbour next to us.
There was a band performing one evening at a nearby lounge so I asked her to go over there with me and my brother. She liked the idea and joined us.

The evening was fun, we had lots of laughs and no awkward moments. But at one point while she was speaking she mentioned her boyfriend she had a relation ship with for 5 months in the meantime or something. I did not further comment about it.
My well-raised mindset made me automatically stop with trying to seduce her. Simply because I respect one's relationship and wouldn't like it myself if some ass took off with a GF of mine.
But later that evening I stood up to go to the bathroom which was a seperate building on a remote location. She had to go as well suddenly and walked with me over there. Even entered the same part of the building that wasn't even for the ladies I believe.
Nothing really happened though. We returned and the casual evening proceeded.

But now quite some time later I started to think back of that evening, especially when reading this topic here: i-have-a-boyfriend-response-vt160228.html

It almost sounds like it would be just some shit test. What do you guys think? could she be honest about this or do you think it was a ST?
If it was, I'm a doomed person as I would never try to steal someone's GF so I would fall for the ST every time. But maybe I'm just overthinking. I didn't saw her with any other guy the whole vacation though.

Maybe I'm just too old fashioned with caring about loyalty perhaps.
Author:  .Sage. [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 11:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
If it came up casually in convo, then it probably wasn't her ASD trying to protect her from getting hit on. Either be a man and ask about it or move on, find a single girl that wants a boyfriend.
Author:  AmanteLatino [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 11:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
The way i think, people don't belong to anyone. That being said, you can't steal them.

Now, some people may argue that this is just a backwards rationalization that allows me to justify my corrupt morals by western civilization standards. May be so, the truth is, i firmly do NOT believe in the social adopt model of 'monogamous' relationships. Now, if your conduct doesn't allow you to indulge in such 'depraved' behavior, then don't. Ultimately the only person judging you is yourself, and whatever verdict you come up with, you will have to face it, as long as you are doing something 'wrong' by your way of thinking. In the other hand, you will systematically avoid insecure, possessive, angry jealous guy's, ready to stir shit up to your side. But not all, even if the 'girl' is single there is always at least one jackass who thinks he has a better claim than you. And some of them are willing to act in such regard...
Author:  .Sage. [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 11:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
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Now, some people may argue that this is just a backwards rationalization that allows me to justify my corrupt morals by western civilization standards. May be so, the truth is, i firmly do NOT believe in the social adopt model of 'monogamous' relationships. Now, if your conduct doesn't allow you to indulge in such 'depraved' behavior, then don't. Ultimately the only person judging you is yourself, and whatever verdict you come up with, you will have to face it, as long as you are doing something 'wrong' by your way of thinking. In the other hand, you will systematically avoid insecure, possessive, angry jealous guy's, ready to stir shit up to your side. But not all, even if the 'girl' is single there is always at least one jackass who thinks he has a better claim than you. And some of them are willing to act in such regard...
Just one question, who are you trying to convince, us or yourself? Your on a site for PUAs, preaching to the choir. The ONLY rationalization you need is "I would be better off talking to a chick who's looking for some dick than a girl that is already getting some dick."
Author:  AmanteLatino [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 1:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
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Just one question, who are you trying to convince, us or yourself? Your on a site for PUAs, preaching to the choir. The ONLY rationalization you need is "I would be better off talking to a chick who's looking for some dick than a girl that is already getting some dick."
I'm not in a site of PUA's, i'm in a site of most wannabe PUAs, me included, since there is to much to learn yet. Otherwise there would make no sense to post here.
And no, i am not trying to convince anyone, i know my writings have a tendency to make me look pretentious, that's because i am. Don't sweat, is in the 'things to do' list.

Now, what makes you think that a girl that is already getting some dick, as you put it, is not looking for other kind of 'flavor', being in a relationship doesn't make them oblivious to the rest of the male population, and if she is indeed, boyfriend/girlfriend oriented, why not an upgrade, they strive for it constantly, if not, they would marry (forever) to the first schmuck that crossed their paths. Where i grew up, the only ones not getting dick where the prude, fanatic religious ones. And no, i'm definitely not tailored for a platonic relationship. Speaking of witch, my last girlfriend was in a three years sexless engagement with a closet homosexual fellow, only months after i snatched her from him did she find out about 'that', in a old fashioned town spread scandal.

Nonetheless, i have come to the realization that the best ones are already spoken for.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 2:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
well you still have to put in a lot more work if she really did have a boyfriend. More than a girl without a boyfriend.
Author:  Mopet [ Sat Apr 13, 2013 5:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you know if she speaks the truth about a BF?
Thanks for the responses guys!
Forgive me if I misinterpret Amante, but what you are actually saying is that there doesn't exist such thing as loyalty neither? Meaning if she has a relationship or not that she can always be taken or that girls are always seeking more men even if they are already occupied?

I don't believe that's true. I obviously don't have the experience myself but from people around me, if those girls would really be 'cheating' around everybody's back I have no faith in beginning a relationship at all.

I am happy to believe that purity is a myth and am learning to think like that very hard, but loyalty is something that I give too much value to to think that doesn't exist.

Again, if I just misinterpret it wrong, forget what I said.
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If it came up casually in convo, then it probably wasn't her ASD trying to protect her from getting hit on. Either be a man and ask about it or move on, find a single girl that wants a boyfriend.
Coming to think of it; We were talking about weird surnames that people had when she said "Oh, but my BF's surname is XXXX - that's one weird name" followed by a short line of where he originated from.
Perhaps it was real after all. It would satisfy me if so, knowing I did not let a great chance pass (without being somebody's thief)
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