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| Author: | robke136 [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 12:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | A weird case of one-itis. |
Hi guys, Before I get to the story, let me first introduce myself. Although I've read a few of the most known books, I do not consider myself as a PUA. I do claim to understand 'game' to a rather deep level. The reason I do not call myself a PUA is that I do not go out with the goal of picking up a girl. I forget about any game, have fun with my friends and somehow I usually bring the cutest girl in the bar home. In the last years, I have been this juggling between multiple girlfriends. Most of who know I am also seeing other girls (Sorry, I know this sounds like bragging, but it is necessary information for what comes). So here is what happened about 6 months ago: We were having drinks in a bar where the girlfriend of a friend brought the cutest friend with her ever. We spent only 30 minutes talking, before she had to take the last tram of the evening home. After she left, her friend would come up to me and the conversation would be like this: She: Did you get her number? Me: I didn't ask She: Why not? Me: Because I'm an idiot. She: I know, she wanted me to give it to you. Usually, I would never let such an opportunity pass. But the thing is, I was sooo impressed and instantly in love with her, that the usually so smooth me turned into this incredible AFC. I already fucked up of course by not getting her number again, but like always, they just throw stuff in my lap and her friend suggested me to give me her number afterwards. Long story short, we had a date or two, I was a huge AFC, I saw her with some other guy and she LJBF'ed me. The thing is, that I have never found in any book a story about this kind of one-itis. This one-itis was instant, and did not affect my game at all. On the contrary, in the two weeks that I had about two dates with her, I literally had sex with 6 different girls per week (so close to barney's perfect week hehe, but that's another story). So anyway, after she 'friended' me, I did not hear from her again for nearly half a year. Now, until here, we hadn't even kissed. I was, a real real AFC 6 months ago. So now I was with my friends at this party, and we thought it'd be funny if we dressed up really gay (people were supposed to dress up at this party). We went as playboy bunnies, completely over the top: From bow tie to pompom-tail and you could see our balls pop out of the female bathing costume if you looked closely. Luck was not with me that night, so I thought, and she showed up at this party. But I got on this confidence streak of all those girls tapping my ass and she met me for the first time as the confident guy I am, and not the AFC she knew before. So basically, a few days afterwards, she invited me over to have dinner at her place. We had dinner, watched a movie, she invited me to stay over.. But I was slowly turning into this AFC again, and I could feel how I was losing the attraction I gained the week before. So we ended up cuddling all night (I hate cuddling with a boner). A few days later, I was with the same people I was with when I met her half a year ago, so I invited her over. She said she wasn't feeling well and invited me over to sleep there again. I had an early day at work and she lives at the other side of the city so I refused. After this I AFC'd up again, lost all attraction and she ended up texting 'let's just be friends' this morning, after a radio silence of a week. LONG STORY SHORT: I am not a PUA, I just get girls thrown on my lap. But still, there is this one girl which manages to completely change me when I am with her. Strange thing is that she isn't even that awesome: Except for having the most beautiful eyes, she is just a selling clothes in some store, while I usually seek at least a few cool properties in girls (one girl I am currently dating is a very established lawyer for her age (26), another one is an engineer..). But my one-itis girl, only has those eyes that mesmerise me. So my question is not on how to win her over, I don't care anymore. I do really care about the 'PUA-sciene' part of this. How does this kind of one-itis not fuck up one's game? How can one prevent it? (dating a lot of other girls clearly doesn't work). Why haven't I read anywhere about this kind of one-itis? (I do remember a part in the book by Neil Strauss, where he feels like this towards a girl, but manages to keep up his game and marries her in the end) To all the mPUA's out there who have spent time writing books, and clearly more time thinking about psychology than me, what is going on in here? Did anything similar occur to you? |
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| Author: | smushed [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 12:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: A weird case of one-itis. |
This happened to me in the past. It was a bit different, but basically I had met a girl when I was in a fairly difficult time, she came out to meet with me a year later, but by seeing her it pulled me back into the state I was a year earlier. At some point we were at dinner and I just laughed. I told her that I was really sorry, but I was just too nervous and I couldn't figure out why I was acting like I was. She was sympathetic and really like me, but it was doomed. I'd say it's worthwhile to really work on your game with her. If you can overcome this it will make other girls much easier. First I'd try to interact with her in a place where you know you can stay in the state you want. Text game her and only go out with guy friends that you are in top form with. Avoid one-on-one with her until you can be more comfortable with the feelings she generates in you. Another idea is to avoid letter her decide what you'll discuss at all costs. I can be nervous as hell with a girl, but still constantly change the subject and say unpredictable things. It also might help to describe some more specific interactions here so it can be dissected, especially what happens when you go from confident to big baby. Even writing it out will help you look at what's happening. |
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