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| Author: | Frank_Lee [ Thu Apr 04, 2013 2:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | She just broke up with BF, i don't want mess this up |
Okay short long version- -friends with girl for 3 years while she had a boyfriend (she lives with). We flirt.. Even hooked up (kissed) about year and a half ago during a breakup, they got back as i kinda knew would happen.. Didnt expect much. Just kept it on the back burner. -she called a few times when she had problems with her boyfriend, she would talk about him but we were flirty. -We both acknowledge that we have a weird relationship and theres something there. -past few months getting closer, text or calls usually will end with I love you or miss u. Even she text like "love you, just wanted to remind you"....But one thing that throws me off is that she uses "Love you" alot with people in her cirlce. -Broke up with boyfriend (not on my account or for me) she just moved out couple weeks ago. Within the first week we hung out a lot (her girlfriend around a lot as well) text, called and a couple pecks on the lips when we were buzzed out and about. Really Touchy feelly. -took a step back to give space, the next day after we did not speak she said im "im getting withdrawls from you". I wanted to give more space but that threw me off… -told her I know what she's going thru, Just know that i love you and if you need anything im here for you... she said thank you and was going to get into it deeper and started off like "we are friends right" but i cut her off and said "don't worry about it, i just wanted to let you know, you have enough going on right now." kick myself in the ass for that one. -Calls and text continued. Partied on the weekend with her and some of her friends which she asked me to come hang out. -day after partied did not hear from her, so the following day of no call/nothing I text her make sure she's good . Said she's exhausted which i understand with everything going on, we made it quick and no I love you's or fully ending the text from either side. -The following night i text her to see if her and her girlfriend wanted to have breakfast cause i was going to be in the area.. No reply. - I never tried again after i got no response... its week 2 of her breakup so I figure ok maybe now i give her space its girlfriend time to get over ex which im sure she spoke and seen getting rest of her things out. -Well today is one day over a week. I know what she's going thru but want to call but dont want to cause dont want to be clingy. Mindfuck. - Even tho i know and even told her she's gonna need time... I really like this girl (have not felt like this in years for one) and dont want to screw this up. Any help on what i should do from here would be helpful. Thx in advance. |
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| Author: | mray323 [ Thu Apr 04, 2013 2:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She just broke up with BF, i don't want mess this up |
Quote: Okay short long version-
-friends with girl for 3 years while she had a boyfriend (she lives with). We flirt.. Even hooked up (kissed) about year and a half ago during a breakup, they got back as i kinda knew would happen.. Didnt expect much. Just kept it on the back burner. -she called a few times when she had problems with her boyfriend, she would talk about him but we were flirty. -We both acknowledge that we have a weird relationship and theres something there. -past few months getting closer, text or calls usually will end with I love you or miss u. Even she text like "love you, just wanted to remind you"....But one thing that throws me off is that she uses "Love you" alot with people in her cirlce. -Broke up with boyfriend (not on my account or for me) she just moved out couple weeks ago. Within the first week we hung out a lot (her girlfriend around a lot as well) text, called and a couple pecks on the lips when we were buzzed out and about. Really Touchy feelly. -took a step back to give space, the next day after we did not speak she said im "im getting withdrawls from you". I wanted to give more space but that threw me off… -told her I know what she's going thru, Just know that i love you and if you need anything im here for you... she said thank you and was going to get into it deeper and started off like "we are friends right" but i cut her off and said "don't worry about it, i just wanted to let you know, you have enough going on right now." kick myself in the ass for that one. -Calls and text continued. Partied on the weekend with her and some of her friends which she asked me to come hang out. -day after partied did not hear from her, so the following day of no call/nothing I text her make sure she's good . Said she's exhausted which i understand with everything going on, we made it quick and no I love you's or fully ending the text from either side. -The following night i text her to see if her and her girlfriend wanted to have breakfast cause i was going to be in the area.. No reply. - I never tried again after i got no response... its week 2 of her breakup so I figure ok maybe now i give her space its girlfriend time to get over ex which im sure she spoke and seen getting rest of her things out. -Well today is one day over a week. I know what she's going thru but want to call but dont want to cause dont want to be clingy. Mindfuck. - Even tho i know and even told her she's gonna need time... I really like this girl (have not felt like this in years for one) and dont want to screw this up. Any help on what i should do from here would be helpful. Thx in advance. Give her a couple weeks and don't use "thanks in advance." |
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| Author: | coolday [ Thu Apr 04, 2013 3:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She just broke up with BF, i don't want mess this up |
Give her a couple week to recovery and bounce back. Additionally, you can talk to her best friends to get some updates. When you talk to her friends, you should only focus on her which means it is all about her recovery and get her better not when you and her can start. Like you said, you guys been knowing each other for years, so it isn't too bad to take things slow and let her know that how much you care about her. Again, you don't wanna a rebounce or the guy that tries to get in with her after recent breakup. At this time, girls might be vulnerable but they might guard themselves harder and perceive things different as what you intend. Furthermore, to create more bonding, you will definitely need to show how much you care about her, your understanding of the situation and emotion support. Good Luck man! |
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