Sorry this is a bit long, but it's worth reading it in the end. I met this girl at my work place. we never spoke for about 2 months. I never liked her and she never liked me. I thought she was very arrogant as she avoided eye contact with me. and she thought I was also conceited and walked with my chin up all the time. When you look at her, she appears to have so much depth. and according to her I do too and was one of the reasons she liked me. She liked the fact that i appear very professional, and dress very nice, and formal in my speech as I my conversations are interesting. A little background about this girl. She has alot of friends and is well loved. She has a hard time opening up to her emotions. She is a hard worker. dresses very formal yet with style. She's very smart, mature, funny, and super nice, but can stand her ground. One night, when we were closing I decided to approach her as she kept looking at me alot from far. She ofcourse already hated me because she thought I was an asshole and ignored her. but she gave in, because I was very playful with her, and was very creative in asking for her number. It was a piece of cake to sleep with her. I invited her to my house and she knew right off the bat what we were gonna do. Even if I told her we were going to work out
we were friends with benefits for like a month, but eventually we got much closer, and she became a good friend. neither of us revealed any feelings as she had a boyfriend. Yes she cheated on him. but keep reading. but I sensed she was liking me instead. after another month. she was calling me baby. and little by little we got closer and now we are in a relationsip and was developing feelings. Her boyfriend was very nice and she was with him for about 2 years. She doesn't really like assholes but she also likes a man who stands up tall and appears to be going somewhere in life, which is why she left him for me, because the guy was a loser and complained about his job too much and didnt do anything about it. He was also very needy. In her life time, she's only slept with 3 guys, her boyfriend, me and some other guy before me who'm tutored her at school and invited her over. She gave in because she hadn't seen her boyfriend in 4 months and since he introduced her to sex and suddenly disapeared on her. she couldn't take it. that scandal lasted for a few weeks and then she cut it off only seeing him 4 times . But I read pandoras box. and it tries to classify women. However, This girl indeed flirts, even if she doesnt notice it. She does it with body language and facial expressions and guys are all on her as well as she's very attractive. She loves sarcasm and reacts well to cocky funny, like a tester would, but didnt give her a direct approach like an investor in the sense that i didn't want something long term right of the bat. She has dated alot of men. and the relationships dont last more than a month, however she only dated one at a time. However, she loves romance and invests greatly in our relationship. So im confused as to whether shes a Tester or an Investor. Although she had sex with me very quickly like a Justifier, and I didnt even have to make her feel comfortable like a denier. She doesn't talk about sex very openly, and has religious background. her father's very strict, and she didn't have many sexual experiences with many men. She also regrets giving in too easily with me as she did not expect me to be such a potential boyfriend and tries to make up for it. She also doesnt dress very revealing. and in sex, she's not very wild but she enjoys it and gets into it when i guide her. She is open to new experiences though. So i dont know if she's a Denier or a justifier..... She doesn't push me away when I put alot of emphasis on sex like a justifier, but she also doens't have to be persuaded alot like a denier.This girl is very balanced. She's very laid back, yet a very hard worker. She studies to get good grades as her family is not very wealthy, but she can be lazy and has to be motivated by her sister to study and is very idealistical but also understands the real world and prepares for it. She feels man and women can be equals, yet she complains when i don't hold the door or be a gentleman lol so she obviously doesn't think so. I thought she could be a TDI, or an NJI, or NJR or TDR. but the girl is not very choleric, she's very sanguine and phlegmatic. All in all i have never met a girl so balanced like her. She baffles me. She's amazing. Attractive,Kind,Friendly,Feminine ,Outgoing,Funny Sensitive,Smart,Clean,Responsible,Mature,Poised and Virtuous,Straightforward when necessary,seeks a gentleman,concerned for the well being of others,Forgiving,Inner Depth,Enjoys deep intuitive conversationsCan cook, and Open minded. SHE'S NOT a Whore,Fake,Attention Seeker,Conceited,Clingy,Overly Emotional,Weak, fragile, overly delicate,Bitchy,Aggressive,Illogical,Plain,Boring,Ghetto,Loud,Lazy,Bossy,Foul mouthed,Naive,or Materialistic. I'm not the nicest guy. I can be a big asshole and very mean according to her. She says I remind her of Damon Salvatore from vampire Diaries as I am very sarcastic. But I can also be very nice and considerate, spontaneous, Smart, Funny and fun, full of depth and intriguing, and a promising future. We are getting very close. maybe pandoras box is full of shit and there are girls out there that are quite balanced. This girl has showed me difference. I don't have to try hard as I am quite balanced myself in personality and lifestyle and I seem to have exactly what she is looking for. I really like her. I just can't understand her to the fullest either and I can't type her because she's none! It's like digging a tunnel and that's the same way she feels about me. I just can't help but seeing her like any other HB that you have to walk a fine line and never being overly sweet as I've had too many experiences with many different types of women and they were all very shallow in the end.so I only kept them for casual fun. But this girl keeps proving me wrong!! What do you guys think? Thanks for the feedback. We've been together for 2 months and our anniversary is in two days.