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I've always been shy and had no self confidence. now that i'm in uni or college I decided to balls up and approach a girl. Uni made it easier to pick up chicks as we have discussion classes for the first year compared to finding a chick in a lecture
I took the opportunity and sat next to some chick that looked cute and started talking to her. I think it went well we ended up talking after class and both asked each other personal questions etc.. I regret not asking for her number after I left but I do see her again next week as we have classes together.
My question is, is it too late to ask her for her number? or when would be appropriate to ask her for her number. Any any tips for conversation topics? I already asked her school related stuff like what shes studying , how shes finding the work and stuff

I'm newb to the site, but not school. So here's 2 cents...
Hell No it's not too late! In fact this may be perfect perfect. You have become a familiar face!
Next time you see her, if you can work in something deep you discussed last week, maybe it will bring her back to that place?
The best IOI with me when I started college, (had classes with girls in them and got numbers), was to mention that I was going somewhere nearby while staying in the conversation, (right after class)sort of like talking to her and walking over to a nearby area with chairs and stuff, so she pretty much has to follow you there while talking after class. (she's following you!) You are then in complete control, and she doesn't know it but she likes it. That is Alpha, without being a douche.
You may have to say something like "here have a seat", or "come on" and gesture to the area or for her to follow right as she is making a response or get that command into your conversation while you say something that prompts a response. So she follows you while responding to you.
Once you have done that once it may become something you guys do regularly, next week she may just go over there with you and it becomes a sort of habit. After that you can get her number easily, she may even volunteer it to you. But you have plenty of time. If you can arrange a meeting for studying or anything you can ask her to text you, and that has a great chance of ending with you getting her #. But continue the convo after you get it, like it never happened. I used to make the worst mistake of getting a hot girls number and walking away right after or ending right with that. Because getting her number was no big deal to you, it happens all the time (even if it was).

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Great job mate. It is not too late to ask her for her number. It never is. Don't worry about the conversation topics. Talk whatever you want. I remember I was like you back when I started uni. I was always worrying that I will do something wrong. With girls, with everything. Right now (I'm 27) I can say that if there is a time for making mistakes it is the college. Talk to girls, talk to people, join some uni organization, put yourself out of the comfort zone. And realize that getting good with girls, aka getting good with yourself is a process. It is going to take a while, it is going to be painful, but it is going to be worth it. Don't beat yourself up for not asking for her number. Know that you are going to fuck things up many and many times in the future. And realize this is the good thing.

Best of luck on your journey,
Defy

May I also ask .. Lets say I keep talking to her like find her interests and stuff and she asks me if i'm flirting with her how should I response?

I'm just worried if she doesn't like me flirting with her what should I do if it gets awkward between us in classes? The classes are pretty small so i'm hoping things don't go sour

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Author:	PecChef [ Sat Mar 16, 2013 7:29 am ]
Post subject:	First uni approach .. Need some pointers
I've always been shy and had no self confidence. now that i'm in uni or college I decided to balls up and approach a girl. Uni made it easier to pick up chicks as we have discussion classes for the first year compared to finding a chick in a lecture I took the opportunity and sat next to some chick that looked cute and started talking to her. I think it went well we ended up talking after class and both asked each other personal questions etc.. I regret not asking for her number after I left but I do see her again next week as we have classes together. My question is, is it too late to ask her for her number? or when would be appropriate to ask her for her number. Any any tips for conversation topics? I already asked her school related stuff like what shes studying , how shes finding the work and stuff

Author:	Defy [ Sat Mar 16, 2013 3:31 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Quote: I've always been shy and had no self confidence. now that i'm in uni or college I decided to balls up and approach a girl. Uni made it easier to pick up chicks as we have discussion classes for the first year compared to finding a chick in a lecture I took the opportunity and sat next to some chick that looked cute and started talking to her. I think it went well we ended up talking after class and both asked each other personal questions etc.. I regret not asking for her number after I left but I do see her again next week as we have classes together. My question is, is it too late to ask her for her number? or when would be appropriate to ask her for her number. Any any tips for conversation topics? I already asked her school related stuff like what shes studying , how shes finding the work and stuff Great job mate. It is not too late to ask her for her number. It never is. Don't worry about the conversation topics. Talk whatever you want. I remember I was like you back when I started uni. I was always worrying that I will do something wrong. With girls, with everything. Right now (I'm 27) I can say that if there is a time for making mistakes it is the college. Talk to girls, talk to people, join some uni organization, put yourself out of the comfort zone. And realize that getting good with girls, aka getting good with yourself is a process. It is going to take a while, it is going to be painful, but it is going to be worth it. Don't beat yourself up for not asking for her number. Know that you are going to fuck things up many and many times in the future. And realize this is the good thing. Best of luck on your journey, Defy

Author:	WildJim333 [ Sat Mar 16, 2013 5:12 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
I'm newb to the site, but not school. So here's 2 cents... Hell No it's not too late! In fact this may be perfect perfect. You have become a familiar face! Next time you see her, if you can work in something deep you discussed last week, maybe it will bring her back to that place? The best IOI with me when I started college, (had classes with girls in them and got numbers), was to mention that I was going somewhere nearby while staying in the conversation, (right after class)sort of like talking to her and walking over to a nearby area with chairs and stuff, so she pretty much has to follow you there while talking after class. (she's following you!) You are then in complete control, and she doesn't know it but she likes it. That is Alpha, without being a douche. You may have to say something like "here have a seat", or "come on" and gesture to the area or for her to follow right as she is making a response or get that command into your conversation while you say something that prompts a response. So she follows you while responding to you. Once you have done that once it may become something you guys do regularly, next week she may just go over there with you and it becomes a sort of habit. After that you can get her number easily, she may even volunteer it to you. But you have plenty of time. If you can arrange a meeting for studying or anything you can ask her to text you, and that has a great chance of ending with you getting her #. But continue the convo after you get it, like it never happened. I used to make the worst mistake of getting a hot girls number and walking away right after or ending right with that. Because getting her number was no big deal to you, it happens all the time (even if it was).

Author:	PecChef [ Sun Mar 17, 2013 1:10 am ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Quote: I'm newb to the site, but not school. So here's 2 cents... Hell No it's not too late! In fact this may be perfect perfect. You have become a familiar face! Next time you see her, if you can work in something deep you discussed last week, maybe it will bring her back to that place? The best IOI with me when I started college, (had classes with girls in them and got numbers), was to mention that I was going somewhere nearby while staying in the conversation, (right after class)sort of like talking to her and walking over to a nearby area with chairs and stuff, so she pretty much has to follow you there while talking after class. (she's following you!) You are then in complete control, and she doesn't know it but she likes it. That is Alpha, without being a douche. You may have to say something like "here have a seat", or "come on" and gesture to the area or for her to follow right as she is making a response or get that command into your conversation while you say something that prompts a response. So she follows you while responding to you. Once you have done that once it may become something you guys do regularly, next week she may just go over there with you and it becomes a sort of habit. After that you can get her number easily, she may even volunteer it to you. But you have plenty of time. If you can arrange a meeting for studying or anything you can ask her to text you, and that has a great chance of ending with you getting her #. But continue the convo after you get it, like it never happened. I used to make the worst mistake of getting a hot girls number and walking away right after or ending right with that. Because getting her number was no big deal to you, it happens all the time (even if it was). Thanks for this, Hmm perfect! we were talking about our plans for the weekend and she said she was working at a event. I will pick up from there

Author:	PecChef [ Sun Mar 17, 2013 1:14 am ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Quote: Quote: I've always been shy and had no self confidence. now that i'm in uni or college I decided to balls up and approach a girl. Uni made it easier to pick up chicks as we have discussion classes for the first year compared to finding a chick in a lecture I took the opportunity and sat next to some chick that looked cute and started talking to her. I think it went well we ended up talking after class and both asked each other personal questions etc.. I regret not asking for her number after I left but I do see her again next week as we have classes together. My question is, is it too late to ask her for her number? or when would be appropriate to ask her for her number. Any any tips for conversation topics? I already asked her school related stuff like what shes studying , how shes finding the work and stuff Great job mate. It is not too late to ask her for her number. It never is. Don't worry about the conversation topics. Talk whatever you want. I remember I was like you back when I started uni. I was always worrying that I will do something wrong. With girls, with everything. Right now (I'm 27) I can say that if there is a time for making mistakes it is the college. Talk to girls, talk to people, join some uni organization, put yourself out of the comfort zone. And realize that getting good with girls, aka getting good with yourself is a process. It is going to take a while, it is going to be painful, but it is going to be worth it. Don't beat yourself up for not asking for her number. Know that you are going to fuck things up many and many times in the future. And realize this is the good thing. Best of luck on your journey, Defy May I also ask .. Lets say I keep talking to her like find her interests and stuff and she asks me if i'm flirting with her how should I response? I'm just worried if she doesn't like me flirting with her what should I do if it gets awkward between us in classes? The classes are pretty small so i'm hoping things don't go sour

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Author:	WildJim333 [ Sun Mar 17, 2013 3:55 am ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Quote: May I also ask .. Lets say I keep talking to her like find her interests and stuff and she asks me if i'm flirting with her how should I response? I'm just worried if she doesn't like me flirting with her what should I do if it gets awkward between us in classes? The classes are pretty small so i'm hoping things don't go sour Good question. I'm always opposed to denying that I'm interested in a girl. I doubt she will ask that but if she does I'm not sure what the perfect or correct response is. If she ask you that, it would have to be a good thing, like a way of flirting on her part. Or maybe a shit test? Shit tests are a good thing, now that we know what they are! I'm sure just ignoring it would work but I would want to say "ha ha (eye contact, and (sort of) slow controlled joking response without ever getting serious) oh boy, heeere we go.... lets just take it easy alright" then right back into the convo like it never happened. Or some variation of that. But I would love to hear an expert answer that. Honestly, it's not a big deal to worry about that. Even if you don't get a date or anything out of this, but you become friends and be seen hanging out and chat around school, especially if you are playfull, will bring your stock up around the school with the other girls. You're gonna do just fine my man! You're in a win win situation! Be a little excited and don't be nervous, you can welcome your anxiety instead of fighting it (if you get any), it will pass faster that way.

Author:	Defy [ Sun Mar 17, 2013 6:37 am ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Quote: Quote: Quote: I've always been shy and had no self confidence. now that i'm in uni or college I decided to balls up and approach a girl. Uni made it easier to pick up chicks as we have discussion classes for the first year compared to finding a chick in a lecture I took the opportunity and sat next to some chick that looked cute and started talking to her. I think it went well we ended up talking after class and both asked each other personal questions etc.. I regret not asking for her number after I left but I do see her again next week as we have classes together. My question is, is it too late to ask her for her number? or when would be appropriate to ask her for her number. Any any tips for conversation topics? I already asked her school related stuff like what shes studying , how shes finding the work and stuff Great job mate. It is not too late to ask her for her number. It never is. Don't worry about the conversation topics. Talk whatever you want. I remember I was like you back when I started uni. I was always worrying that I will do something wrong. With girls, with everything. Right now (I'm 27) I can say that if there is a time for making mistakes it is the college. Talk to girls, talk to people, join some uni organization, put yourself out of the comfort zone. And realize that getting good with girls, aka getting good with yourself is a process. It is going to take a while, it is going to be painful, but it is going to be worth it. Don't beat yourself up for not asking for her number. Know that you are going to fuck things up many and many times in the future. And realize this is the good thing. Best of luck on your journey, Defy May I also ask .. Lets say I keep talking to her like find her interests and stuff and she asks me if i'm flirting with her how should I response? I'm just worried if she doesn't like me flirting with her what should I do if it gets awkward between us in classes? The classes are pretty small so i'm hoping things don't go sour Girl is never going to ask "Are you flirting with me?" Girl like flirting, and she will probably like you flirting with her. That doesn't mean that she likes you though. Your concerns ragarding things might get awkward in the future are based in reality. So for now, good place for practicing hitting on girls would be some places where you don't usually go. Other parts of town, crowded clubs and things like that. Be ready to creep girls out. If you don't creep them out, you are doing something wrong. In time things will start to make sense. Since you are most worried about what to say/what to do, maybe you can focus on Mystery Method for now. There are recorded interviews called Interview Series discussing different topics, and that might be interesting for you in this point. Just please, in two years move to something else. You can also read 60, it probably won't make much sense, but work hard with MM, and some day 60 will make sense, and you will look at this post and laugh. But it is all part of the journey.

Author:	Themagicalone [ Mon Mar 18, 2013 12:23 pm ]
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I also suggest to the OP to keep gaming girls don't put everything on one girl, your at a uni where there are many sluts just waiting to be banged you should be talking to at least 5 girls

Author:	PecChef [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 4:30 am ]
Post subject:	Re: First uni approach .. Need some pointers
Guys I fucked up Well thats what I think I did. . Heres what happened. I caught up with her in the morning because the lecture was cancelled. I talked to her and asked questions like how her weekend was, what she got up to etc.. it all seemed to go well I got her number and we go somewhere to sit we talk more and I seemed to me she was showing some interests she sent some texts to her mate asking them to hang out with her and next thing I know there's a crowd of her friends mostly guys that I assume were friends with her from high school. This is where I think I screwed up.. I was pretty quiet when her friends were around. They were having their own conversations and I had no idea what to say so I was a beta shit and was pretty quiet. I did make some brief conversation talk but I did make it seem a bit awkward. Not really a turnout I was expecting. I had hoped it was just me and her sitting down and talking but I guess now. What should I do guys? I know there's more chicks out there and I don't want to get the case of the oneitis. Forget about her and move on to other girls? or just keep her in my social circle as a friend. Not sure if I should give her a text or not

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