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| Author: | randi_fearthe [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 5:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | First ever approach, how did it go? |
Ok so, firstly I never really go to nightclubs or bars, I'm extremely work oriented, this is a new lifestyle for me. What I realized ( and I don't know if this is because I am physically attractive or not) is that girls will usually hug, talk to me, or just touch me and joke about it, but I am so inexperienced that I don't know how to act on it. This is one situation that I beat myself over when I got home, 2 girls called me over, and just falt out said "you are gorgeous" , I just said thanks, whats your name. then we sat down and just had a good conversation nothing more. both were really attractive. so that's one situation i ruined. then while I was with them, i had to send a text so i just withdrew from the conversation and they were talking among themselves. This even hotter girl comes to me and asks wheres the bathroom, I'm really naive and I give her directions and thats it, she continues to stay around while im seated and shes standing and asks me to walk her there. I pretend to be unneedy and just say "u wont miss it trust me" . the girl still sticks around and just smiles at me while we talk. Explain to me everything I did wrong, because one thing I fear is rejection, that night I got a little cocky and approached the hottest girl and I can tell she was testing me a bit, but it might have been serious disinterest. I walked up and just simply said "hey you, whats ur name" she gave me her name and then I introduced myself and she just said "ok" and thats it. After that I didn't approach anyone. Was that a shit test or what? she just immediatly said ok and smiled like "ok thats nice bye now" but if she was really not interested she wouldn't give me her name anyway? I don't know this is confusing. |
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| Author: | Hunter_Foxe [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 6:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: First ever approach, how did it go? |
The 2 girls you sat with gave you a clear sign they were interested, you shouldve initiated a threesome. Escalate with both quickly, then find out logistics like who are they with and what are they doing tomorrow / do they need to be up early in the morning etc. If they dont sound like they can stay at your place, number close and GTFO, move on to next set. Arrange day 2 the next day with both or your favourite. If its on for that night, it depends what time it was when you met them. If it was early, you shoulda taken them both by the hand, led them to another club, then "continue the party" at your place at the end of the night. The hot toilet girl situation, the correct line woulda been "I'll tell you where it is if you give me your name" shake hands, hold it, eye contact. Isolate her (away from the other two girls) and escalate. The reason you failed is you were hanging around waiting for signs and IOIs. Dont wait for signs, escalate right off the bat. The last girl failed because you were too outcome dependent. Rather than trying to pass shit tests, I ignore them and escalate. Get rejected, escalate. Get rejected 2nd time, move on to next set. If in doubt, escalate. You only have about 4 hours to work your game 10pm - 2am you need to treat time like money. |
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| Author: | Smiley X [ Sat Mar 16, 2013 11:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: First ever approach, how did it go? |
Quote: Explain to me everything I did wrong, because one thing I fear is rejection
No worries, buddy. Nights like this happen sometimes. I'm new at this, too, and I go through my fair share of rejections. When it comes to being afraid of the rejection there is a certain question I ask myself:"Am I more afraid of a possible rejection, or am I more afraid of the regret of not trying." I'm at a point where I can handle the rejection. It's not that big of a deal anymore. What I can't handle is regretting a missed opportunity and wondering "What if...?". Don't dwell on what happened here. Take a look at what went wrong and just try to fix it for next time. You got this, player! |
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