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| Author: | TLEE [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 10:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | I might of just friend-zoned myself.... |
I might well be overreacting by quite alot, but from what i have read i shouldn't of done this....? I work with her, and normally i tease her quite a bit, she responds well, I also very rarely have a serious/deep conversation, but one night she said she was fed up and pissed off (not at me, just at life and the direction its going) Now i have read on here that you shouldn't really listen to her issues and her complaining as that will lead you to FZ But i felt bad for her, and i thought it COULD work in my favor as then we have a deeper connection with things and a better understanding. So i let her talk about her direction in life and how she feels it is pointless, calling herself thick.... (I joked that she needs to stop fishing for compliments, cos she is fishing in the wrong pond) but i reassured her of her decisions. I asked her what her dreams and aspirations was... she has none apparently.... She then goes on to say that she worries everyday about doing her desired job and being in the "real world" and it annoys her...I told her my view of which is, if it's is out of your control, you cannot do anything about, as long as you do and be your best, there is nothing more you can do so stop worrying.. I then joked i need to charge her for this shit... Now i feel i might well have made a mistake by doing this, and could of FZ myself... Do you think this is the case?? P.S. I won't become her emotional tampon and she does know that because i'm not that kind of person, She just seemed down.. |
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| Author: | N1ck9141 [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 2:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I might of just friend-zoned myself.... |
By the sounds of it for this interaction yes you stuck yaself straight in the friendzone the hardest and fastest way possible, and although u where playful with jokes with can make things worse cause it appears comforting and no longer playful, it you follow... my recommendation is to ignore that the conversation ever happened carry on as normal at work, dont mention anything to her about the talk even if she thanks you just say dunno what your talking about with a smile... talk to a few other girls take some photos with other girls keep them on ya facebook or social site that i assume she will see...and avoid talking to her outside of the office for short amounts of time, and it should make her see it as a one off...and your still this MAN!!! who has needs, but she has also for a brief time seen behind the curtain so not a bad thing, just play it well now |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 3:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I might of just friend-zoned myself.... |
Don't write it off yet. One of my best friends is a super hot girl, whom I AFC'd my way into the friendzone with about six years ago now before I knew about this stuff. I was her complete emotional tampon, and I often still offer her advice and guidance. Anyway, my point is that she told me she did fancy me for a long time (but I couldn't escalate), despite my total AFCness, so having one deep emotional conversation with a girl isn't necessarily a death knell. |
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