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Author:  ThePlumber [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 1:56 am ]
Post subject:  Did I make her prove her value too much?
Hey,

So I ask a girl on Saturday to go to a friend's BBQ on Sunday that was from 12 - 3 and she says "I would love to." I said cool I'll call you tomorrow morning to plan the day out. I call her around 11am no answer and then she calls back at 12:30 saying that she woke up late bc of the time change. I said cool no problem, I'm actually running late bc something important came up at work.

By 1:20 we make plans and end up settling that I'll pick her up because her house is kinda on the way, and then we were going to a festival going on after the BBQ. She texts me 15 minutes later she texts me that she still needs like 30 - 45 minutes to get ready and she'll meet me there. I said "yea that's probably better. See you there."

At 2:50! she texts me and says "hey what's the plan..." I wait like 10 minutes and text her back that I was having a great time and that the BBQ was ending around 3:30 so dont worry about meeting up here." She texts me around 4pm with "meeting up with Monica at the festival." I said that was cool, and that it wa sa great day to be outside.

My strategy was:
1) She knew what time the BBQ was and didnt plan for it
2) She took nearly 2 hours to get ready
3) I didn't want to go to the part of the date she planned if she didn't make it to the part I planned.

So the next day, I text her with something funny and we get into the rest of each other's Sunday. I told her I met up with some other friends after the BBQ to watch the basketball game and ended up dancing spanish music instead. Later we start talking about a pool party happening soon and I told her I would be the guy fist pumping on a couch. Then asked how she would stand out at the party.

Her: "I'll just look good"
Me: "hahaha you might need more. There's always of plenty of girls looking good"
Her: "Nope, not like me"
Me: Oh?? Why are you so special?

So did I come across too strong? Was I too serious in asking "why are you so special?"

As always thanks for the help.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 2:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Did I make her prove her value too much?
bleh, why are you so scared of asking such a simple question? By the way, you could have totally teased her for taking so long to get to the barbeque. When she took two hours you could have teased her about how she is such a girl or how she really has to get that clock fixed or she is bad at telling time...


Back to your question. You are just challenging her to prove herself to you and I don't see anything wrong with that. There isn't anything wrong with that. Most guys would have probably negged her to smithereens or kissed her ass at that point. You aren't doing too bad. Keep it playful and amuse yourself with this one!
Author:  ThePlumber [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 2:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Did I make her prove her value too much?
Thanks for the feedback! Good to know that I'm using some of tips I've learned here.

I actually told her "Geez, I didn't know I was picking up a princess" after that 2 hour getting ready session. I didn't want to make the story longer than it already is by adding that.

The convo ended almost 2 days ago, and I haven't gotten a response. How do I reengage the convo? Do I mention that she didn't answer or just ignore that she didn't answer and move forward?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 3:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Did I make her prove her value too much?
always start fresh with a conversation thread through text. Don't text too much though. Try calling her once in awhile. Text is just a means of keeping on her radar, doing a bit qualification and comfort and then go for the meet up. Main focus should be on the meetup!
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