March 8
I NEED YOUR HELP WITH THIS ONE
Background story
Invited one of the girls that is friends with my ex to watch a movie. My ex has a social group of 5 girls...I slept with two of them and if I had slept with this one, it would have been three.
The Night
We watched some dumb movie called stake land and it was just so bad. I was actually interested in watching the movie because it got decent reviews on some hosting website. Halfway through the movie I was borrreed and so was the girl. So I decided to increase the sexual tension
. I started tickling her and wrestling with her. The first few times I just amped up the sexual tension and placed my face close to hers and backed off. After 3 more times in total of doing that I kissed her briefly. Next thing you know, I tell her I will be right back. I went to go and get some water and come back to her. I proceed from where I left off. I go for her breast and she smacks my hand away...uhhh, okay. I back off. I kiss and kiss and go for more sexual spots. Mind you I am caressing ALL of her body and not just her breasts. I knew something was up.THE PROBLEM I NEED HELP WITH
I am apparently tooo cocky or have too much of a big ego. These were her shit tests. At first I dismissed these tests and she was shit testing me while kissing me and grabbing me. I knew she wanted me but her anti-slut defense was on high alert. She gave me the shit tests of "oh, I bet no one ever turns you down", I felt like this was a double edged sword but decided to answer with "I think it is sexy when you deny me" with a cocky smile. I don't know if this encouraged her.... Even with the high attraction, I could not touch her breasts?! So, I dive in a little deeper and calibrate my cockiness with genuine curiosity. I find that she is aware that I have slept with my ex and another girl in the same social group and that she and this other girl were not interested in being considered hoes.
More shit tests. I told her not to call the girls I slept with hoes and she then came at my ex. I defended my ex by saying that she should not call her a hoe and that the relationship between my ex and I just didn't work out. That ended that. Next came the other barrage of shit tests, she started to try to control the situation, by asking me who the real me was, blah blah blah, and sarcastically saying there is another side of me. At this point I stopped talking. I told her to lay down with me and we did. Laying down calmed my nerves. We started talking about other shit besides what was going on in the moment. She was digging it. My poor roommate was outside waiting for me to finish up and I may have killed the moment of being a "nice" version of myself by groping her and I guessed it pissed her off.
She was a little annoyed but I figured she wanted to suck me into a frame of being a nice guy and a potential boyfriend. Hell no. I escalated again. I told her that I wasn't going to lie to her to get into her pants. I am a genuine nice guy but don't expect this shit all the time. I wanted her to see me as a lover and a guy to fuck rather than a potential partner. So, I walked her out to the door. She was annoyed but I knew it was for the best. I sent her a text afterwards telling her it was great talking to her and that to handle those kids back home! (she was working a charity event over the weekend).
Any tips guys? I became genuine but I felt that she was trying to push me into a role that I didn't want to play. If there is a next time ( I assume it will happen
), I think I will gauge her expectations to make for sure that she doesn't get the wrong idea. She is a good kid, but I am not in it for relationships right now. I want to look for the right one and test the field.