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Author:  Hunter9 [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 2:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Should I just give up? Need help
Ok guys. I spent the past hour of my night out yesterday buying alcohol for me, a pal and a girl who he was flirting and kissing with and both me and my pal ended up going home alone. We were out and I was the guy who sits in the corner alone. It seems I'm my own worst enemy, I'm an average-ish looking guy and I feel like a lost cause. I'm 18 from UK and going to university soon (possibly a few mile away) I keep tellin myself the reason I'm not with any girls is that I "don't see the point, I may be leaving soon" or "I'm not interested, I'm happy". I'm sick of excuses, I only seem to get interest from girls when they are looking. For an average guy they can't lose with. I seem to go in and out of this community and learn things but haven't got a clue how to apply them. I make excuses to why I don't need girls and even if I wasn't I don't have the confidence to go and talk to a random 7/8 or above and pull with her, I have a monotone drony voice that I'm positive will bore them anyway. Help me before I die under this lonely rock I have crawled under? Any responses are valued, no matter how relevant. Thanks guys
Author:  DboTheHero [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 3:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
STOP putting yourself down my friend. If you are approaching women with the thought that you're going to fail, then you will fail. Remember that even the best PUAs don't get the girl every time. I pick up girls because it's fun, not because that's all there is to life. Keep it fun and keep positive. And be confident in yourself!
Author:  sharpening claws [ Tue Feb 26, 2013 6:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
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STOP putting yourself down my friend. If you are approaching women with the thought that you're going to fail, then you will fail. Remember that even the best PUAs don't get the girl every time. I pick up girls because it's fun, not because that's all there is to life. Keep it fun and keep positive. And be confident in yourself!
^ THIS !
Author:  breezy86 [ Tue Feb 26, 2013 6:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
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Ok guys. I spent the past hour of my night out yesterday buying alcohol for me, a pal and a girl who he was flirting and kissing with and both me and my pal ended up going home alone. We were out and I was the guy who sits in the corner alone. It seems I'm my own worst enemy, I'm an average-ish looking guy and I feel like a lost cause. I'm 18 from UK and going to university soon (possibly a few mile away) I keep tellin myself the reason I'm not with any girls is that I "don't see the point, I may be leaving soon" or "I'm not interested, I'm happy". I'm sick of excuses, I only seem to get interest from girls when they are looking. For an average guy they can't lose with. I seem to go in and out of this community and learn things but haven't got a clue how to apply them. I make excuses to why I don't need girls and even if I wasn't I don't have the confidence to go and talk to a random 7/8 or above and pull with her, I have a monotone drony voice that I'm positive will bore them anyway. Help me before I die under this lonely rock I have crawled under? Any responses are valued, no matter how relevant. Thanks guys
You seriously need to work on your confidence BEFORE you start approaching girls man- I'm serious. When you are confident, you won't be 'needy' (care much about the outcome- whether you get the girl/laid or not), won't be too 'try hard' (naturally flirt) and won't show any weakness (in your body language or speech) and will NATURALLY attract girls- trust me. I was not getting much results UNTIL I worked on my confidence/inner game. It is the MOST IMPORTANT factor in attracting girls. You NEED to start BELIEVING that you are a motherfucking BOSS! that all the women WANT and eventually it WILL become a self-fulfilling prophecy, my friend.

If you need any pointers on how to work on your confidence/inner game, send me a PM.

Good luck, man and START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF!! 8)
Author:  bundy [ Tue Feb 26, 2013 6:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
give up!? FUCK no! just like the dude above me said, you are THE FUCKING MAN if girls dont want to get with you its their fucking loss

you are the prize, surround yourself with good friends and pursue interests like sports, exercising, fishing, whatever floats your boat, make your life enjoyable. it will shine through when you talk to girls, you will be happy within yourself, happy with who you are, and girls will naturally be attracted to the confidence, charisma, and good vibes radiating off of you.
Author:  PUA Reality [ Wed Feb 27, 2013 4:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
Get yourself in a social mood when you do go out. The first one or 2 approaches of the day are always terrifying, but afterwards the momentum will make you not want to stop talking. Find things that will get you in an energetic mood and use that to pump you up.
Author:  Hunter9 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 8:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
I'd just like to post to say thanks to all you guys. Just reading your posts then reading what I said has made so much sense. I know that girls are attracted to confidence, it's like the first thing you pick up on when joining the community and I just posted like a whiney little pussy.
You guys are right and I thank you and wish youse all the best in the future for helping me. PM me if youse have some free time, i'd like to get your opinions on some stuff.

(By the way I meant to put that I bought drinks for me, my friend and a girl and it was my friend who was flirting/ kissing the girl, not me. I just emptied my wallet for them. Just incase you thought I meant I done the flirting)
Author:  hit626 [ Mon Mar 11, 2013 12:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
Little bit overdue on the reply to your post, but I know just what you mean.

I've been that guy for so long as well. You've gotta keep that desire going, that's what it's about. Don't do this for anyone but yourself, it needs to be about your own happiness.

I've recently moved to university and things haven't gone as I planned, but you gotta pick yourself up hey. Keep at it! One of the biggest things all of us need in our life, is discovering our true purpose and following it. When you discover it, you will have so much energy and drive, it will have a knock on effect in other areas of your life.
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
Your self esteem should not come from the women you are sexually interested in. Your frame is: you are the man and all girls have to meet your standard or you get rid of them. That's it, simple.
Author:  breezy86 [ Tue Mar 19, 2013 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
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Your self esteem should not come from the women you are sexually interested in. Your frame is: you are the man and all girls have to meet your standard or you get rid of them. That's it, simple.
Amen!!!
Author:  HardToKill [ Tue Mar 19, 2013 10:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
You're only 18, you have your whole life ahead of you. Dedicate yourself 100% to improving at everything you do, and stop worrying about failing, and never give up.
Author:  Hunter9 [ Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I just give up? Need help
Thanks again guys. Just thought I'd post again just to let you know Im not ignoring the further advice you've given me. I am starting to spend less time playing games and concentrating more on my college work, reading about NLP and planning what I want to do in life, so thanks for the positive advice. When it comes to pick up, I still haven't approached a girl yet and really need to find out where is best to go and practise at it, I've thought about going out and walking my dog because if I see a girl my age it could also be used as a conversation starter but the chances of finding a girl my age who isn't a chav are pretty slim. Any suggestions of where I can pick up girls that would be my age where I won't look like a weird loser walking around alone? Or know any cool NLP or rapport building techniques?
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