So here I am with my second question for you all. I answered a bunch of questions, so now I am asking one for you all
There is a guy I find very attractive. Let's call him Joe. He is naturally outgoing and friendly. I recently joined an organization with him and he is the leader of the group. (that's how i met him) There was recently a multi-day event that our group was part of, and at the last minute he messaged me to invite me. This may have just been part of his duties as the group leader, but I am not sure. I thought it was thoughtful. But at this event, when Joe barely spoke to me, gave everyone a high five except for me, accused me and my partner of cheating when we were playing games, and giving me one to two word answers to questions, I came home from this event positive that he barely knew I existed. I felt left out, and excluded. I was a little confused too because he had seemed vey nice, and during this event he sure made his way around to everybody, it seems and I got to know a whole lot of people, and everyone else was very nice. During this larger event, he wasn't in charge of anything, so he wasn't busy with that kind of thing. But I was pretty sure that, even if there was a lot going on, if he was interested, he'd actually acknowledge my presence, and not barely even look at me, especially when I spoke to him.
Luckily he was the only one doing that, and I was able to get along and have a great time talking to the other people.
In complete contrast to that experience, the next times i saw Joe, he told me that I looked very nice, and noticed that I changed my hair (my own friends didn't even say anything), and asked me questions about myself and actually being very nice to me now. I am definitely on my guard around him, but curious.
Do you guys have any insights into why someone as friendly and outgoing as him would act this way? why is he being all nice now? Do you think he just is "trying to be nice" like he thinks that I need compliments or something?
