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Author:  R.C [ Fri Feb 15, 2013 9:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Girls' mentality
Ok , so I'd like to discuss a point that almost no one seems to even take into consideration.

So say you approach a girl. You even get her digits. Text / call & setup a date. She seems to be very much enjoying you but isn't really into the idea of a date. When you initiate conversation she's very responsive , but doesn't really do that well on her own.

Ok , so by posting this problem 99% of the people here would say "Oh , she's not interested / is just being nice. Move on".

or

"Make her chase you , freeze her out".

And you DO move on / freeze her out, even though you quite like the girl.


What everyone seems to simply not take into consideration is that girls have their own insecurities.

A guy approaching you on the street , steering a conversation with a stranger like it's nothing and even being likable enough to score your digits , as a girl , you don't only think:

"Wow , this guy has some serious balls I'd like to have all over my face sometime".Besides that , it also sub-communicates "Well,this guy is a player , no doubt. There's no way I'm good enough too keep such a stud around , he must be surrounded with chicks better than me 24/7. I'll just end up being hurt".

So obviously , you call her up and she's indulging in the time spent with you but is reluctant to meet up. Others will even be reluctant to text you back. Yeah , girls lack confidence too.

It's the same exact mentality guys sometimes have. If a hottie randomly sits next to you on the bus , your frustrations will be all over you. "She's too good for me". If she opens you and asks you out on a date , that feeling of inferiority will amplify tenfold. "There's no way I'm entertaining enough to go on a date with someone like that ". So what do you do ? You cower and run in fear.Later on you kick yourself in the nuts ,etc. We all know what it's like since we've all been there.

They do that too. "Omg my boobs are too small , my ass isn't round enough , I don't have an hour-glass waist line , I blush when I get nervous , blalbalbalbal - others are so much better."

I really realized these things a while back. I was at a party and some random hb was there too. Didn't know here but knew about 70-80% of the people there.Anyway , I opened her , got some rapport going , started gaming some other girls , got back to her and eventually got her digits. I started texting her the next day , she was responsive and all ,but hesitant to meet up.First my thoughts were that she was playing games.I persisted about 6-7 days on her teasing her with:

"You gonna hit me up with some lame excuses to not hang out again ?"

Anyway , I FINALLY got her to meet and hit it off superbly. Very much later she finally confessed:

"Well, honestly when you walked in the room at that party the girls were all enthusiastic to see you and the guys were treating you with respect. Then you were hitting on girls left and right. I really liked you but I was very intimidated and kinda scared that you were a player. It just seemed like I had nothing better to offer than the next girl".


So yeah,I was literally shocked. She's an hb9 at least and yet she was insecure towards me. Her initial UN-responsiveness towards me was not lack of interest , games or anything. It was good old insecurities.


Furthermore , few days ago I hit a club with one of my girl friends as wingman and wingwomen. I got her hooked with a cool guy. Two days later he texted her asking her out on a date. My girl friend was just about to deny it because "R.C , I really like him but didn't you see how girls were hovering around him ? What could I possibly put on the table ?"

I persuaded her to go on a date with him and she barely accepted. Day after that she was flooding me with texts on how awesome and cute the guy is , how they hit it off , blablafuckingbla. She said that he looked like a total bad-boy but is infact nice. "A nice bad boy , every girls' wet dream" - her words exactly.

Point is , PUA teaches you to not put women on a pedestal and treat her like a godess , but most people seem to still regard her with godess qualities. We learn our methods and mold them as if they have 100% confidence. That's almost never the case.

Sometimes you can help her get out of her shell and she will REALLY shine for you. You won't regret it. Passing up opportunities too fast is such a waste !
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