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Author:  RamDragon [ Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Newbie here, I'm off to a good start but...
Hey Gentledudes

here's a short background about me. I recently got out of a long relationship, about 8 years (almost getting over the pain). So I haven't had a lot of experience with casual dating or the PUA way of dating. I am a 28 years old professional, confident and have social skills. I read up on PUA material and have been field testing/practicing on approaches in public for weeks.

I went out bar/club hopping this past weekend for the first time in a while using direct game and went beast mode. In one night I approached 14 girls, made out with 3 girls and got 4 numbers of the girls that connected with me. The rest rejected me or their boyfriends showed up. 2 of the girls I made out with have been responsive in text and agreed to meet up for coffee or a drink.

I feel more confident now and know I can keep doing this. Now that I am at this point, I am actually confused as to how I should go about dealing with meeting with them, having sex and...then what?

I guess my irrational fear is that most girls want a relationship and will hate me once they sense that all I do is seduce them into sex. I am good at being honest but I also hate hurting people's feelings.

I am a caring person by default and very loving but I don't want to be in a relationship any more. I just want to get to know the girls I meet and have sex with them. How do I go about meeting/dating without leading them on? Do I mention my stance on relationships right off the bat when I meet them? or am I thinking too far ahead?
Author:  heat2 [ Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Newbie here, I'm off to a good start but...
You're thinking wayyy too far man, relax enjoy the seduction process, enjoy their feminine energy, enjoy the fun..

It's not your job to think about the relationship, you have to let them ask you questions about it..
Somewhere in all those girls there is one that is right for you and one that you will like, so I play it like this..
Whenever they start asking: "what are we?","do you want a relationship?" and stuff like that I just reply something like this..

You are very special to me, i wouldn't be here if you weren't. I wouldn't make love to you the way i do if you weren't special to me.

All i know now is that i want you in my life, and i want to see you again-and it better be soon becouse we always have fun together, you help me relax. I can be myself with you. Our chemistry is amazing.

That's all i want from you now, i'm not going to tell you what I think you want to hear. I can only tell you what i'm feeling.

(i picked this up from vin di carlo, and in most cases this is all true, but most men don't have the balls to say it)

If she sticks around after this, and puts effort in being with you, you know u've found a good girl that will please you and then you can deside where to take it from there :)
Author:  RamDragon [ Sun Feb 10, 2013 9:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Newbie here, I'm off to a good start but...
Quote:
You're thinking wayyy too far man, relax enjoy the seduction process, enjoy their feminine energy, enjoy the fun..

It's not your job to think about the relationship, you have to let them ask you questions about it..
Somewhere in all those girls there is one that is right for you and one that you will like, so I play it like this..
Whenever they start asking: "what are we?","do you want a relationship?" and stuff like that I just reply something like this..

You are very special to me, i wouldn't be here if you weren't. I wouldn't make love to you the way i do if you weren't special to me.

All i know now is that i want you in my life, and i want to see you again-and it better be soon becouse we always have fun together, you help me relax. I can be myself with you. Our chemistry is amazing.

That's all i want from you now, i'm not going to tell you what I think you want to hear. I can only tell you what i'm feeling.

(i picked this up from vin di carlo, and in most cases this is all true, but most men don't have the balls to say it)

If she sticks around after this, and puts effort in being with you, you know u've found a good girl that will please you and then you can deside where to take it from there :)
Thanks for the advice heat2 and I agree with it :) I'll enjoy the moment, have fun and be honest about my feelings.

I have some questions...
What do you say or do when the girls you are seeing asks you if you are seeing other girls? also is it OK to go on dates with multiple girls in the same week without letting the others know that you are?
Author:  heat2 [ Sun Feb 10, 2013 9:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Newbie here, I'm off to a good start but...
[/quote]
I have some questions...
What do you say or do when the girls you are seeing asks you if you are seeing other girls? also is it OK to go on dates with multiple girls in the same week without letting the others know that you are?[/quote]

This depends on who you are as a person. I would go for honesty, i wouldn't lie to them. Tell them what your choice is and see how they decide to react. If you want to have multiple girls it's your choice and yours alone and if a girl disagrees with that then she's obviously not your type. Basicaly, whatever a girl asks you just be honest about it, don't hesitate just tell her what the hell you think, she will respect you more for it. You might lose a few girls in the process but hey, at least we have girls everywhere :D
Author:  ian_mezza [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 6:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Newbie here, I'm off to a good start but...
Keep your confidence and you should be doing well.
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