This is mainly directed at those who have some and a lot of experience, but others feel free to chip in.

Ok guys so I've come quite a way, but there's one thing that's still stopping me from getting what's want. You could call it a sticking point. It's the fact that I still care too much. I just care. I care about the girl, I care about getting the girl etc. I'm direct and all that stuff. But I still care. Even though I've got a chick the new ones I meet and LIKE I want to get, I care if I don't get them. I preach the whole don't care if you get her or not and he outcome independent, and I try to follow my own advice, but it's still there. And recently some chicks that I could've gotten turned me down because I care too much.

I know some of you guys out there had the same problem an a lot of you still do. So to those who did once care and now not so much or at all anymore, what did you do? What does it take? I want to stop caring because mini-oneitis and oneitis sucks and controls me for a time. There's such a fine line between wanting the girl and caring if you get her. I know it's all mindset but how the hell do you get there? I rationalize about this stuff but somehow that isn't really working.

Any help and advice, especially from those who are experienced, is much appreciated.