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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 12:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Paying for her shit. |
Ok so here's the deal. I'm a college student. I live in a dead-end country(Romania-Europe). I am from one of the biggest dead-end 'zones' in that country and have now moved to a more prosperous city for advanced studies.I'd say that about 8/10 students have the 'qualifications' to be able to take up college but because of the disastrous financial situation of where I'm originally from , just 1 or 2 out of those 8 actually can afford college education. I wouldn't go as far as calling it a third world country but it's pretty bad. In any case , my parents are going through some tough struggles to support me here. I have every intention of getting a job to help them out. Ok,enough background. Now , our beautiful society (sarcasm) has empowered and encouraged women to think that they deserve the world , the moon , the sun and everything in between. Some (and by some I mean quite most) girls have this inherited idea that WE are supposed to PAY for their SHIT just because they got a pair of perky boobs and a cute ass. Ironically they do not realize that if they don't want to be treated strictly as such , they have to offer a lot more than that. Alas , I was on of the guys who did pay for girls a few years ago. Then I met 1 girl who said "No,I don't deserve it,I'll pay my part". I never really understood what she meant until later on. We or our parents (when we're a little younger) work every single day for the money we earn. To actually spend that money on a different person (specially one you just met)is a way bigger deal than people seem to understand. Doesn't even matter if your filthy rich or poor as fuck. Hence,paying for some hb you just met make no sense at all in my mind. It's like the supreme AFC move "Hey,can I buy you a drink ?" Why ? What did she do to deserve that drink ? Here mere presence would suffice ? oh,wait,I see,you're trying to buy her attention.Same with paying for dinner. Are you REWARDING HER for going out with you ? I'm not saying I'd never pay for a girls meal or drink. I would , if I deemed her worthy. And that would happen in a few months of getting to know her. Her level of hotness or the quality of sex would have nothing to do with it. A strong character however,would. Regardless, some chicks would go as far as being offended by the idea of splitting the bill.I understand the idea of the man having to provide. I am a man ,I will provide , but only to those I deem worthy. "Oh,I see,you're that cheap" she would say. At that moment I would feel an incontrollable urge to punch her in the face. I just cannot stand that amount of superficiality.I'm not even joking. I mean,my folks back home are eating 2 times a day instead of 3 in order to give me a shot at a strong future and you're standing in front of me offended that I don't pay your shit ?...aah,that urge is so powerful. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 12:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
It is what it is. Starting out on first dates you sometimes need to foot the bill, otherwise you come across as being cheap and low-class. But what I do when I start dating girls is let them know I'm not paying for shit every time we go out. |
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| Author: | NLWackooo [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 12:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
Hey man i hear ya! Went out a couple of times with a HB few weeks ago. First time we went for some drinks, and to my suprise she paid for it. the time after that i paid for it, so we kinda took turns....... it came as a total shock because i wasn't used to it. but now i see how it can be! Never pay for a Hb on a (First) date because she hasn't earned it. You can always buy her something, but do this when you are further on in the relationship. or when you truly want to buy her stuff, do not do it for the wrong reasons like " buying" her time and attention... hope this contributes! |
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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 1:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
Quote: You can always buy her something, but do this when you are further on in the relationship. or when you truly want to buy her stuff, do not do it for the wrong reasons like " buying" her time and attention...
Yes,ofcourse. Like I said it's nothing wrong with buying her something if your in a relationship but your reasons have to not exceed the "just a token of my attention" limits. If you're trying to buy yourself out of a fight / buy yourself into sex , basically if you have any hidden agendas women will feel that shit miles away and you are simply done.
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| Author: | -..-.-.-.- [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 6:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
I personally find it a good idea to split the bill on a date, but maybe get her something small afterwards. Could be ice cream, a shot... just a tiny extra, but not the whole thing. It shows that you're willing to give, but not willing to provide for her financially. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Fri Feb 08, 2013 7:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
Or you buy the first thing, her the second, and so on. That way both people can feel like they are paying for all of something and treating the other, when the reality is that you are essentially splitting everything down the middle. I bought a girl dinner. Then we went to a bar after and she paid for our drinks. It was a an even deal at the end of the night. |
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| Author: | Malcolm Thomas [ Sat Feb 09, 2013 12:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Paying for her shit. |
Quote: It is what it is. Starting out on first dates you sometimes need to foot the bill, otherwise you come across as being cheap and low-class. But what I do when I start dating girls is let them know I'm not paying for shit every time we go out.
This is the correct advice. Generally you will have to pay for women on the first date. But after that you need to send messages and signals and communicate to her that you are not her SPAM machine and she will have to pay for things as well.
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