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| Author: | triplesecc [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 6:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | HELP!!! Much needed advice from you pros! |
So here's my background: - I've studied the game through books and even signed up for the website for DVDs and all that from Neil Strauss. - I've also been listening to podcasts and any other resources. - I haven't been keeping up for 3 years though. Had a two year relationship that I ended and played around a bit and then met another girl. - Have been with this girl for a few months now. - I'm decently attractive, I have girls commenting on my fb all the time about hanging out and things along those lines but I've been pretty down low since I met her. - I've started my own business in the past and sold it for a modest profit. She liked this aspect about me since she likes go-getters. But as of right now, I'm still doing my own business but taking it easy since it consumed all my time. About her: - She is impulsive - She is pretty self-centered - She's from a wealthy background and always had everything done for her and never had anything she couldn't get. Everything is handed to her. - She get's attached if I'm with her but wears off after a week or so. - In the past I had this one time with her where we didn't see each other for a week and then she grew distant. But we spent two days together and it was more or less back to normal. - She has options and always had options. She good looks, and attractive and stand out from the crowd. - The guy she has been meeting also has his own company making iPhone accessories. My Problem: So this girl has been all over me up until a two weeks ago. She'd wanna spend every moment with me during those times. And we did spend a lot of time together. She got out of a long relationship before I met her where the guy treated her like shit so I gave the "nice guy" image to contrast that which was why it worked at the beginning. She has this tendency where if we don't meet for a long time she would get all distance really quick. Part of the reason why I obliged and met up with her a lot... maybe a bit too much. She now has been distant for two weeks, which made me trip (I am usually cool, but I got pretty emotional since I really care for her and she is the girl I really wanna win over). I know the mentality of thinking she's the one is wrong and all that, but I really don't wanna loose her. I'm pretty certain that she met someone new as of last week and have been meeting up with him. I know she bailed on me once with an excuse that she was sick and ended up meeting him instead from her friend. But she told me again yesterday where she's not sure about me but still wants to see each other to try to work and see if we can make something. Here's the thing. I'm having dinner with her in a 4 hours. This is the first time I'm actually meeting her in two weeks and it's really my one chance of winning her back. I have this anger inside of me for the times she lied to me and how she's been cold these past two weeks. I'm gonna be cooking for her at her place, and I don't know how much free time I have with her since she might be meeting up with people afterwards since she has a friend from out of the state visiting her. What should I do? How should I act, engage in conversation, etc. I know I want to clear everything out today though if possible since I don't wanna keep going in circles. I would be in a huge debt to anyone who helps me... really... any advice at all would be helpful in any kind of manner. |
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| Author: | In$tinct [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 7:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP!!! Much needed advice from you pros! |
I usually don't like to be around people who lie to me. Don't know about you, but I would not want to start a relationship with a girl like this. What makes you think she will be honest with you if you two get together? So just keep this in mind. Well anyway, you asked for advice so I'll give my 2 cents... If you want to stop running in circles, then man the fuck up! If you don't then that other guy will bang the liquor out of her brain and you will be left without pussy. I think it should be clear to her what you want anyway so just act like that. Move forward. Flirt and escalate. About the conversation starter. I can't believe you have a girl coming to your place and you have no idea how to start it. First you will greet her and if the convo doesn't flow from there naturally, then something is fucked up. |
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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 7:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP!!! Much needed advice from you pros! |
Triple, Seen your post - know where your coming from. I'd be glad to offer my opinion take it for what it's worth. We have a lot to cover. I think now we know why the other guy treated her so bad - this is a cycle - who knows, maybe at first he was a nice guy too than got angry - I'm sure you get my point. So I think you have to be careful not to give her the power in the relationship - girls know they can have anyone and she's always looking for the bigger, better deal. Play hard to get, don't be so easy to win over, act like she needs to earn your trust, respect and etc. Be out of her reach but just enough for her to get you. The spotlights on her to win you, not the other way around. Girls like this are texted thousands of times a day and have a rotation of guys, which is why you get so distant. Qualify her a bit - what makes you trustworthy, dependable, honest. She's a liar and possibly a cheater. These people are dime a dozen. YOU DON'T NEED PPL LIKE THIS IN YOUR LIFE. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! So bring her other girls, show you're preselected. Maybe you should hold off on bringing all your emotions to the light, get comfortable with her first, than put it in a professional way. Lastly here's something no one else here will tell you: You'll never be in a happy relationship with someone like that. It's her. She always wants something new and better. Rich ppl are never fullfiled. You'll know her for a couple months and explode. Your the normal one. She's not worth it. I know your emotions are caught up, that's why the game is dangerous at times. But think about it, why sweat it on this one girl that aggravates you when you can be with another that can't wait to see you? You seem like a good guy, us guys do this but don't fall in the mindset that if it don't work it's the end of the world - it's not wise. Be a man, focus, you'll understand. Her personality was messed up when her parents spoiled her, real beauty comes from within. "I pray thee oh God that I may be beautiful within" - Socrates. P.S. If there's anyway I can help - let me know! |
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| Author: | Psych3r [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 7:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP!!! Much needed advice from you pros! |
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone posted: "So here's the story _____, she is awesome because ______, but then for no reason out of the blue she lost interest, but heres the thing _______ , help!!!" It's always the same answer, fix your game or walk away. If you have to say to yourself "this is my chance to win her back!" you already lost. |
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| Author: | triplesecc [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 8:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP!!! Much needed advice from you pros! |
First off thank you so much to everyone that replied. Pinkfloyd123 - Thanks so much. You're right, and I will keep the things that you said in mind when I meet her in two hours. I can see that you are a wealth of knowledge, and I respect that very much. I will do my best tonight, and which ever way it goes, it will be what it will be. But, thanks for understanding and taking your time to giving me valuable advice for my situation. Psych3r and In$tinct - I understand completely. And I wish I had better self control.. I really do. But I opened up too much and I'm very weak to those that I let in, which is rare but it happened. I will do my best to move on, and find someone who is better, and you guys will see me on the forum now frequently. Hopefully, I will eventually be able to help out someone like you guys who run into similar situations. But for now I'm that guy and I am meeting her today. |
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