Hi guys
I'm not sure where to post this question. At first I thought it would be in "Relationships" but then I read the ban criteria. This question is not about my girlfriend. Its about a girl I met a few weeks ago.
Everything went right from the beginning and now that I have learned some of the techniques of PUAs I know why. I did perfect push and pull. So she was into me and I kissed her at the first evening when I met her in a club.
It went on like everythings perfect. She lives in another town about 200 miles away. I visited her, we had a lot of fun an sex and we both enjoyed it very much. I stayed four days and then a week later again for 5 days.
Now comes the part where I ruined it.
She was the one starting to talk about a relationship and I was like yeah why not let it come to us.
But she wanted to hear that we're together so I said we are. Then a few days later she said no where not together. ...few days later again she said she wants me to be the last man in her life... few days later she said again no we're not together.
The problem is now I was the one who wanted a relationship. Since the last visit I haven't seen her for a month because we both study or go to school.
I called her a few times and everything was cool when we talked but then she didnt answer the phone for a week. I was pretty upset and made a big mistake. One weekend I tried to call her about 20 or 30 times. From then on I couldn't even talk to her about that. We only exchanged a few text messages and I became kind of needy and started to beg for a conversation. It hurt me so I was a little pissed of and showed her that it freaked me out. She allways said "I'll call you" but for days she didn't and I couldn't wait for it. So I wrote again and again until the last time when she wrote:
"whats so hard to comprehend when I tell you I'll call you.
we're not even a couple and still its very stressful.
I don't know what you're complaining about again.
I'm not up for that anymore, sorry."
I said lets talk this over but she wouldn't talk to me like the whole time.
At last I got a ok we'll talk about it but not now... and so on
I know that I don't want a relationship with her anymore because she isn't capable of having one.(Even though she told me that she never wanted relationships but now that she met me that changed) She changes her mind like 5 times a day and that doesn't work out for me.
Now here comes the question:
I know that she had a "only sex" relationship before and the sex with her was simply the best I've ever had. And I don't say that because I didn't have much. So I really want to connect with her in that way again.
Can you please give me some advice how I approach her without being needy or pulling her too much?
I thought about sth. like "relationship with you doesn't work for me anyway but the sex was great and you liked it too (she really did... I guess women often lie about that but I believed her when she told it was the best she had... maybe cause she's younger and I have more experience whatever - normally I don't believe such things
- I'm an idiot ). maybe we can keep that going with the both of us being free to do whatever we want and me not calling you anymore so I don't annoy you."But that sounds a little odd to me and I thought you guys definitely know what to do... so please help me...
I don't know if it's better to wait. Or what to do at all like when I call her she doesn't answer. when I write her maybe she's annoyed... She still has a sweater of me and I have a top of her... maybe I can work with that... I want to remind her of the good times we had but I don't know how.
You're the Pro's with women... I trust that you can help me to fix that!
by the way thank you for reading the text ... it's a bit long
