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| Author: | Coachable [ Thu Jan 31, 2013 5:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | Ex randomly messaging me need advice how to play it! |
Hi everyone, So long story short I worked with a girl who Broke up with her bf to date me. We dated for the summer had a great time but then she called it off and went back to her ex.I didnt hear from her for 3 months until the holidays. she msged me on christmas and new years and we had a nice drunk talk. So a couple weeks after new years she msgs me and asked me to come to one of her basketball games since I was talking about it on new years. I find out she has broken up with her bf again and it sounds like its for good. She already admitted missing the great sex we had and wants to "hang" out after her game.I am worried because her whole basketball team knows about me and wants to meet me and I have no idea how to approach that? My second question is from the sounds of all this does it sounds like I'm just being used for sex? I would like to date this girl but my thinking is if I just give her what she wants she may not even want to date and just be friends with benefits which I'm not really looking for. The advice I get on here always seems to be bang on and be along the same lines as what I am thinking I appreciate all your responses. Cheers... |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Thu Jan 31, 2013 5:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex randomly messaging me need advice how to play it! |
So she dumped her boyfriend to be with you, a few months later she dumps you to go back with him, and now she just broke up with her boyfriend to perhaps be with you. Do you not see what's wrong here? The two types of women you DON'T want to date are 1) cheaters and 2) serial monogamists. She appears to be the latter. Serial monogamists get bored of relationships rather quickly and don't have much direction in life. So, if you still want a relationship with her, then good luck. There are things that are just beyond your control, and as far as I know, there is no PUA material that helps you stabilize unstable girls. |
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| Author: | Coachable [ Thu Jan 31, 2013 5:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex randomly messaging me need advice how to play it! |
yeah that's definitely two good valid points.The thing is she did date him for years and it was her first bf. I think that's the only reason she went back. I believe she realized she made a mistake which could be the case. But at the same time it's what I want to believe because I never really got over her. What would you suggest I do? Just call it off and stop talking or play it out? |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Thu Jan 31, 2013 6:22 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex randomly messaging me need advice how to play it! |
Well if she DID date him for years, then that's a different story. Still, keep in mind you may just be a rebound and not definitive boyfriend material in her eyes. Nevertheless, game her the way you would any other girl and avoid talking about your feelings. Let her do that. |
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