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Author:  GoodFella7 [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 8:38 pm ]
Post subject:  How long to text back? Help!!!!
So slept with a girl I knew last week and texted her 3 days later but she didn't reply until today (2day late) saying she was busy etc etc. know do you guys think I should text her back today or leave it for another time? (she texted 4 hours ago) cheers!
Author:  Fly_Swatter [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 8:41 pm ]
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That's fine. Don't panic. Her taking so long to text back is not a good sign. Take just as many days to text back as she does. So wait until tomorrow or after tomorrow. "That's fine, I've been busy too. [insert witty banter or DHV short story] How's life been for you?"
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 8:52 pm ]
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That's fine. Don't panic. Her taking so long to text back is not a good sign. Take just as many days to text back as she does. So wait until tomorrow or after tomorrow. "That's fine, I've been busy too. [insert witty banter or DHV short story] How's life been for you?"
Great advice! Like the idea of turning the busy part around, she's a very popular girl so she gets a lot of lads bothering her so can partly understand the delay but don't like coming off needy. Cheers 4 the reply!
Author:  CallMeAlfie [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 9:23 pm ]
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This "I'm busy" type of excuse is almost 100% of the time a huge bluff. No one is ever this busy that you can't spare 30 seconds of your time to text someone.

You waited 3 days to text the girl after sleeping with her. You are playing your game. She takes 2 days to answer you. She is playing her game. And since she is popular, her game is sharp.

I suggest you turn up the cocky & funny to break her "game pattern".
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 9:31 pm ]
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This "I'm busy" type of excuse is almost 100% of the time a huge bluff. No one is ever this busy that you can't spare 30 seconds of your time to text someone.

You waited 3 days to text the girl after sleeping with her. You are playing your game. She takes 2 days to answer you. She is playing her game. And since she is popular, her game is sharp.

I suggest you turn up the cocky & funny to break her "game pattern".
Didn't think of this aspect from your angle but your right! Do you think text today to break the pattern then?
Author:  CallMeAlfie [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 9:42 pm ]
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I would say so. If you take another 3 days to answer, she'll definetely know you're playing. And honestly, you guys will exchange 3 texts a week if you keep going like this.

Don't call her on being busy. Don't justify the fact that it took you x hours to answer. I would text her normally to gauge if she will keep bluffing. If she takes another 2 days to answer, you let go. If she answers straightaway, congratz, you broke this pattern. And then it will be up to you to calibrate the conversation.
Author:  CallMeAlfie [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 9:43 pm ]
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Don't forget to let us all know how it goes.
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 9:55 pm ]
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Don't forget to let us all know how it goes.
Took your advice , just sent a casual reply a minuet ago , ignoring the delay and ill see about the reply , think it was the best thing to do but if she doesn't reply today ill take the high route and just cut it off because the Internet level isnt where it should be. Cheers mate
Author:  Fly_Swatter [ Sun Jan 27, 2013 11:14 pm ]
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She takes 2 days to answer you. She is playing her game. And since she is popular, her game is sharp.
That's a dangerous assumption. Who's to say she didn't take so long to text back because she's half-interested? If she's half-interested, then texting back right away is the worst option. But assuming she's in fact interested, and playing her game, then it's best to play it back anyway. Don't bend and give in to her silliness. Girls like a guy that can put up a front and play their games.

But if the 1-2 day delayed response goes on for a week or so, I would give her a chance by replying right away to a text, and see how she responds. If she responds right away as well, then you know she's been playing games and that also paves the way for opportunities for you two to bond. But if she doesn't respond right away, then it's obviously an IOD.
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 9:04 pm ]
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no text back , guess the interest level wasn't high enough..whats your opinion of what i should do?
Author:  Fly_Swatter [ Fri Feb 01, 2013 9:52 pm ]
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Forget about her and move on. Go out and pickup some more hotties. If you're lucky, she'll come back to you with time.
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Sat Feb 02, 2013 8:53 pm ]
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Forget about her and move on. Go out and pickup some more hotties. If you're lucky, she'll come back to you with time.
Already done mate , best remedy to get over someone. Cheers 4 the help!
Author:  ItsAlwaysOn [ Tue Feb 05, 2013 3:35 pm ]
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i think you handled it fine. that sucks that shes not responding. however, dont be the guy that ruins it by being too needy. you definitely cant contact her again. wait for her to get back to you. she may be interested in hooking up with you casually still. you just need to show her its not a big deal for you. so just wait it out and, like others have already told you, pursue other girls in the meantime. delete her number if you have to.

if you dont hear from her in like a month, then you may wanna consider reopening by lightly texting her low investment stuff.
Author:  GoodFella7 [ Thu Feb 07, 2013 9:09 pm ]
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i think you handled it fine. that sucks that shes not responding. however, dont be the guy that ruins it by being too needy. you definitely cant contact her again. wait for her to get back to you. she may be interested in hooking up with you casually still. you just need to show her its not a big deal for you. so just wait it out and, like others have already told you, pursue other girls in the meantime. delete her number if you have to.

if you dont hear from her in like a month, then you may wanna consider reopening by lightly texting her low investment stuff.
Im letting it go , not chasing the girl even after a month etc. If i see her ill talk casually and act like im not bothered, think thats all i can do , have other girls in the meantime so not pushed. thanks for the reply!
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