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Author:  Moose185 [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 2:05 am ]
Post subject:  Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
I'm in a really tricky situation with a girl. I've known this girl round about 6 to 7 weeks now. We ended up sleeping together twice. I was a bit drunk and she was really into me. If i'm being honest I don't really want a relationship with this girl. Cos we slept together she thinks that I do. She seems very keen and its moving way too fast.

I met up with her tonight for dinner and it was ok but I think she sensed I wasn't really into her as she didn't invite me back to hers.

She still wants to meet me again and keeps texting me. I told her I was really busy and we would arrange something nearer the time.

She is a nice girl though but I don't know how I feel.

The truth is I don't have much experience with girls so I looked at it as any experience is good. I don't know what to do. to carry on or to tell her the truth that i'm not into her. If I do i'll probably get no action for a long time.

Has any been in a similar situation?
Author:  Rough Operator [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 2:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
Well obviously don't bluntly say "I'm not into you."

But be honest and say "I'm not looking for a serious and intense relationship."

Are you COMPLETELY opposed to dating this girl? If you're not sure, why not take things slow and see where it develops?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 5:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
try it out for a bit more and cut it off if you feel like you guys aren't going anywhere. Also, you can slow her down and make her go at your pace if you feel she is rushing things.
Author:  Pickwick [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 8:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
Quote:
Well obviously don't bluntly say "I'm not into you."

But be honest and say "I'm not looking for a serious and intense relationship."

Are you COMPLETELY opposed to dating this girl? If you're not sure, why not take things slow and see where it develops?
This.
Do what feels right. If you want to see her, see her. If you don't, don't.
Don't overthink and push the logical agenda.
You shouldn't lead her on though. That's not respectful toward yourself.
if you don't want to blatantly tell her you're not feeling it or want to take things slow, just analyze some actions toward her and ask yourself whether they show commitment or not. Once you process that, do what feels right.
Author:  anonymous man [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 1:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
Quote:
I'm in a really tricky situation with a girl. I've known this girl round about 6 to 7 weeks now. We ended up sleeping together twice. I was a bit drunk and she was really into me. If i'm being honest I don't really want a relationship with this girl. Cos we slept together she thinks that I do. She seems very keen and its moving way too fast.

I met up with her tonight for dinner and it was ok but I think she sensed I wasn't really into her as she didn't invite me back to hers.

She still wants to meet me again and keeps texting me. I told her I was really busy and we would arrange something nearer the time.

She is a nice girl though but I don't know how I feel.

The truth is I don't have much experience with girls so I looked at it as any experience is good. I don't know what to do. to carry on or to tell her the truth that i'm not into her. If I do i'll probably get no action for a long time.

Has any been in a similar situation?
Off course it's a TOUGH decision you have to take here buddy...

But something like this happened to me before, let me explain what happened. She was desperate about me, she told me she was in love with me. I could've fucked with her, I didn't. After that I was like "damnit, I should've fucked her, I need seeeex!!!!".

And finally, it was better for both. Her heart was still intact because I haven't fucked her, and I met my girlfriend (which i'm still with right now) 2-3 months after and we now have sex errrryday.

What i'm trying to tell you there is: are you the good man or the bad man? Would you like to get played on yourself..?

I'm the good man personally... But each his own eh!

Good luck brother ;),
Jimmy
Author:  ItsAlwaysOn [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 3:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tricky Situation with a girl! need advice!
first of all, stop doing things like going out to dinner with her. if youre not interested in a gf/ltr, then no 'dates' for sure.

second, figure out what you want and be honest with her. do you want a fb/fwb? if so, tell her that you arent looking for anything serious or comitted but that you like the time you spend with her and you want to keep seeing her.

i think a lot of times guys ruin the whole fb/fwb thing by either giving in to the girl (and getting into a shitty comitted relationship that they dont want), by seeing her too often, or by doing too many date-y kinds of activities with her.

the rules are: see her once a week max, no going out for dates, and sex happens every time. this wont last forever, but it will last until she gets tired of it. and that could take up to like 6 months if you play your cards right. and the good part is that she'll cut it off with you eventually so you wont be the asshole who used her just for sex and then dumped her.

also, since you are new/inexperienced with women ill add this: you dont actually tell her all this stuff, you just kinda let it play out that way. also if she gives you any shit (withholding sex, trying to spend too much time together, etc) then you need to freeze her out for a while. hope this helps.
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