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| Author: | Jev [ Tue Jan 08, 2013 11:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Attitude towards the girl |
Bit confused as to what to act like towards the girl you want when picking her up. Regardless of what I appear to be showing on the outside, in my head does it matter what I think, in case it comes out subconsciously through body language and stuff. In my head should I not care if I get the girl or not, or should I let my natural emotions run me and know that I do want her really and hope this comes out subconsciously while still doing all the normal stuff on the outside like negg'ing and showing active disinterest? |
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| Author: | dark one [ Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude towards the girl |
Great question! I'm have no idea why no one has answered it yet! Yes you need to be centered in you self, have solid inner game, and be in the moment. Being your self and peaking is a massive part of attraction! its called being congruent in your words, thoughts, and actions. It builds trust with women, and it shows you are confident and solid in who you are as a person. Don't ever try to be something you not! even when it comes to mood...if u are tired don't try to be anything but tired, tell the girl "man im tired!", this build comfort! women can read when you not being honest or congruent in your actions! For example: Your tired, low energy, you walk into a set and act like your wired! and say "Hey girls I'm having a great fucking time!" then you die down and mellow out a minute later....your not congruent, women sens this and now in their heads think "hmmm his words dont match his actions, therefore he is being fake and is beta, and I can't trust him" you have ruined the set without trying! its built into women to look for patterns in your behaviour, to test you, to see if you are actually who you say you are. A better option in this situation: You: Hey your very cute, I thought I would come over here and say hello Her: Thank you, hello You: I'm super tired tonight! I just worked all day on this amazing project im putting together her: bla bla bla bla Now when you are mellow and calm she doesn't question why. The same goes with you words, if you come in and blasting at a girl, acting like you some bad ass, and 2 minutes later she can see by your actions your a "nice guy" then she will not trust you. You need to work on your inner game, be comfortable being your self, saying what you want, expressing the best you! don't try to use canned material or be something your not! |
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| Author: | Malcolm Thomas [ Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude towards the girl |
Quote: Bit confused as to what to act like towards the girl you want when picking her up. Regardless of what I appear to be showing on the outside, in my head does it matter what I think, in case it comes out subconsciously through body language and stuff. In my head should I not care if I get the girl or not, or should I let my natural emotions run me and know that I do want her really and hope this comes out subconsciously while still doing all the normal stuff on the outside like negg'ing and showing active disinterest?
What you think on the inside while picking up a woman absolutely matters. Why? Because what you are thinking is usually portrayed by your body language. So if you are really nervous and timid when you approach a 10 then your actions will show your cards or shall I say reveal your fears. If you assume attraction then you will act confident, outcome independent and hence more attractive. Your mindset is everything.
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| Author: | Jev [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 1:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude towards the girl |
Cheers, it makes sense to be congruent, like especially with the type mood your in, like fatigue and stuff. But still a bit confused, watched the dvd 'the game annihilation method' and there are so many conflicting messages. Like sometimes hypnotica and steve p are like, the girl will pick up on if you like her or not if you don't know that in your head. But then they say stuff like, you're better than the girl, start picking up on stuff she's doing wrong, like start thinking 'she's talking too fast'. But then mystery is like, you don't want to want the girl, otherwise you've already lost. Also, with the congruency stuff, what if you are anxious and not too confident, you want to show confidence on the outside and act like that as much as you can without SPAM your inner feelings? |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 2:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude towards the girl |
Be congruent to who and what you are. Doesn't matter what Steve P or Mystery say if that's not you. You're basically just asking how to act in set. That's a very involved question. |
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