Hey guys! So I'm actually in a pretty good spot here but I don't want to mess it up. Even if I have no chance with this girl I want to use this as a chance to learn, so please give advice! I started seeing this girl a few months back and we hit it off really well. Then some drama happened (on her end) and between that and the fact that she is moving out of the state soon we decided to just keep it as friends (she initiated this, and I agreed). However, the few weeks after we decided that it was definitely more than friends and we clearly have feelings for each other, its just one big complicated situation. In short, we are friends but we have feelings for each other that we've decided not to act on.
On her recent trip home she told me about this guy that asked her on a date, and then again when another guy asked her on a date. I obviously told her to go for it, and her first question was "why?" This also made me jealous, but it was via text so it was easy to hide. So now to my situation. I haven't seen her in weeks since she left for the holidays, and I usually go to the gym at the same time as her. However, yesterday would have been the first time we had to see each other but I went to the gym early and then went to this girls house. The girl from the gym called me and I didn't answer, then texted me an hour later asking me if everything was ok. Here's the convo:
Her: is eveything ok?
Me: (awhile after she texted me) yea I just got home, was about to call you back
Her: where were you?
Me: Invited to hang at this girls house
Her: I feel like I'm being cheated on!!!
Her: No that's great!
Me: (something about being discouraged about my crossfit training, changing the subject)
Her: (giving me support about my training)
Her: (asking me a question about the competition)
Her: So this girl? Get a kiss?????
Me: Haha you're a dork! (and then other stuff about the competition and training, deflecting her inquisition)
Her: (more support about training, 3 texts in a row) And answer my girl questions! You're avoiding it!
Me: (response to her support and ending the text by calling her miss nosey, still deflecting)
Her: Tell me!!!
There's a long pause and I don't reply, an hour later she texts me again.
Her: I'm jealous!!! What if you have to stop being my friend over a girl
I'm scared! I need you while I'm here you're my best friend!Me: Quit being such a dork!
Her: I'm not! I'm freaking out lol
So there is a lot going on here. The text about needing me while I'm here is kind of a shitty thing to say but on the other hand, NONE of my other girl friends are worried that I won't be able to hang out with them. She also posted on facebook at like 3:30AM that she wishes her brain would shut off so she could get some much needed sleep. She keeps using the word friend and I think that is her way of protecting herself from her own feelings, there's obviously deeper emotions here. So where do I go from here? She will probably keep asking me about this until I give her some information, but I don't want to give her ANY details, there actually are no details to give since I have no interest in the girl that I was hanging out with. I really like this girl and I'd even get into a relationship with her, but due to our circumstances, if she doesn't want that then I'm going to date other people. I guess the advice I'm looking for is how do I handle this girl (as if there was potential for a relationship), what types of things should I avoid saying/doing? What types of things should I say/do? How do you guys handle it when a girl keeps pressing you about another girl, especially if there is nothing to share? It's hard to continuously deflect. Help me learn! Thank you
