I can help you out here because I was in the same situation about 2 months ago. My gf of 4 years (3 years we lived together) and I broke up, it was more her idea then mine because she was not "100% sure" and I was was saving for a ring lol needless to say I didn't take it too well. I moved out, moved back in with my parents 2 hours away, and re started my life...not easy!
My first thought was "the best way to get over someone is to get under one" but I was devastated! couldn't eat, sleep, felt like shit! I didn't even want sex to be honest. All my friends kept telling me "just fuck other women, your a good looking guy you should be out fucking" lol
Then I talked to one of my really good budies who went through the same thing as me, he is heavy into RSD, meditation, bettering his life ect. His told me "For the next month your goal should be to do nothing but better your self as a person, fix the mistakes from your past, and rebuild your self". Those simple words opened my eyes! and I realized he was 100% right! banging randoms is just a bandage do the real problems! You need to deal with the real issues in your life in order to move on from your ex, become better and grow as a person! I have grown more in the past two month then in the past 5 years!
So what did I do? for the first 3 weeks of my breakup I didn't go out trying to game women at all! I focused on me, I went to the gym, perfected my diet, started meditating, started yoga, started reading a lot!! re watched rsd videos, re studied pick up material, started making a plan for my life (on paper), set goals for my self for 2013.
What did this do for me?
- I was able to look back on my relationship and realize what I did wrong and worked on fixing it so it doesnt happen in my next relationship. I also looked at how my ex treated me, and what she did wrong, and it made me realize that she was not the kind of person I want to spend my life with...as much as I loved her she brought the worst out in me at times.
- I was able to re create who I am. I literally have a whole different outlook on life, different goals, what I want in a women has changed dramatically!! and I am more at peace with life now.
- Until I took my ex off a pedestal I was not able to see how shitty she really was to me. My emotions clouded my judgement! I cut contact with her for a month, which was not easy but i helped me heal! My ex was never really that great of a gf, in fact she was horrible! lol she was a beautiful girl (hb 9.5) who was fun, and we had great chemistry but I realized that she was a shitty gf!! and very selfish!
My advice to you is to spend the next month working on your self!
Read the books erroneous by wayne dyer, and awaken the giant within by tony robbins
watch RSD: the blue print
Go to the gym 4 times a week and start eating healthy
Meditate!!!! this really helped me! its not easy to do but it really helps you center your self, and start to live in the moment! once you are able to become "present" your are able to ignore the negative emotions and enjoy the "now". I cant really explain it but its an amazing thing! rsd is big on this for a reason
After 3 weeks I started to go out and game again, I started meeting women, trying shit out, and getting numbers, things got easier and easier, and In the last couple weeks I started dating again...I met one girl who I really like! personality wise she is opposite of my ex, and just as beautiful, and although I'm not looking to jump back into a relationship it makes me realize that there are other women out there who I have chemistry with. Now when I look at my ex I don't get that sinking feeling, I don't feel pain, I look at her beauty as something superficial and common, a trait that can be found in thousands of other women...my ex is dating another guy and I actually told her I am happy for her, it doesn't bother me in the slightest! and in fact I know I am the better man which makes me feel good.
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