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Author:  Outlaw_nl [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 12:15 am ]
Post subject:  Girl keeps canceling dates.
Hee guys,

There's this girl who I F-closed about half a year ago.

She posted something on facebook and I responded on it.
Then we started texting, little chitchat about what we've been up to.
So I asked about her love live and she didn't had a boyfriend since I met her so I replied:
Me: Your also born to be single right?
HB: Haha, look in the mirror
Me: Why do you think I say also? ;)
Hb: yeahh.. I think I've got a bad taste in men
Me: Thank you for the insult!
Hb: Nooo I didn't meant you! I like you..

Blablabla

HB: Soo do you still got different girls every week, or did you have an upgrade to every day?
Me: Haha, dont't exaggerate.

She didn't made a point of it that I got different girls, she even said. Because of that you got experience in bed :)

Her endurance wasn't really good in bed... So I asked: Did you worked on your stamina lately??
She: Haha, You remember that?!? Well, that's for you to find out!

Some more chitchat and we set a date on Monday.
The day before she canceled it because ''She had to stay longer in school''
So we picked another date. This time her excuse was ''Sorry my oral exam is moved! to tomorrow''

I had an operation so I was out the running for about 1 week (needed to recover).
The next date was set on a Friday. this time her excuse was also something about ''school'' !
If you're making up excuses.. please be original! But 3 times in a row school??

I responded with: Ahh oke, well forget it. ;)
HB: I'm really sorry!! I really would prefer to do things with you...
Me: Yeah right.. It would have been nice if you said it earlier, I just said to my boss I couldn't work on Friday.
HB: Really?? I'm so sorry! I'm going to make it up to you, I swear!!
Me: Surprise me.

1 week later she texted me: Are you in the club?? (in my town)
Me: No I still can't go out because of my operation, remember?
HB: Ahh, to bad.. I want to see you, Can you date next week? On Thursday??
Me: Yeah, that's fine.

That day she texted: Heeee I'm not going to make it..! I'm still in ''a town nearby'', and I need to be at a friends place at 8.30! We can meet up in 2013?
Me: I already counted on this ;)
Then she tried to call me but I ignored her call because I was playing Battlefield 3, and that was more imported to me at that time.


Any suggestions why she is blowing off every date?
She even came up with dates herself and even that one she is blowing off!
Author:  360dagod [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 12:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
because you let her...

give her an ultimatum...

tell her to either make up her mind or just cut her off...
Author:  BITmixit [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 12:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
Quote:
because you let her...

give her an ultimatum...

tell her to either make up her mind or just cut her off...
Yeah urm...don't do this. Ultimatums are a turnoff and girls hate them. Ultimatums really only work when a girl can't get enough of your cock.

OP: Whats confusing me is why your reacting in weird ways. Look:
Quote:
I responded with: Ahh oke, well forget it.
HB: I'm really sorry!! I really would prefer to do things with you...
Me: Yeah right.. It would have been nice if you said it earlier, I just said to my boss I couldn't work on Friday.
HB: Really?? I'm so sorry! I'm going to make it up to you, I swear!!
Me: Surprise me.
Don't do the whole "im gonna moan at you for changing your plans" just act like you don't care and perform a MILD freeze out. e.g

HB: I'm really sorry!! I really would prefer to do things with you...
Me: Awh cute. Its okay, i've had another offer now anyway, next time ;)

Then she'll spend the time she isn't with you being all "what the fuck why doesn't he care, who is he with, is it a girl, are they having sex, they must, fuck i need to stop flaking!"
Quote:
1 week later she texted me: Are you in the club?? (in my town)
Me: No I still can't go out because of my operation, remember?
HB: Ahh, to bad.. I want to see you, Can you date next week? On Thursday??
Me: Yeah, that's fine.
Investment, this is really good.
Quote:
That day she texted: Heeee I'm not going to make it..! I'm still in ''a town nearby'', and I need to be at a friends place at 8.30! We can meet up in 2013?
Me: I already counted on this
This isn't great but:
Quote:
Then she tried to call me but I ignored her call because I was playing Battlefield 3, and that was more imported to me at that time.
She tries to call you...and you ignore her. Ok your kinda half way there with this one. If she called you after flaking then yes ignore it but then call her back like half an hour later or whatever and be all "WHen did you call? I was busy and shit."

You need to make this girl realise that any time she gets with you is worth something otherwise she'll just flake a lot.
Author:  360dagod [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 1:27 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
if you have pussy on standby,you have leverage...

I can see if your in a drought or something,but how much flaking are you going to put up with??
Author:  GKS [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 6:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
I agreed with BITmixit. Ultimatum isn't really a guy's forte. Unless you're in much better and higher social status than her, then it will work. But most of the time, women will always think they're the ones that should give ultimatum. Once you give them one, the logic switch flips and they turns off.

As for handling flakes, the best way to do it is being non needy and wouldn't care less about it. In life there are so many things you can't control and you have to face the fact that you will never know for sure if her excuses are legit or not. So let it go, set a limit on how much you will tolerate. For me, if a girl flakes 3 times, I'll delete her number and move on. If she is still interested, she would go out of her way to reschedule. If not, cool.

In your case, you should just move on. That was 4 times in a row, she's a timewaster in my opinion, even if she isn't, how do you think it would work if it took that much effort to just hang out with her once? In the long run, it's just too much time and energy consuming for some no string attached sex. Unless you want a relationship with her, then you can stand your ground and take some more beating in order to push forward.
Author:  Fly_Swatter [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
Quote:
Then she tried to call me but I ignored her call because I was playing Battlefield 3, and that was more imported to me at that time.
Lmfao. BF3 saved you.
Author:  daffy duck [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 11:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
maybe she's getting her own back on you for something she perceived you did.

i've noticed girls can be quite vindictive like that.

i'm starting to think that honesty is the best policy rather than all the mind games which leads to insanity. like telling her you've scheduled 3 or more dates all of which she cancelled at the last minute which gives you the idea that she isn't that interested. if she'd like to meet up then by all means give me a call but it will have to be round my place or something.
Author:  Outlaw_nl [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 11:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
Yeah, I was already thinking about cutting her off.
Normaly my max is to set a date for 3 times. The last time she came with the idea so I thought, hmm fine I give it a go!

So right now I'm not going to put any energie in her anymore cause I don't want a relationship with her, just casual sex.

Next time I will play it like you said and see how that turns out!
Author:  0uch [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 12:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl keeps canceling dates.
Here is a story that will help you out.

Met a friend for lunch.
Blah blah...Skipping convo to important part.

Me: What are you doing tonight?
Her: I have date
Me: Oh, was gonna ask to you to come bar hopping tonight but seems like you have plans.
Her: I am down, I can have this guy anytime.

So flakes on him and comes bar hopping. Point is, don't be too available. Of that will happen to you. And mind you, this girl does not know crap about pick up. She flakes for something that came up last minute which was not even that important because that guy was too available
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