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| Author: | GKS [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 12:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to spike her interest again? |
I have been gaming this girl for a while. Met her 5 months ago, banged her couple times. But recently the attraction and her level of interest seems to drop. Is there some way to spike it again? I meant it's a little bit different than getting her interest the first time around since now she already knows who I am and most things about me, etc.. We have been on sort of between a fuck buddies and casual dating. But we both agreed not to go into full blown relationship. She's a fun one, so I'd like to maintain the attraction and keep her around. There are a few things I've noticed that might have killed off the interest which I can fix: 1. I was a bit too available to her. I replied her text within the 10-15 minutes window.We talked quite often, every other day or so. 2. I might have been slacking off on the being unpredictable and push and pull part. This always happens when I get too comfortable with someone. 3. I let small details get to me aka paying too much attention to her. |
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| Author: | VietnameseProdigy [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 5:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
Yeah you figured out the problem... does she ever initiate contact? Freeze her out and act distant, and go get more girls |
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| Author: | GKS [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 7:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
Quote: Yeah you figured out the problem... does she ever initiate contact?
No she still likes me a lot. She initiated every conversation and responded within 5-10 minutes. But she seems to be really busy with her life recently while maintaining all those contacts. I can't help but feeling I'm losing power for being the one who accommodates to her schedule instead of other way around. I know she is still interested but not as peak as before. The passion is fading. That's what I meant.
Freeze her out and act distant, and go get more girls |
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| Author: | AFCToTheMax [ Sat Dec 29, 2012 7:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
Mate, for me you sound like you want a relationship with her although you agreed with her that you won't go into an exclusive relationship with her. She might be seeing other guys and she has the right to. The best thing you can do is to start seeing other girls. That way you will become unavailable naturally. Don't became busy and unavailable because you have to in order to get her interested. Be busy, because you are actually genuinely busy. And if you don't want other girls get hobbies etc. Other option is to tell her you want to become exclusive, but this can backfire especially in this situation since she's loosing interest. |
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| Author: | Pickwick [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 12:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
I think it's pretty natural that she loses interest. You've been having sex and casually dating, but neither wants to tip it over the edge. Where else would the relationship go? Keep having sex and casually dating until you're 80? The potential has peaked and she started seeing that. |
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| Author: | lukeyx [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 12:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
Pickwick is right, yet wrong also. You've got to think, girls never usually think logically, they will never really sum it up and say i want x so i'll do y. Im in a similar situation. Basically with you replying so fast the value you had you literally gave to her, giving her more power between the pair of you. The way you can take it back is by acting more distant, replying to her texts much slower and preselection if she doesn't think that already. I mean you said she likes you and you've already banged, so showing her that you are actually more value will make her want to bang you again. Also, have more girls so you don't end up over thinking this situation. |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 3:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
Quote: Pickwick is right, yet wrong also. You've got to think, girls never usually think logically, they will never really sum it up and say i want x so i'll do y.
Haha so true altho I do find that sometimes girls do on the rare occasion think logically for a month or two then everything gets messed up again. I think its why a girl will act distant for a while then BANGHer: I miss you...can we meet up  xxx
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| Author: | 7000 [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 5:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to spike her interest again? |
I'm with pickwick on this one. If you're casually dating/having casual sex, usually one of two things happen; 1) You start to develop more feelings than just sex and end up dating. 2) You start to lose interest in just having sex with this same partner and drift somewhere else after a while. Often, one partner will feel one and the other partner will feel number two. That's how it goes. Normally, if you're going to develop feelings more than just sex, it happens naturally. You don't need a "where's this going" or "I really like you" type discussion; it's just a natural progression and you both realise that you're falling in love. That doesn't sound like it's happening to me here. Instead, it sounds like she's losing interest. It sounds like there's not much potential for a long term thing. As such, I would go off the radar for a bit, get busy, get other girls. Then if she wants to come back for more casual sex, then lucky you. If she continues to lose her interest in you, then you've got other girls to replace her, so also lucky you! |
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