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| Author: | Iggy413 [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 11:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Attitude Change? |
All right guys. So I've just gotten out of another relationship and I'm thinking about changing my outlook after several bum relationships. I'm twenty years old, a college student, and pretty athletic (I do judo and Jiu-jitsu as rec activities) but I tend to get a little too attached to each girl I've dated. Now, I don't usually go for casual sex, but with my schedule, relationships are almost impossible for me at this point and I'm not really wanting to have anything serious after several let-downs. My problem is, though, I've don't have too much experience just going for casual physical relationships - all the girls I've slept with were my girlfriends - and I'm kinda unsure about how to go about it. I'm a junior at a bigger state school, and I study a lot for my classes in the hopes of getting accepted to Dental School next year. A lot of girls have given me positive feedback on my physical appearance, but it seems to me I'm too nice to really go out and hit it as hard as I probably could. Ever since transferring from my smaller commuter college, I'm sad to say that I haven't been getting nearly as much tail as I did at the small school level and I'm not sure what to do. Maybe this comes from being raised in a primarily female-dominated household - surrounded by sisters and a dragon lady of a mother - so I've been taught a lot to act the perfect gentleman and not have sex with anyone you aren't in love with. Well.. That kinda hasn't been too helpful to me in the past and I really want to my New Years resolution to be just changing that part of me which has really elevated all pretty girls to a pedestal they probably shouldn't be on. For that reason, I figured to go here to PUA and get some bro-advice I haven't had a lot of growing up. Any advice, bros? |
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| Author: | Mr. Marville [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 11:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
Did you ever pick up any girls from the gym/dojo? I've picked up jiu jitsu myself since a year and have done martial arts since I was 13 years old, but never dated a girl from the training. Just never came on my path. I'm raised up like you, "don't make love to a girl you don't have feelings for." As a consequence, I often bring my girls to my parent's house and make love to them there. And I always make them feel that they are my girlfriends. I'm very much a romantic. |
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| Author: | daffy duck [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 12:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
i've had plenty of ons where i dont get emotionally attached, but for some reason when i do get attached, i get attached big time. its a real fucker. if i could tell you how and why i get attached to some and not others i'd be a millionaire. maybe something to think about. |
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| Author: | XBtheMyth [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 12:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
It is pretty simple bro. You have to go out and approach a bunch of chicks. Lets them know your intentions from the start. Then keep yourself from going into boyfriend mode. That means keeping contact to a minimum and not seeing the chick more once a week. You probably mess it up the first few times but it will become easier as you continue to do. |
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| Author: | Iggy413 [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 6:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
Thanks Bros, I'm currently reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss and I think my problem comes from me being way too nice, reserved, and fairly shy. The last two girlfriends I've had happened naturally (personalities just clicked), so I'm assuming there's nothing wrong with my game.. it's just that its not something I've really flicked on or off like a switch. I've dated a few gorgeous girls, but they've all been few and far. I'd like to work on my game to the point where I'm comfortable and I have the gonads to try picking up girls anywhere. Marville, I've never had the opportunity to pick up girls at my dojo since there aren't many girls that I've trained with. That would definitely be a good place to try, though, if the opportunity happens. As person, I had a pretty strict upbringing and had a lot of responsibilities with regards to my sisters and younger little brother (who is autistic). I've really had to work hard to take care of them throughout childhood and I think that kinda made me a very reserved individual with a really serious (and sometimes brooding) personality. I'm not a complete stiff, but I've been told by friends that I come off kinda cold to most people sometimes. Circumstances in life kind of got me into the habit of hiding my real personality (I'm actually pretty generous and nice to kids, women, and friends) behind formalities and cool, tight politeness. What's the best way to do that? I know I should definitely loosen up while I'm still in my twenties, but what do you guys think? How do you break away with inhibitions and just go off and sarge? |
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| Author: | Mr. Marville [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 12:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
Apply for some internship abroad or something. Go to somewhere totally new. Most people would be afraid in such circumstances but since you are a jiu-jitsu expert you can go through everything and don't care about the dangers. Then you will be able to live life to the limits, as I have. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 3:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Attitude Change? |
Yep, just go sargin'. Forget about what you were told in the past. Learn some pick up skills and go apply them in the field. That's all there is to it. Every guy is unique, but all pick up is the same. |
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