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Author:  tvipcarrtel [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 2:19 am ]
Post subject:  Regaining a Fuck Buddy
Okay, this is quite a bit of info so bear with me.

I am a freshman in college, and I met this girl, easily a HB8. Ran some text game on her at the beginning of the semester and after about a month we had sex. The whole time I didn't initiate anything. She kissed me first and everything else.

For the next couple of months we were having sex pretty regularly. But we really clicked in personalities also so we started hanging out a lot too. After a while she started pestering me about why I didn't want to date her. I kept giving her BS reasons. We go on Thanksgiving break and when we come back I finally give in and say we can date. To which see replies that she changed her mind. (Typical woman.)

Now it's almost the new year, we haven't had sex since early November and she's been blowing me off. How do I get her to be my fuck buddy again? So far I've just been freezing her out for about a week now while we're on Winter break. Christmas Day she texted me saying "Merry Christmas! I will always love you. See you soon!" but I feel like I need to rebuild that attraction and bring back old feelings.

Any ideas? They're greatly appreciated. Cheers.
Author:  Mr. Marville [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 7:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
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she started pestering me about why I didn't want to date her. I kept giving her BS reasons. We go on Thanksgiving break and when we come back I finally give in and say we can date. To which see replies that she changed her mind. (Typical woman.)
Amen to that buddy.

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Author:  d749 [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
ive had this same problem. was seeing this girl for a little while just as a hook up and neither of us really wanted anything more, but she didnt think we should do it anymore and wanted to stay friends because we get a long well. it was almost like a break up from not even dating haha it was kind of weird, but i froze her out for about 2-3 weeks and she called me up one night randomly to come over. things were back to normal for about a week but we've stop talking since the winter break started. im not sure how to go about it because i enjoy having her around but the barrier of not wanting anything serious makes it almost awkward for both of us to initiate anything not knowing where it should be going.

i dont think fuck buddies can last forever it eventually has to turn into something or it just fades
Author:  Mr. Marville [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 10:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
This is why women can rule so easily nowadays.

They can hold out a guy from sex and in due time his pride will be broken and he will become a submissive slave to her whims.

When the woman has a liking for sex, she will just approach a guy like you, and have the sex, and then get rid of him again, ignore him like he never had any emotional attachments, leaving him in confusion.
Author:  tvipcarrtel [ Fri Dec 28, 2012 8:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
Yeah. Thanks guys for the input. I decided to just be distant friends with her and move on. If she ever comes back asking for more, I'll consider it but I'm moving on to my next target. Ha. Good luck out there!
Author:  lukeyx [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 1:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
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When the woman has a liking for sex, she will just approach a guy like you, and have the sex, and then get rid of him again, ignore him like he never had any emotional attachments, leaving him in confusion.
i lol'd at this, i have yet to see a girl that will just fuck and leave. I mean i know it happens but a woman to go up to a guy, ask to get laid, fuck and leave is extremely rare.
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After a while she started pestering me about why I didn't want to date her. I kept giving her BS reasons. We go on Thanksgiving break and when we come back I finally give in and say we can date. To which see replies that she changed her mind. (Typical woman.)
This is not a typical woman, this is just a woman. Usually you'll find that a girl will pester till she gets what she wants and once she gets it she'll get bored. The way to go around this is to simply reject to what she wants or ask for something in return. You said no at first and then she pestered you and got it, you lost your value and she became disinterested.
Author:  BITmixit [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 3:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
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i lol'd at this, i have yet to see a girl that will just fuck and leave. I mean i know it happens but a woman to go up to a guy, ask to get laid, fuck and leave is extremely rare.
I find these women all the time even in my AFC days. Its bizarre, even my housemates (the females) have commented that the girls I seem to shag a lot of the time are like this.
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This is not a typical woman, this is just a woman. Usually you'll find that a girl will pester till she gets what she wants and once she gets it she'll get bored. The way to go around this is to simply reject to what she wants or ask for something in return. You said no at first and then she pestered you and got it, you lost your value and she became disinterested.
This makes sense...OP just wondering when you came back from break did it go like this:

Her: We should start dating! come on I keep asking, we'd be good!
You: YEah okay
Her: Actually nah.

Because thats just weird and I would keep clear.

or

You: Hey I had a think over thanksgiving break and I want to start dating.
Her: I changed my mind.

If its the second then its because you lost attraction over thanksgiving. She also most likely would have thought "ah he didn't get with anyone over thanksgiving and wants me more now...time to string along"

Ma 2 cents.
Author:  Mr. Marville [ Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Regaining a Fuck Buddy
Reasoning: "A girl wants A. You reject. Girl pesters, you give in. You lost your value to girl."

I dare to bet the girl doesnt even consider you as a person. She just wants this thing and she doesn't care about how you act about it or not. Your personality is irrelevant for her immediate whim. It is your self-overestimation that makes you think your response will have some sort of lasting impact on her psyche or behaviour. She just goes after what she desires and forgets everything once she has it. If you deny it to her, she will think you are a douche for about 2 seconds then forget about you and ignore you.

Also, going with the general run of the conversation:

Girl wants sex.

You reject = you gain value.

Girl pesters.

You keep rejecting, gaining value.

Now: Either you give in, and thus lose all value . . . Or, you don't give in, and keep your value.

What have you really achieved either way by not laying her immediately?

This line of reasoning just breeds confusion.
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