dont spend your money on her, spend your time with her trying to make it as fun as possible.

I guess everyone uses each other in one way or another however small or large.

just give your time and hapiness and joy and share it to the world
dont give out materialistic things like money and gifts and drinks

heres my stories and tips
http://poypickup.tumblr.com/

You fuck her

Man if you're not gonna help, dont bother replying. du ma.

There really is no concept of a girl "liking you for you". She either likes you for your looks, or your money, or your ability to entertain her. Some girls might like hanging around you because you make them laugh, or maybe they like riding in your car, hanging out with your group of friends, or it could be that they think you'll be able to provide for them financially and they'll get nice things from you and they won't have to work as much.

What I recommend is using your words, instead of your actions, to flush out their true intentions. Don't just stop paying for shit all of a sudden, because that could fuck up your frame/reputation. Instead, drop little hints that the things she is accustomed to will be coming to an end soon. Then judge how she reacts. Tell her a check you were expecting didn't come thru, or a real estate deal didn't close, or you lost a lot of money on a stock trade. Act stressed out about it. This is the time when she should console you. If instead of consoling you she starts asking questions about when you are going to be getting more money again, and doesn't seem the least bit concerned about your emotional well being, then you'll know this girl is just looking for a free ride on your tab. And to be honest, most girls turn into gold diggers once they get with a guy who has money. But test her just to be sure.

How do i NOT spend money on her though? I love to go out and get drinks, dinner.. movie....and again...how do i know if a girl is using me? And how do i know if she actually likes me? what are so IOI's i should look for?

For one thing, I'm not even sure if you're asking us whether she's interested in you sexually, or if she's interested in a LTR. Sexually is pretty easy. You ought to be kissing on the first time out at a minimum. If she'll kiss you, she'll usually fuck you.

If you're asking about LTRs, there are no IOIs for LTRs. IOIs are for sex.

That guy was right you do fuck her. I mean if she is not going to spread her legs and let you hit it then she's using you as a friend and now you're a big dope. I feel sorry for you man. I don't mean this chick is going to fuck you on the first date, but if a month or more rolls by and you haven't gotten so much as a kiss from her while you've been working your ass off doing stuff for her (which is the number one PUA downfall) then it's game over. I mean it's chill if you go out and buy her a drink, but don't keep buying and buying every single drink for this chick that's a total AFC move. I mean what she doesn't have a job, she's a penny pincher, homeless?! What dude?? I'm not even being a troll here I'm just saying "un-sugarcoatedly", sounds like she's what I like to call a "materialistic digger". She's not after just your money, but all the materialistic things. You don't want her to just like the things you use to "buy her". Lesson #1 from me to a fellow PUA as yourself never "try" to "buy" a woman, totally backfires...you're the "Prize", "Trophy" whatever you call it, if anything she should be buying you stuff.

Also think about it man, If she really cares about you, you should take the initial steps to "take each other out" like what I mean by this is, try the "Round Robin Routine - (RRR)" I just made that up, sounds cool right? But nah like one night you'll take her out, then the next it's her turn, then back to you and if she doesn't ever ask you out. That's a very, very good sign she's a "materialistic digger" and I'm sure you can do better, but if you still persist on attempting to swoon this chick then PM me...and I'll guide you through the process that's needed. And I wouldn't even say "I've noticed you never take me out." I'd just stop taking her out and see if she comes around asking you. Or the next time you're out you could be like "You have a job right? haha Can you possibly get the next one? I'm feeling like your dad here haha" And just smile in a sarcastic way. But I'd really do the option one because she might think you're saying that because you got fired or you are running out of money and women love guys who can provide.
Although if you insist on the second one make sure to have build up some great attraction on that "date" or whatever you call it before you drop the bomb.

Should i ever tell a girl i miss her?

Remember no matter what! Always stay confident and on your feet. Don't let her try to sway you and have you all acting sorry you even brought it up. I mean if you really like her you got to get in control of this situation before you're a total AFC (Average Frustrated Chump for those who don't know, but should ). I mean this forum is here to help you and so aren't I. If you PM me...I'll make sure you get the help you need in not only this aspect, but all aspects of your gaming ability. Good luck man!

Jesus how had this thread gotten so big/drama filled. PUAninja, Ive seen you around on these forums giving damn good advice yet you fall for a troll/idiotic post.

To the OP:

She is using you = You are doing favours for her without anything EQUAL in return. If shes using you to get a guy jealous, you use her to make a girl jealous (why multiple gaming is a GOOD idea, girls do it so men DO IT!) If shes using to for money, you randomly switch it around one day and get goods off of her.

she isn't using you = These are the easiest to tell. She will instantly inform you of her intentions and what she wants from you (these are the girls who are up for LTR even if they inform you they aren't, you can tell by how much information they give you and how emotional they get when handing around with you.) If she starts crying/telling you her woes she's up for an LTR as long as you play your cards right i.e. only be sympathetic after sex.