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| Author: | Allanrnelias [ Mon Dec 24, 2012 5:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | It's over now, but should I do this ? |
Its over. It's done. My ex and i have been having problems for the past months, she was starting to get distant. She broke up with me a week ago, and yesterday i found out she is already sleeping with someone else, we all know what that probably means. We dated for two years, i had oneitis. I'm obviously hurt but I don't want her back, but bear with me and see if you can relate. I have this feeling of losing power, of a broken ego. Call me a narcissist if you want. I want to make her regret doing this, and make her regret breaking up with me. I want to have the power to say no to her, and recover my dignity. Should i take action on this feeling ?Why do i feel this way and if so, how do i do it ? Time is not a problem, i have a trip to Brazil in four days and i'm staying a month. Plenty of time for sarging and getting my mind off of her. But when I get back, I want to recover at least my pride back from the two years and much investment down the drain. I appreciate the feedback |
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| Author: | GKS [ Mon Dec 24, 2012 5:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: It's over now, but should I do this ? |
Turn on Let It Be by Beatles. Listen to it. Listen to every word of the lyric. LISTEN to it like a hundred times. Now you have realized that in life, there're things you can't control. LET IT GO. LET IT BE. Don't be consumed by your own obsession. "Not forgiving is like drinking the poison yourself then hope the other person would die" |
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| Author: | TheRedBaron [ Tue Dec 25, 2012 12:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: It's over now, but should I do this ? |
Shit, I'm dealing with the exact same thing... I've found out my ex was screwing around with other guys after nearly ever break-up I've gone through, one fucked up way or another. Just recently, was seeing this girl for 6 months until she left me last week for some other dude (we were FWB and never bothered to clarify we wanted to date each other; miscommunication, partly my fault). It feels like fucking shit to know the girl you've been spending so much time with and laughing and watching movies and sleeping with is now doing that with someone else. I get it; it's like a goddamn pit in your stomach. I'm feeling all the knee-jerk reactions you are. I don't necessarily want her back but I do want to see that she still wants me, and I want that power to reject HER. It's a natural reaction of the ego, which everyone has. Doesn't make you a narcissist. Pick up teaches us that rejection from strangers is nothing... but being rejected by someone you care about is a whole different monster. And in addition to that, finding out that she's accepting other guys is fucking Godzilla. Speaking as someone who's had to deal with this shit 3 different times with 3 different girls, forget about it. the more you dwell on it, the more you poison yourself. Get distracted. Go out with friends, take up a class, learn a skill, whatever. And in any case, unless she actually comes crawling back to you, you won't be able to reject her anyway. Like GKS said, it really is one of those things in life you just have to let go. Hope that helps. Sorry that you have to deal with this shit. I know how the situation feels and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy (ok, I would, but whatever, it still sucks) |
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