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| Author: | sothamptonman [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 12:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Gaming your oneitis |
Hi I'm pretty new to this but I've been slowly but surely learning to game girls over the past few months with some success. I never have any emotional investment in any of the girls that I approach so I find it relatively easy to experiment with routines and techniques without too much fear of rejection (which is just as well as, of course, things don't always go to plan). The reason for the post is that over the past week I seem to have developed a really really bad case of oneitis. She seems relatively keen and we're seeing each other but whenever I'm with her I turn into a complete AFC. She's a popular girl and has plenty of other guys after her so I really need to get everything right if I'm going to turn this into an LTR (something that I wasn't even looking for a couple of weeks ago). I'm so emotionally invested that I only use very low risk techniques but I'm worried that if I keep acting like an AFC then I'm going to lose her anyway. I know that the classic move should be to see other girls at the same time in order to get over my obsession with her but I'm pretty certain that if she ever found out then that would be the end of it - plus I'd feel shitty about it. What's the move in a situation like this? PS: oneitis seems to prompt the body to release a bunch of stupid hormones (oxytocin etc.) that screw you up (anxiety, insomnia etc.) - is there a way to limit the release of these so that you can take a more scientific and methodical approach? |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 1:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Gaming your oneitis |
You are going to have to get over this mindset if you ever want to win this girl. You will have to view girls as disposable. I know it is not what you want to hear in your when you have your rosy shades on but it is the truth. You deserve to be desired by plenty of women and she should feel honored you chose her above the rest. The only way to not fuck up is by being honest that you are seeing other women. Say it is a casual thing and that you are looking for something real and that they all know about it so it doesn't seem like you are keeping secrets from anyone. And you shouldn't suppress your emotions. It is what drives you to be with her. Just let go of the needy motivation behind it and you are golden. You should treat her as if she still has to win your love until you are in a relationship. When you are in a relationship, you should cut the gaming to a minimal and focus on communication. But until then, good luck. Mr. A |
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| Author: | SE23 [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 1:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Gaming your oneitis |
Quote: You are going to have to get over this mindset if you ever want to win this girl. You will have to view girls as disposable. I know it is not what you want to hear in your when you have your rosy shades on but it is the truth. You deserve to be desired by plenty of women and she should feel honored you chose her above the rest. The only way to not fuck up is by being honest that you are seeing other women. Say it is a casual thing and that you are looking for something real and that they all know about it so it doesn't seem like you are keeping secrets from anyone.
Exactly, don't fall into this mindset, that there is only one girl for you, it will set you up for disappointment. As the saying goes, there are plenty of more fish in the sea, and trust me this is very true.
And you shouldn't suppress your emotions. It is what drives you to be with her. Just let go of the needy motivation behind it and you are golden. You should treat her as if she still has to win your love until you are in a relationship. When you are in a relationship, you should cut the gaming to a minimal and focus on communication. But until then, good luck. Mr. A |
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| Author: | sothamptonman [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 1:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Gaming your oneitis |
Hey thanks Mr A. Sound advice; tough, but I guess nothing good comes without a little pain.... Cheers |
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