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| Author: | GKS [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 7:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Is she cheating on me? |
I have no problem with my pickup, however, I'm quite inexperienced when it comes to relationship and long distance ones. So I need some opinion on this matter. My long distance girlfriend has been acting weird lately. In the past month, we texted everyday but haven't really had a chance to talk much or had phone sex. Last weekend she was sick but told me she couldn't talk to me because she had to babysit someone's dog and had to stayed the night. After she got back, we texted for a bit on Monday then she disappeared after 10 pm. Last night we agreed to try to make a phone date and she disappeared again after 10pm. She said she accidentally fell asleep both times. I said okay and tried to set up a phone date tonight. She told me her best friend is back from college and she is spending the night at her place. All of this might be a coincidence and people indeed have their lives and get busy with it but my gut is telling me something is going on. She is still telling me she loves me everyday and do make efforts to stay in touch. She isn't the type to cheat but after being in PUAs field this long, I know all women are capable of such thing. Her level of interest is still rather high, she replies to my text almost immediately or within 5-10 minutes windows. I don't know if I should give her the benefit of doubts or confront her. Or I might just being too needy and paranoid. This might be due to the fact I haven't done approaching for a while and pretty focus my attentions on her alone, also recently lost my job so I have a bit too much time on hand. If it indeed is the truth in this case, how can I fix it? |
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| Author: | gtdave [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 7:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
I hate stuff like this as it always used to make my gut instinct go mental! It could be coincidence or it could be sinister. I'd confront her and just say that you've noticed things have been different recently. Ask her if everything is ok. Tell her how stuff makes you feel. Don't accuse her of anything. Say you miss calling her late at night. Say you miss the sexual interaction. Do all of this camly and from a place of security as this enables you to greater detect her reaction and deduce what it MIGHT mean. Guage her reaction. Does she agree (you still have hope)? Does she get defensive (guilty)? Does she seem to not care (she's lost attraction)? If she gets defensive then call her out on it but do not rise to it! Simply say to her "where did my nice sweet gf go? Talk to me when she comes back as I miss her" then swiftly end the conversation and freeze the fuck out. Further guage her reaction during the freezeout. |
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| Author: | GKS [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 8:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
Oh I did exactly that earlier this morning before she told me about her friend. She didn't get defensive or not to care, but rather agreed it was her fault and said she's so sorry and wanted to make it up for me. From what I can tell and all the IOIs, she's still very interested and invested in me. However, I can't shake this gut feeling. I didn't exactly grow up in a nice country so I've experienced lot of things and know for fact the real world out there is deceitful and cruel. The gut feeling has been my best bud to survive, sometimes it's wrong and backfire, sometimes it's annoying. |
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| Author: | gtdave [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 8:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
Then it's up to you to trust her. However keep your eyes open but try not to read in to every small detail. This is the perfect time to remember one of the most important rules... Don't listen to what she says, listen to what she does! Don't put too much value on her words judge her improvement on her actions. |
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| Author: | Pickwick [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 4:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
Long distance is kind of fucked. Just never seems to work. Whenever anyone asks me anything about it, my general opinion is that those two people should leave everything on good terms and break up. If you're ever physically close again, then it could work out. Nonetheless, if you're sure you can make it work, I'm all for it. Hence I don't know how to fix it, since I've never been in that situation. BUT, the reason I responded was that I hooked up with my ex this past weekend while she was dog sitting. She's also been meeting with her college friends the last two days. Hit me up if this girl is 22. |
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| Author: | GKS [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 5:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
Quote: Long distance is kind of fucked. Just never seems to work. Whenever anyone asks me anything about it, my general opinion is that those two people should leave everything on good terms and break up. If you're ever physically close again, then it could work out. Nonetheless, if you're sure you can make it work, I'm all for it.
It would be really awkward but hilarious if that was true. Unless this girl lied and told me she's 20 instead of 22 and if your ex lives in California with her name starts with C and a tattoo across her chest. Hence I don't know how to fix it, since I've never been in that situation. BUT, the reason I responded was that I hooked up with my ex this past weekend while she was dog sitting. She's also been meeting with her college friends the last two days. Hit me up if this girl is 22. We do have future plan actually. She's visiting in couple weeks and will be moving in with me in 3 months. That was the only reason I agreed to this LDR. I don't usually do long distance. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 6:49 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
Get yourself together. What will thinking about a negative outcome really do for you? Life takes many turns.. Start getting your butt into gear(don't stop meeting women!) and don't lose sight of that solid inner game guy before this girl. Handle your life stresses –in this case losing your job- and focus on releasing the tension from all the mental masturbation that has gone on in your head that has made you ask this question on here. Take care of yourself first. Then you can tackle things with a clearer head. Life will reward you for your zen like approach. |
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| Author: | dark one [ Thu Dec 20, 2012 7:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
I'm going to give you advice that you need to listen to and please take this to heart! Jealousy is like a cancer and you need to snuff it out before it spreads! that or end the relationship...if you honestly can't trust your girl then end it, no matter how hard it is end it because it will be much more difficult if you catch her cheating or she leaves you because you become needy! If you don't have any proof and she has given you no reason to think she would cheat then drop it from your mind, stop your self now! or it will end your relationship, and turn you into something you are not. Without trust and I mean 100% trust you have nothing!...If you let trust issues play with your head you will start doing stupid things, questioning her, stress your self out, it will consume you mentally, and physically. I know this because I stayed with a girl who I thought was cheating...I had no proof but I did some searching and found that she was texting with an ex, I broke up with her but she begged me to take her back. I took her back but it was never the same once that trust was gone! I wasn't my self and she was very selfish! You either trust or there is no relationship |
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| Author: | shydog [ Wed Dec 26, 2012 11:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she cheating on me? |
If you should trust anything then it's your gut. Always trust your gut! |
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