Had this happen to me recently (and I found out about this social world during/right after, aka last week) Posting it here, hope it helps... obviously this is partially related to personal experience, but it shows the general way to do it...the best way IMO.
Her: you ok??
Me: I don't know.
H: what's wrong??
M: I've been thinking about..well a lot of things..but mostly these last couple days what has been going on between us..
M: And I'm not sure what to say or do.
H: like what kind of things??
M: Like that I think you want something more serious than I... I'm looking for something casual, and maybe short-term...idk
M: To be honest, I'm still not sure what I want at this moment. And I do want to be honest with you about it, cause I respect you.
M: I know I dive into things too quickly myself, and I'm afraid that I will do that, and then later will come to realize that I won't be ready for it...I don't know exactly what I'm saying fully...what are your thoughts?
H: Well, first, thank you for being honest with me.
H: I guess I just got too excited... cause I like you a lot... I want something serious someday... that's what I'm used to, I guess... I've never had a casual relationship...
M: I did want to be honest with you, and I only came to find out Weds night what I was thinking, but I M: didn't know exactly what it was, and needed to think on it.
M: To be fair, it's not your fault, you remind me a lot of my ex...which isn't a bad thing at all. Beautiful, funny, dreams, goals...but certain characteristics (not bad ones) clash with how I view a relationship, I learned it the hard way last time, and a way that was painful for both of us, and I don't want to put you through that pain, especially what you've been through this past year.
I've not had a casual relationship either...and not sure if I could have one...one reason why I haven't been doing much dating this last year or two.
M: And what I have done was mostly at a chance for more physical intimacy than emotional, but I haven't been successful in that area either, and that's not a big deal.
H: I haven't dated in at least 3 years... well, really never even before that either I guess...
M: Nods, neither have I...hanging out with someone once is about the extent, you're the first person I've met a second time.
H: I guess that's something we have in common.. we suck at dating... haha
but I was hoping to see you a third time...
M: I wouldn't say I'm bad at it, lol. The ones I have gone on before meeting me ex went well. I was good at first dates, just not good at second dates..
H: well, I thought our second date went well...
M: As for a third time, I know I don't want to lead you on, cause it's more than likely I'll get scared and close away from it all.
M: And typically, that means not giving this talk at all, and just sorta ignoring the girl...
H: well, I appreciate you not ignoring me...
M: Well the advice I got; they told me I had better. lol. And you do deserve it.
H: well, thank you...
H: could we try a casual relationship?? whatever that is...?
H: or we could just be friends & hang out...
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